Escorts are a better deal than 'real' women- I

I have often said, on many other blogs, that using escorts is superior to relationships with ‘real’ women. I will try to summarize my main points starting with this post, the first in this series. Warning: The post has some philosophical content.

You might notice that this post is classified under ‘secular religions’. It stems from my view that the conventional ‘dating-girlfriend-wife’ paradigm is a secular religion. One of the hallmarks of a secular religion is that it requires followers to make sacrifices for concepts such as ‘common good’, ‘future’, ‘upholding ideals’ and ‘no pain no gain’ etc. It is noteworthy that secular religions from capitalism, socialism, nationalism to environmentalism require self-sacrifice from a large number of believers for the common good, but which (in reality) ‘benefit’ only a few.

My question to all believers in relationships with ‘real’ women is thus:

What desirable sensation can a ‘real’ relationship give you that an escort cannot?

Readers might be puzzled by my use of the construct ‘desirable sensation’. To understand my use of that construct, you have to first read my concept of reality. There are two overlapping types of reality, namely: the hard physical (light, heat, electromagnetic radiation, atoms, molecules, gravity etc) and the one our brains makes up (perception-sensation). Have you ever wondered if your brain perceives a blue sky, sandy beach or a red rose, in a manner identical to everyone else? or is your perception of those events uniquely linked to your neuronal wiring and experiences that modify it? How do you know what blue is, what justice is, what someone deserves? Hint: someone else tells you that..

Why would literate and educated Europeans burn people for witchcraft until ~ 300 years ago? How can humans kill other in the name of god, nation, race when they are very often not the beneficiaries of their actions? I can give you many other examples of human behavior that is supposedly rational according to its setting and prevailing belief system, but has no connection to observable and quantifiable ‘hard’ reality.

A lot of what we believe to be reality is a construct of our imagination, created by our brains to justify what supposedly exists, based on the authority of others. The ‘dating-girlfriend-marriage’ paradigm is one such construct.

The whole paradigm is based on certain concepts.

1. Success is measured by how many women are attracted to you (we make the goalposts, and shift them to our liking).
2. It is manly to…. (insert your favorite manipulative idea).
3. Only ‘real’ men do…. (insert your favorite slow suicidal activity).
4. You will not be respected if .. (anything that involves questioning of 1,2 and 3).
5. Do it for.. (insert appeal to kids, evolution etc)

My point is:

What is in it for me?

Humans are mortal, and save some unexpected event will remain so. Your ‘self’ is a result of your peculiar journey though life and, while there are others like you, it is still unique. Your ‘self’ will die with your physical body. Your descendants after a few generations will be nothing like you, if they are still human (or not extinct). Our ability to predict the future is pathetic at best.

So the best way to live is to do what makes ‘you’ happy. I said ‘you’, not your family, friends, coworkers, fuck buddy etc. Life is about making yourself happy, not pandering to the interests of others (beyond that necessary for survival or achieving your goal).

I have much to write, but find that most readers cannot concentrate on articles over 600 words long. So you will have to wait for my upcoming posts.

You can now read Escorts are a better deal than ‘real’ women- II