No Guilt: 3

In a previous post, I mentioned that only social IOUs can stop people from acting in bad faith. This post will explain that concept in more detail.

Many people believe that “entitlements” are a bad idea, except when they receive them. I believe that no society can exist without entitlements, as nothing short of an absolute or functional guarantee of the basics can get people to play nice.

Violating this concept will always result in a dysfunctional, unstable or stagnant society under the best of conditions.

We forget that through almost all of human history, there were enough desperate/needy women who would trade sex for very small amounts of money/food/protection or just plain human contact. Even the poorest and most downtrodden men could get sex as long as they were willing to sleep with whores/older women or destitute women. Even ugly slaves did not lack for sex, as they could find women even more desperate than them. Sure.. STDs and pregnancy were an everpresent threat, but it took effort or living in a very screwed up culture to achieve any degree of celibacy.

Can you say the same thing about contemporary western culture?

Some of you might scoff at the idea of having sex with somebody who is lonely just to make them feel more human. Without being too specific, three women I slept with before 20 would fall into that category. In one case she felt bad for me, in another case we were both lonely and in the third I felt bad for her. While these were not relationships as commonly understood, it felt good and both parties knew what was expected.

The girl I took pity on had a pretty high libido but very mediocre looks, and you could tell from the look in her eyes after each time that she was very thankful for that human contact. I know what my actions did make her life a little more palatable. Was that an undesirable outcome? Similarly, the girl who took pity on me made many of my afternoons memorable and pleasant. The mutually horny girl knew that it would be never more than a physical release and cuddle, but she preferred to get it doggystyle than keep on waiting for mr. right to penetrate her.

OK there was another mutually horny girl (before 20) but in every case, the ‘rules of engagement’ were understood by the participants. In all cases, I knew the girls for years before I had sex with them.

So who lost and who won in these interactions? All I know is that every one of the participants enjoyed it.. and felt better afterwards.

It is not always about wining and losing. Sometimes it is just about cuming, touching, kissing, sucking, smacking, hair pulling and cuddling afterwards. Nobody talked about it afterwards..

Humans have needs, and it is fair to say that contemporary societies (especially western and japanese) are creating many deeply unhappy and unconnected people. If you do not believe me,you have never seen a non-clingy fat girls face light up after getting a good pounding (on her back, legs pushed up to her shoulders *S*).

But it can never happen in a society that pedestals women and discriminates against men.