How Men Shortchange Themselves: 1
I was reading a post on the concept of sexual peak. The article and comments on it, reminded me of something that I have preached for a long time.
Most men shortchange themselves all the time.
Before going into the reasons behind such self-destructive behavior, let me enumerate the ways men fuck themselves.
1] Working hard, dangerous jobs and stressing themselves.
Seriously, who or what are you killing yourself for? Is it even worth it or still relevant? In the past, people lived a precarious and unstable existence in tribes, villages, small towns and your willingness to work yourself to death was rewarded with something. In the world we live in, working yourself to an early death is unrewarded and the mark of suckers who bought the Calvinist Koolaid.
2] Listening to women and valuing their beliefs.
Are you that stupid? Why should you care about anything a woman says? What is in it for you? Trying to appeal to women or caring about their beliefs was always a bad idea. Don’t do it! Everything that a woman tries to tell you or makes you believe is to further her agenda at your loss.
3] Not caring about your physical wellbeing.
Once again, utilize every single real advance in medicine for your own benefit. But learn to distinguish the hype and fakery from measurable reality. I will write about this in detail in the next part of this series.
4] Live on your own terms and enjoy it.
Don’t waste your life living for others, or pleasing them. Enjoy your life as you see fit, and do what you want (or close to it). Be interested in your life and do what YOU want. Don’t let yourself be held back by public ridicule or concerns about your status. You are never too old to do anything you can do.
Don’t be afraid of learning new things and exploring the world.
Ever wondered why innovators in areas from science, arts, war, have always been functionally single or gay men?
Heterosexual innovators are almost without exception one of the following types- young and single (many.. many), single virgins (Issac Newton, Christian Huygens), single widowed (Anton van Leeuwenhoek, Alois Alzheimer, Thomas Jefferson, Andrew Jackson), single by choice (Adam Smith, Beethoven, Voltaire, Wright Brothers), promiscuous rouges (Benjamin Franklin, Albert Einstein, Erwin Schrödinger, Julius Caesar), men with unusual sexual practices (Mozart, Rousseau), men with dysfunctional wives (Oppenheimer) or men with very traditional supporting wives (Max plank, Ernst Mach, Werner Von Braun). Only men who could truly focus on their inner world have lived what most of us would see as truly worthwhile lives.
Creativity in men often died by 30 because most of them USED TO BE married by that age. After getting the wife and kids package, they became slaves to the needs, wants and drama of their family and stopped following their true calling.
Most married men have always been tools! Don’t join their ranks.
Comments?
Have you read this?
http://www.newenglishreview.org/custpage.cfm/frm/22098/sec_id/22098
I have just starting reading your blog. I found you through a comment that you left on RooshV. I have to tell you, I really enjoy reading your work. I think I click with your concepts even more than Roosh. Keep up the good work!
Great work, and so true. How many married men can sit and around reading and thinking? Their women insist on attention being paid – which always means watching low-brow TV shows like “Friends,” and “romantic comedies.”
No man can achieve his potential if distracted by a woman. They are emotional and spiritual parasites who contribute nothing to knowledge.
Even my own mother seeks to suck the life out of me, insisting that I call and e-mail her more often – and throwing tantrums when I do not. She and I have nothing interesting to discuss. Yet she insists on my giving her hours of my week. I do not, but she nevertheless creates drama – “asking” my father why I do not love her.
The woman currently in my life (I’m working on it) insists that I pay more attention to her. I say, “Make yourself more interesting. My books don’t demand my attention. Instead, by being interesting, they attract women.”
Women do not attract attention, they demand it. If my woman would come downstairs wearing sexy underwear, I’d pay her attention. If she’d read the same books I read, I’d talk to her about the books. Yet when I proposed an informal “book club” (we’d read, say, the same book for a month and then discuss it between the two of us), she balked.
My married friends have all reported similar outcomes.
Women are inherent narcissists who believe that they are goddesses and must be catered to on their terms. They will not change for their men, or make themselves more appealing.
I have no inherent hatred for women. If women would read more (how often do you see women in the science or philosophy sections at the book store), I’d gladly discuss ideas. Yet women are uninterested in ideas.
Women are instead interested only in themselves.
They are truly pathological, and being female should be classified as a mental disorder under the DSM-IV.
Jordan: Agreed. I found this site several weeks ago after D.A. left a comment at Roissy.
This is groundbreaking work. D.A. is articulating a philosophy many of us share, but he has put that philosophy to words in a way I was never able to.
It is unusual for me to feel part of something. Yet there is greatness in this site, and stopping by feels like walking into an intellectual salon.
“Never, never marry, my dear fellow! That’s my advice: never marry till you can say to yourself that you have done all you are capable of, and until you have ceased to love the woman of your choice and have seen her plainly as she is, or else you will make a cruel and irrevocable mistake. Marry when you are old and good for nothing- or all that is good and noble in you will be lost. It will all be wasted on trifles. Yes! Yes! Yes! Don’t look at me with such surprise. If you marry expecting anything from yourself in the future, you will feel at every step that for you all is ended, all is closed except the drawing room, where you will be ranged side by side with a court lackey and an idiot!… But what’s the good?…”
“Bonaparte when he worked went step by step toward his goal. He was free, he had nothing but his aim to consider, and he reached it. But tie yourself up with a woman and, like a chained convict, you lose all freedom! And all you have of hope and strength merely weighs you down and torments you with regret.”
War and Peace, Chapter VII
@ Tolstoy, great quote.
i keep running into advice like this from dudes far wiser than myself.
Also all great spiritual teachers were / are not married or left their wives. The Buddha, Jesus, Ramana Maharshi etc.
Very good list.
Especially 2 & 3 are very big pitfalls one just can´t manage to avoid.
Takes a lifetime to crawl back out of these pits and truly embrace 4.
Though I don´t believe true creativity is not re-discoverable for “the old” like me.
It is our birthright, for the system has to work constantly and at peak efficiency to keep Man down.
We on the other hand have to break free only once to, if not break, but weaken the spell decisively. Thus allowing for more and easier re-discoveries/awakenings.
As it says in one of my favorite SF novels: “The sleeper awakens!”
Though every awakening is preceded by mumbling, grunting and a snort of two. Maybe even a juicy fart.
Disagree with number 2- i think its important to be open-minded to some opinions, or at least ponder over them. it’s pretty arrogant just to reject an opinion out the gate. women see things differently (which is probably where your maxim comes from), however, it might be worth considering…
VERY wrong JH.
2 is actually the most important one, as women are the most easily brainwashed creatures on the planet. Every single one of them follows the general consensus beamed into their brains directly out of the boob tube or what everybody(ie. other girls) say.
Fuck, even the bible explains it right in the beginning!
Giving two craps about the opinions of a woman is a sure recipe for disaster. In fact if you want to find out what not to do, aka what the herd/pod people do, just ask any woman.