Why I Started Using Escorts

For reasons of privacy, I will not answer questions or provide any more details about my journey to the dark side.

There was a time, long ago, when I would have laughed at the idea of paying for sex. I might have even found the idea pathetic and defeatist, but that is before a series of events changed my life.

Unlike many of you, I never had an exalted view of women. My formative years were spent in a culture that had a healthy amount of disrespect for women, and the behavior of my older female cousins did not improve my view of women.

My expectations were therefore quite basic: essentially a series of relationships through which I could find someone who liked sex and was not a backstabbing bitch. See, it was that simple! I was not expecting total compatibility or everlasting love, just reasonable compatibility and some love.

However I quickly realized that women date men for the sole purpose of impressing or outdoing their girlfriends. It just happens that I realized it in my teens, unlike many of you. While I had some success in my environment, the amount of effort and BS necessary to get into a girls panties was a bit too much for me, even then. But I had no other option then..

Time moved on, I went to university and ended up in a dorm like environment for 3 years. This is where I started to slip into the dark side. The problem was that inspite of a large number of available women, who frequently were alone, it was hard to score. The key word is hard, not impossible. I had some fun, but the attitudes I experienced changed my opinion on women forever. I found it very hard to trust women after that..

After that degree, I had trouble finding a decent job. It is this span of about 2.5 years that pushed me over the edge. Until then, I could at least score some mediocre or subpar pussy to keep me going. But the combination of almost not having a job top barely having a job for almost a year, destroyed that possibility. There was a period of about 1.5 years when I was miserable, and the lack of human company made me misanthropic. It is then that I started paying semi-homeless women and runaway girls to.. you know. My initial plan was to use this mode to tide through adversity. I was wrong..

I realized that the quality of sex with even poorly paid semi-pros was often just as good as my more mediocre experiences. As long as you took some basic safety precautions and thought with your head, it was not too bad a deal. However the ease and cost of getting mediocre sex affected my whole approach to women. I could no longer justify the BS, insults, tests and lies necessary for getting mediocre sex. As my financial situation improved, I just kept upgrading till I stopped using semi-pros altogether, and have stuck to pros ever since.

It is not as if I never tried to chase women after that, but the amount of effort to get a decent looking girl was just too much. I also realized that the only thing that a woman could give me was sex. Companionship, fidelity, support, love etc were just myths, that women talk about but do not follow up on.

There is another reason that I never went back to relationships: freedom. You see, buying decent to good sex from better than average looking gals removes the fear of not having sex. You no longer have to take crap for 23 hours for one fun filled hour. You can eat as you please, surf as you please, dress as you please and live as you want to. It is hard to appreciate that freedom until you have been there.

It is not that I never feel lonely or wish female company other than sex, but I know that the strings they come with are not worth it. Plus in which relationship can you bang a slim green-eyed black girl on monday and a hot east-european blond on friday.. and then have a intense experience with a flaky but skilled pro next weekend? Sometimes I like Italian.. or maybe Spanish.

And yes, the hobby is not cheap if you are using pros. But it beats paying alimony, child support or the shopping bills of an LTR, and I can have it when I want it!

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86 Responses to Why I Started Using Escorts

  1. luvsic says:

    There’s still quite a bit of shaming/stigmatization towards men who pay for sex …

    however, from the glut of girls working ‘reality’ porn I see, and the borderline john/prostitute dynamic between a lot of guys/girls in the club scene, I would expect more of a trend in this direction
    ________
    Yes, people consider guys who pay 200-300$/hr for a 7-8 a loser. Never mind that said girl can blow you twice for 15 minutes each time and ride you in multiple positions.

    However living in a dysfunctional relationship with poor sex, cheating, BS is manly as is paying alimony and child support. I just find it amusing..

    • Bill says:

      Just don’t tell anyone that you are seeing an escort. It is none of their business. If they ask why you don’t have a girlfriend just tell them that you always get rejected (that’s what I always said and they left me alone). I have found that no one really cares about your personal life (people only care about money if you want to know the truth) so if you don’t bring it up, they won’t care.Some guys have longer relations with a favorite escort than many guys have with girlfriends. A girlfriend will say she loves you in April and dump you in May. There is nothing steady about a girlfriend.

  2. Jack says:

    Good logic EXCEPT you do not need to use pros and should not WANT to because of diseases like HPV and herpes. College coeds can be convinced to, for instance, start taking money from you to watch you CFNM, and then expand what they will do after that (handjob through a sheet – dry humping for $300, etc). If you use a pro, make it a stripper whom you convince to dabble in dry humping at your home after paying for a $200 dinner at a nice restaurant. Then, if she shows that she isn’t experienced at giving actual intercourse for money (evidence that she might have a disease), then you can ask her to make an exception for you on that score if YOU are still interested.
    ___
    It is pros who get themselves checked and religiously practice safe sex, semi-pros are variable in that respect. Over 50% of ‘normal’ women have HPV and about 30% have Herpes. Where are you going to escape?

    Escort agency gals and well reviewed indies are the best!

    • Bill says:

      Jack, escorts see guys who have good jobs and can afford to pay $300 per hour. Frankly, they see a much more affluent class of men than regular girls. When I lived in Los Angelese I saw a lot of girls dating ex-cons, thugs and gang members.

  3. Gorilla says:

    Lol, Jack, what’s with all the “dry humping?”

  4. Jack says:

    It is true that a lot of the amateurs (coeds you can convince to go to bed for money) can be more dangerous than pros in terms of herpes or HPV…but you need a good eye and common sense in both cases and, in the end, go with what is most attractive to you and seemingly more clean (never use a pro in the absence of hot running water which is where the Amsterdam Red Light District needed to be closed).
    That said, I prefer those amateurs who take care of themselves because I tend to find better looking women among them.

    My experience is that it is better to date 18-24 year old college coeds who live in a non-feminist society where women outnumber men and who cannot expect you to commit so soon and see them every night of the week. You save more money that way on all fronts.

    Dry humping an 18 year old 10 is better than sex with a 25 year old 8. Dry humping is when the man is undressed totally and the woman still has panties on (if she is good enough looking, it is better than full sex with someone slightly less good looking). It favors the male because he can always have full sex the next time if she likes him, but he may not like her enough for that and he just saved himself from wondering if she had HPV or not.

    It is very hard to find a good looking pro. In many countries, it is now highly illegal (feminist governments seriously arresting people as in the Ukraine) and, in Turkey, they parade gorgeous women before you and then rob you of $400 for some bananas and dates they put on the table in front of you (leaving you with no money to actually buy sex even if you fight your way down to owing much less to the criminals who run all the joints).

    No way would I ever order sight unseen from an agency that ‘says” it has cute women. You have to be able to meet and talk to someone before being able to make the decision to agree to pay for something. The essence of a total beta male is someone who would agree to have sex with a woman who just arrived from an agency whom he wouldn’t want to have sex with if she was someone he just met at a bar.

    If you do go the agency route (sight unseen route), cut your losses if someone arrives whom you wouldn’t try to seduce if you met her beforehand in person. The worst thing you can do is try to rationalize to yourself that you “already paid” so you might as well do something you would not do if you had seen her beforehand.

  5. Jack says:

    In Istanbul, for instance, go to the White Elephant District and agree firmly beforehand at the best joint that you will only pay $150 for the stupid platter of dates and bananas the criminal assholes put in front of you (instead of being honest and letting you pay $150 extra to them + $150 to the woman which is what the deal really is). BTW, there is little “human trafficking” doing on there. The women all have cell phones and know what they are doing.

    Also…you guys need to be less into trying to convince men to use prostitutes (you don’t need to convince men on that) and more into organizing men to fight the deranged “Human Trafficking” laws that are calling all prostitution slavery and which got the IMBRA law passed calling all foreign women prostitutes as in “mail order brides”. IMBRA took away the right of men to say hello to women online and it still has not been challenged.

    Men who like pros can say “So what – I don’t want to meet a marriage minded woman”. But keep in mind that half the women on those sites are prostitutes and, thus, IMBRA has destroyed an entire part of that industry.

    Are you OK with the trend in the USA to arrest men for being johns? This results from a Christian-Feminist alliance that involves both the Democrats and Republicans while the Libertarian Party is run by people who hate prostitution as well.

    Why don’t you exhort men to start Twitter and Facebook accounts and follow a ton of Republicans and let them know that the GOP cannot win the male vote if it does not fight feminism and the BS about prostitutes being sex slaves and human trafficking victims. The Republicans must stop acting like strip joints are against family values and stand up for small government and individual liberties.

  6. Xamuel says:

    “In many countries, it is now highly illegal (feminist governments seriously arresting people as in the Ukraine)”

    One thing I can’t understand about illegalizing prostitution is, how does that make sense when producing porn is legal? It’s illegal to pay a woman for sex, UNLESS you’re filming it and planning to put it on the internet? does not compute

  7. Jon says:

    I wouldn’t worry about anything illegal. You can go to Nevada and most prostitution is legal there.
    —-
    Nevada is overpriced.

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  9. WhatDoYOuGet? says:

    Mass sexual frustration globally will lead to ww3, bet on it

  10. Sandi says:

    Let me begin with that i am no bimbo! I teach Corporate Law at a leading University. Prostitution can be very rewarding financially under the right conditions. If not for my years as a Hi Class Call Girl for a Elite Call Girl Service i would never have been able to get a college education. The money was excellent & as a rule the sex mostly was very good as well. Most of the men i met were nice gentlemen whom were very polite. Naturially there are exceptions to the rule but for the 8 years that i was a Call Girl i had less than 10 men who were rude or somewhat kinky. I personally feel that prostitution should be legalized so that all prostitutes can work under the same conditions that i did. Additionally the tax revenue would be tremendous in addition to being able to monitor the industry health wise & the girls would be working in a much safer environment other than thru a pimp or being on the street. In my opinion there is definitely a place in our society for legalized prostitution so to decriminalize it as well as providing a avenue for women to have a way to better themselves in later years with a more mainstream profession.

    Agree on legalizing it and making it safer for BOTH escorts and their clients.

  11. lucky says:

    was it you dissention who writes”women never grow mentally after high school” christ, that is a comment , speaks volumes about you, how do we know you aint a fantasist, do you have photos sugar of these escorts,

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  15. P Ray says:

    Average men are always paying for it in one way or another.
    So you are always seeing an “escort”, the only difference is whether she has that as her job description or not.
    When you pay, you can complete/end/finish the transaction.
    When you get it for free … what’s the phrase “’til death do us part”.

    • Bill says:

      I agree. Since 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men, millions of guys are left out in the cold. What’s wrong with escorts? The guy wins because he has some fun. The women should be delighted because the “creepy” men that they would reject anyway are not approaching them.

  16. Buminacan says:

    Speaking from an escort’s point of view, the vast majority of the guys who use escort services are either married men who can’t get sex from their wives, businessmen who don’t have time to go out and get laid (those are usually the hot ones that are a treat for us escorts) and then there are the sad, ugly, fat old and generally repellant ones that call services because they would have no chance of seeing any woman naked otherwise. Those are usually the ones who try to take pictures of you or take the condom off without you noticing, and get mad when you won’t give them a bareback blowjob because you don’t want to get an std. Those are the really nasty ones that make my job hard. But there are a lot of nice, good looking guys that call services who really just don’t want to deal with drama. I’ve had regular appointments with a pro soccer player, a close friend of Ryan seacrest, and a multi millionaire who tipped me 500 dollars.

    • P Ray says:

      I sure hope you don’t conflate nice with “good looking”.
      Giving great treatment to people, usually results in them being nice back.
      And guys with more options get a lot of leeway for the behaviour average men would be pilloried for.

      • Tenet says:

        Sounds like you didn’t want to hear what she had to say about the third category of customers there, P Ray.

      • P Ray says:

        I have no problem hearing what women have to say about men.
        But I do believe that they allow looks to influence them more than they say. And … they do ignore their own looks biases.
        You assume plenty there …

    • Bill says:

      Good post. I’m sorry you have some bad clients.I don’t see any problem with men seeing escorts. One nice thing about an escort is that you can confide in her in areas such as insecurities, worry etc. You can’t do this with a girlfriend. Guys who can pay $300 an hour for an escort tend to treat her well and everyone wins. The guy wins, the escort wins and the girls who would have rejected him win because he isn’t bothering them anymore.

      • Mr. Odessa says:

        …or the girls would would have rejected him loses – either because his standards are higher to where he can’t see mediocre chicks the same, or they lose because they crawl back to him after they’ve been pumped and dumped. Mediocre chicks lose and this is why I’ve heard them and their “empowered” ilk say alt-lifestyles and strip clubs should somehow be “boycotted” or “abolished’. Because it makes it hard for THEM.

      • Bill says:

        Thanks Mr. Odessa. I guess the only problem with escorts is that you don’t get the adrenalin rush that you get when a girl is attracted to you. The problem is that women frequently change theri minds and the thrill is gone. It’s like a roller coaster ride. The other advantage of escorts is variety. I am white but like Asian girls, white girls and black girls.If you have the bucks you can get what you want, when you want. Finally, the BEST thing about escorts is that they will never say “Let’s Just Be Friends” I always hated those words.

      • Bill says:

        My second response. I did not realize women were going after strip clubs and alt life styles. Good luck at shutting that down. With strip clubs I say avoid the high end ones and go to more average ones. Tip well and sometimes the girls will see you after their shift. I found that if you treat working girls well (tip well, be nice to them) they are actually much nicer than “regular” girls. Regular girls , I have found to be cruel and nasty.

      • Mr. Odessa says:

        Bill,

        There’s no actual “movement”, but I have heard rhetoric from chicks saying if they had it their way, they would be shut down. I’ve written a blog here about how women cannot invade male-centric avenues, however, they can get other “men” to do their “work” for them…

        https://homeiswherethehateis.wordpress.com/2014/12/01/women-cant-invade-male-centric-avenues/

        There are 2 pathetic books written by two guys brainwashed by “The Disney Myth” and feminism – such as “Don’t Blame It On Rio” and “The Johns” (someone mentioned the latter book in a comment on one of the topics in this blog). But yes, “regular” girls may be cruel to people who they don’t like – For me, the cruel and disrespectful side of them never got hold of me upon leaving high school. As I reached deeper into my 20s, I realized how flaky they are, even if they were gyrating at me or other guys.

        Once you observe the two-faced tendencies of women and explore the tangled mess called feminine psychology, they no longer become appealing for anything other than sex in nature. But then again, once you take sex away, they become useless (with the exception of the women in your family).

      • Bill says:

        Mr Odessa, I gave up on women when I turned 30. I was living in the Los Angeles area. I had a secure well paying job and my own home in a nice, safe area. Couldn’t get a date. Then I looked around and guys who had served time in jail had all the women they wanted and I never saw an ugly one. When I saw that I could not compete with a paroled felon I said, it’s all over. Don’t even waste another minute. I understand that women can select whoever they want, but when you can’t compete with an ex-con, there is no point in trying.

      • Bill says:

        What is so tough to take with women is all the drama-the moods, the temper tantrums, flkaing out on dates, you never know what they think etc. I see that the bad boy is a perfect match for these women. He jerks her around the same way she jerks decent guys around. Strippers and escorts are so much easier to deal with. They are not going to dump you becuase she don’t have confience. Your confidence is in your billfold.I had a great time once at a strip club in the DC/Baltimore area. I was at the bar talking to this attractive dancer. She asked if I wanted to go into the VIP section. I asked how much does that cost. It was $60 for a large drink. We went into the back and sat on one of the couches. I have a foot fetish and asked if I could massage her feet. she said, sure, go ahead. She wasn’t wearing stockings. I took off her shoes and massaged for feet for about 15 seconds. Then I started to suck her toes. Her toes were sweaty and tasted so good….Many girls love having their toes sucked. She used her bare feet to press me back against the couch arm rest and placed her left foot on my chest. I took her foot in my hand and shoved her warm, sweaty toes into my mouth. After about 10 minutes I switched to her right foot and cleaned off all the sweat.. After a few more minutes she leaned back and said “I feel like a rag doll.” Then she became talkative and friendly. I wasn’t talking because I still had her toes in my mouth. This went on for about 20-25 minutes (I lost track). It was her turn to dance so she finished her drink. She stopped at a table with a bunch of guys and said (exact words), “I love this guy. He just sucked my toes and it felt so good.” Bottom line: I had a great time for $60 and still remember it. I licked every bit of sweat from between her soft toes. No games, no drama, no time wasted and got young hot woman with beautful feet…..She enjoyed it, I loved every minute of it…win…win.

        A guy would spend hundreds of hours trying to get a date with a hot woman like this and maybe not have any physical contact until date 2 or 3 if he got that far.

  17. PKC says:

    I find sex once a year with the right Escort stops me fretting. To quote Woody Allen… It’s true that sex without love is a shallow meaningless experience but as shallow meaningless experiences go… It’s quite good.

    • Bill says:

      I agree. I don’t see why women freak out when guys see escorts. These are the same guys that they would reject out of hand. It says something about women. Another nice thing about escorts–you can confide in them and many of them are quite nice–nicer than regular girls in many cases.

      • Chelsea says:

        Yes! This is what I loved about being an escort, the guys felt free to talk to me because I wouldn’t gossip about them or give them drama. I was just there to listen and give to them, and they could indulge without feeling self conscious or worried. They could just let go. And because of my anonymity, so could I. It’s very freeing for both parties involved.

      • Bill says:

        I agree Chelsea. I have actually had more pleasant relations with escorts than with most girlfriends. With a girlfriend if you confess the least insecurity or are less than perfect you are thrown in the trash. By the way, I have a foot fetish and the girls I saw were glad to see me come back. They said they loved having thier toes sucked.

      • Bill says:

        Chelsea, the latest thing they have in big cities like New York are Foot Fetish parties. For guys like me that love feet this is great. Foot Fetish is totally legal so they can do it at a club. I have also sucked girls toes in strip cubs but they usually want you to go to the VIP room and pay the higher charge. Once in San Antonio I went to a strip club and befriended a tall blonde girl…one night she was wearing tight shoes and I sucked her hot, sweaty toes…that was great….her toes tasted so good….

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  19. Lucifer says:

    You got the game all fucked up bro you dont have to pay for pussy or put up with a bitches shit to get some. Think about relationships more and you will figure out the answer

    • thepinch says:

      Oh Lucifer, you sound like an idiot. Seriously. Drop the Ali G and speak English. That might just give you a chance at getting your knob polished.

  20. Mikey says:

    If you CANNOT get a woman, as I can’t, then other than comitting rape, how does one have sex? Some men just CANNOT get a woman. I also find the idea of putting up with female BS in order to get sex is a fucking joke.

    • Bill says:

      You are 100% correct.When I was younger and living in Washington DC area I could not get a date I would go 60 miles up to Baltimore and spend time with strippers and escorts many of whom were actually nice people ( a lot nicer than DC girls). I didn’t care what people thought..Don’t worry about what people think. Most “regular” girls are so stuck up that only the Alpha males, thugs and bad boys can have them. There is nothing wrong with you. It’s a messed up world and you need to seek female company where you can find it.

    • P Ray says:

      Get it from another country, or check out the hotels.
      Not all the women lounging around there are guests or waiting for someone to turn up, some are actually earning a living there.

  21. Anonymous dude1990 says:

    I live in England United Kingdom where having said that I contacted this Romaninan escort last night where I was quoted £160 for two hours, it is now half past eight the next morning overhere and I’m already experiencing a whole rush of different thoughts about what I’m just about to go through with but mind you I haven’t had a girlfriend yet alone been intimate with a girl for a very long time so I had to ring around a bit last night in order to find the right girl that would help me to have a good time you see.

  22. Chuck Hurst says:

    Scoring with escorts is the shit. I love it, do it every chance I get. I’m married to a real sack of potatoes and haven’t had any from her since the last one was born 8 years ago. Fuck getting married, especially to a mulatto.

    I only see trannys though as I am exploring a different side of the coin, but whatever floats the boat, right? Tranny sex is fucking mind blowing and I’ve worked myself up to mutual BJs and rimming. I do CIM as well and have found I really enjoy the taste. Next step is a 3 way, just working on getting my nerve up. I’m hoping I can do a double anal; that looks so hot and I’ve heard the sensation is like no other.

    Chuck Hurst
    Pasadena MD

  23. Kerry says:

    I am in my early 50’s,divorced and women my age do nothing for me. Started using escorts 4 months ago and I find the pursuit (researching the girls) almost as much fun as the actual sex. And believe me the sex (especially oral) is better than I ever received from girlriends/2 wives.Some of these girls are just flat out nymphos who don’t care that I am over 20 years older than they are. Hell, I have seen one cutie 4 times and I am twice her age….

  24. thepinch says:

    I am 48 year old and female. I have led a full and interesting life, and have been very successful. I am a model, and an art dealer. And now I am becoming a very successful international Courtesan.

    Some people might find a Courtesan of my age amusing. Actually, it’s beneficial. In many ways I am dealing with the same issues that the men are, and I intend to live my life with passion. It’s sex, yes. It’s also companionship, fun, and freedom.

    I am highly educated, and have interfaced with dozens of luminaries, celebrities, and politicians. And you can say that this vintage model has a very big engine under the hood. I really enjoy good sex.

    I also like saying goodbye. I would rather be free to travel the world, enjoying my lovers, and living a full, happy, and sexy life, thank you.

    You only live once. I you think my fees are high, imagine what another divorce will set you back.

    Cheers,

    Ann Gallerie

    48-year old escorts are an oxymoron. Only an idiot will pay for an escort who is, or looks, older than 35.

    • Joseph says:

      The guy who thinks 48-y.o. escorts is an oxymoron, has clearly not researched the matter. The main thing for many men is the attitude and behavior, not the age or even the looks.

  25. vampyreoftimeandmemory@hotmail.com says:

    I’m a 27 year old athletic good looking dude who’s had about 15 lays the old fashioned way. Not bad, but, started seeing escorts recently and it’s a whole new world. The sex in my last relationship was amazing, the girl had sleeves and blue hair and oh my god that tight v, but when we broke up I found myself clinging on and making excuses just to keep the sex. Repeatedly going back to someone you love who treats you like shit is abusive to yourself, it destroys your self image. After some time on the rebound I would hit up girl friends and mutual acquaintances, not all of whom where my type, just to have sex and regain that feeling. I’ve probably destroyed a few of those just to get my rocks off, and I’m not proud of that.

    In my view seeing escorts assists me in dating. I don’t start pursing a girl thinking, “Holy shit I haven’t been laid in awhile, I have to fuck!” I can go after someone I actually like and put the leg work in, knowing that if it doesn’t work out I can get some no problem. And if it does, I’ve had my fun and am genuinely committed to that relationship. But as a single man in my twenties this comes as natural to me as going to the doctor or bring the car in for service, it’s maintenance to better your life. Having sex for money is the world’s oldest profession, it’s only illegal and demonized here because of the same nuts who say you can’t use contraceptives or have an early term abortion. But guess what, a lot of those family first politicians might bump shoulders with you in a hotel lobby.

  26. nice guy says:

    So, I totally agree with you and I have the same experience myself. It is not easy for everyone to find a match, and people who already have one, probably don’t know how hard it is for others simply because they don’t feel it. I have been single for almost my entire life; can’t understand why. It could be something wrong with me, or just unlucky to always be in the wrong place at the wrong time. What other options do I have to satisfy my “animalistic” needs without causing hurt to anyone?! Can any man here dare to pretend that sex is not important? I see comments from dudes who have partners they sleep with daily just judging people who use escort services! Can you, just for one week, stop having sex with your partner? Not even touching or talking, how long can you survive dude? Would you be able to do that for months if not years?

    • Bill says:

      There is nothing wrong with you. Women’s standards are so impossible high that millions of guys are left in the cold. I have actually found strippers and escorts to be nicer than many regular girls today who, quite frankly are mean and nasty. Enjoy yourself and don’t worry about what people think.

  27. Bill says:

    Strippers can always use a few bucks after their shift. Don’t buy services in the bar, find a way to meet them after work. Services in their club are grossly overpriced.

  28. Bill says:

    Men , from college students to important people, often get into trouble with women. Strippers and escorts, if selected properly keep you out of trouble. Dating college co-eds is TOTALLY out of the question and dating in general is too risky. A false rape accusation will cost $50,000 in legal fees and you may NOT clear your name. Now they have escorts who offer Girlfriend experience (GFE). By the way, there is nothing “steady” about a regular girfriend. She will dump you in a heartbeat as soon as an exciting bad boy comes along and she decides you are “boring.”

    • Mr. Odessa says:

      You bring up good points. Note also, if a guy is bisexual, he can choose “sissies” too. But I know a lot of guys won’t go for that. In regards to strippers, it’s best to see them after work or on an off day. Not only is it overpriced, but there are random visits from “vice squad” as well.

      • Bill says:

        Mr. Odessa, I am only interested in women. You are right, the clubs are way overpriced. There is a regular bar in Baltimore near many strip clubs where the girls go after their shift.

      • Mr. Odessa says:

        Yes, but I’m aware of some guys being bisexual. I just brought up the fact that just like escorts and strippers, even sissies or bottom boys are less drama and less costly than dating, LTRs and marriages – which is collectively a waste of time. I’ve been studying the phenomena of bi masculine guys who like “punks” AND women and “straight” guys living on the DL – that is becoming rampant.

        Based on my experience and observation, particularly in my neck of the woods, a night at the strip club is not only costly, but it’s too open, you know… Not to mention valet parking, drink minimums, coat checks, cover charge, etc… Not as obscene as lame-ass places like Las Vegas, but it is real costly.

      • Bill says:

        Mr. Odessa, the high end strip clubs are a waste. The girls may be 9’s and 10’s but it is “look but don’t touch.” I used to go to the out of the way clubs that were more local and never got overcharged. I have had reasonably priced fun on Bourbon St, New Orleans but recently it has been steep..I guess the tourist business has come back.

      • St-O-ner with a b-O-ner up his ass says:

        “Note also, if a guy is bisexual, he can choose “sissies” too. But I know a lot of guys won’t go for that.”

        “I’ve been studying the phenomena of bi masculine guys who like “punks” AND women and “straight” guys living on the DL – that is becoming rampant.”

        Mr. O-dessa,

        Are you also a batty man like me?

      • Mr. Odessa says:

        Dude, who is this Mr. Pregnant piece of trash you keep posting on your comments? I can’t bear looking at such stupid shit… *SHUDDERS*

    • Mr. Odessa says:

      Men, from college students to important people, often get into trouble with women. Strippers and escorts, if selected properly keep you out of trouble. Dating college co-eds is TOTALLY out of the question and dating in general is too risky. A false rape accusation will cost $50,000 in legal fees and you may NOT clear your name. Now they have escorts who offer Girlfriend experience (GFE). By the way, there is nothing “steady” about a regular girfriend. She will dump you in a heartbeat as soon as an exciting bad boy comes along and she decides you are “boring.”

      Bill, I like your pragmatic thinking. I mention a lot of this in depth in a blog-series called The Lesser Of Two Evils, specifically the second one…

      https://homeiswherethehateis.wordpress.com/2014/10/24/the-lesser-of-two-evils-02/

      • Bill says:

        Mr. Odessa, that is an excellent article. Unless a man is a king and needs an heir I see no reason to have kids. 50% of American marriages end in divorce and 70% of the divorces are initiated by women. If you marry AND have kids you stand a 35% chance of having your life ruined even if you do everything right. Would you get on a plane that had a 35% chance of crashing? I look forward to reading your article about Nice Guys. Today woman are all over the web talking about how much they hate Nice Guys. The guys they are describing are willing to be “just friends” in hopes that it will turn into romance; they compliment the woman excessively, bring her gifts, clean her apartment etc. How many guys with this behavior are left in the world? They must be as rare as Powerball winners Unless a guy has been living under a rock he knows that this approach NEVER works. I think women have re-classified anyone who is not an Alpha male, thug or Bad Boy as a “Nice Guy”. They need to reject the bottom 80% and they need a reason.

      • Mr. Odessa says:

        Yes. 35% is an understatement though.

        I’ve posted about nice guys before, buy I’ll be posting hard edged posts about nice guys and established idiots before the end of Season 2. In fact, I’ll post one next month…

  29. Bill says:

    Good comments here. I love women’s feet and have seen “regular” girls offering this service in the Washington DC area for $90 per hour. Good deal . It is totally legal, totally safe and for guys who love feet, a great deal. In general I see the opportunities for “paid ” companionship, from escorts to foot fetsih models to be expanding all the time.

  30. Luke says:

    I had my first sex at the age of 26 years with an escort. Being shy and introverted, I never had a girlfriend. It was quite disheartening when all my friends had girlfriends and got laid, I was the only one left behind. But this one day, I was determined to have sex and I did and went on to have sex with like seven escorts within a month. The experience was great and I feel happy. From my experience, girls will always go for the looks. They don’t really care about the qualities you have or the respect you have towards them. I have more respect for the escorts rather than for these mean girls.

  31. Hammer says:

    Only reason I never resorted to escorts: I hate condoms. However, promiscuous women make it hard to justify that nowadays.

  32. darren spohn says:

    I started paying about 6-7 months ago. I was motivated by one thing. I wanted to go down on a woman. I didn’t want, need or expect anything in return. DATY as they call it, was my main goal.
    The first girl I was with was also a fantasy of mine. I love asian woman. She was perfect. Not to tall, cute nose. Boobs and hips were the right size, small feet. I paid her for half an hour and i went down on her for half an hour. I was so scared and nervous I didn’t even get an erection.
    I kept going back, not just for the sex. But the whole process of arranging the date is thrilling. Sending the text. Anxiously waiting for the reply. The excitement when my phone rings is part of the thrill.
    And i always have and always will treat the ladies with respect.
    I tried to find someone on craigslist. But they turned out to be teases and scams. The girls I pay are better people.And I feel quite safe when I am with them.
    Tomorrow is Christmas and I have already planned on having a date.
    Merry Christmas.

  33. Rebeker says:

    Well written article chronicling your life experiences and putting it down succinctly. Will bookmark this for further reference.

  34. Brian says:

    Some great replies here. I am a good looking guy with a good career, but have been using escorts for years. The last relationship I was in was sexless for the latter 4 months. A total nightmare. I finally got out and started with the escorts again. I usually find one I like and keep going back, as long as I have a good time.

    I do get a lot of looks from women, but I refuse to play any games. It simply isn’t worth it to me. I find the majority of women cruel and shallow. I believe in treating women kindly, being a “nice guy” so to speak. It makes the “game” nearly impossible. So I pursue my own interests and do the things that I like to do in my spare time. Do I get lonely from time to time? Of course. But that is quickly remedied with a simple text message that ALWAYS gets a reply. Escorts are a godsend. Thank you to the good ladies out there.

  35. lola says:

    i feel bad for all the men on here. I was a high end escort, and it was not easy. I would have to say that pretending to like someone was the worst part about that field. I found most of my clients to be disgusting, annoying, and someone I just wanted to disappear.Then I found a man who i wanted to be in a relationship with and he is below average looking, but I love his personality and the way he makes me feel. I also find him more beautiful than most of my clients who were “attractive” business men. For all you men out there who think escorts are voluntarily nice to you, you’re dead wrong. Try finding a woman who will actually like you and you will see all the benefits of it. No women like your disgusting view of women and the lack of confidence you guys carry. Reading all these comments makes me feel that your inability to get a woman made you guys have such a gross personality, now you are even worse of a value than before. Not only are you guys not that good looking, but now you may have a bank account that is much lower than it could be if you didn’t pay for sex, possibly sti, and an ego that was hand crafted by all the escorts you saw. Girls will never go for you guys because they can probably sense unhappiness, desperation, and the intense need of acceptance. Good luck being a loser for the rest of your life.

    • P Ray says:

      Women need the resources a man brings – welfare is not going to be extended to all of them.
      Also, you mentioned the looks of your man, but not his height – as a typical woman, I bet you want him to be taller than you.
      You understand that only 15% of all men are 6feet and even fewer taller still, right?
      Such men, have many women throwing themselves at him.
      You better hope you are “more desirable” than all of them.
      And if you cheat on this guy or get ravaged by age, you better hope your “great man” will stand by you.

      If girls are so smart, why were so many of them killed by Ted Bundy?
      Women’s “intuition” is merely a shorthand way of saying women judge very superficially.
      That is why they require so much help from men (in government and the police) to live their independent life.

      P.S. If you develop an STD from having been on the cock carousel previously, you better hope your Prince Charming is willing to pay for it … 🙂

    • anon@anon.com says:

      Does your hot new BF know you were a hooker?

    • Asif says:

      Wow Lola said it! I have always kind of thought that it must be hard to be nice to everyone. Man, I am definitely rethinking it

    • rutetaa says:

      islam would beheaded you filthy whore

    • Joseph says:

      Surprise to you, Lola, but there ARE happy escorts out there. All a guy needs is to do his research. And in any case, if she ACTS nice, the same endorphins are massaged.

  36. Sam I am says:

    I am 29 years next month, and I didn’t have but couple relationship experiences my whole life. First was 5 years ago which was great, but ended up she left me for a guy with better ‘qualities.’ Stayed struggling for years until I settled in a relationship 8 months ago which was a disaster to my financials. She was greedy and every now and then she plays the broke girl game. At first, I was fool to help her with her bills and stuff, then I realised I had paid much that I should rethink what the hell I am doing.

    When she realized I started to refuse giving her any money, she changed her plans: When we hang out in a mall, she ‘spontaneously’ guides me to a certain shop and then runs and express excitement for some product which is obviously overpriced and started crying she wants that thing (bag, necklace, shoes, ..) in front of salesmen and clerks inside triggering me so I would pay or else I would appear like an arrogant that I refused buying her.

    Since then, I said enough. Enough manipulating me and my feelings and needs. I cut any connections with her ever since, and when she tries to contact me, I claim I am too busy and I’ll call her later, until she got the idea and got bored and tired trying to reach me.

    Sure enough, I had sex with her like couple times in 6 months (Yes I was so patient) then she started to mention that she would go to my place ‘if’ I bought her something special.

    Second relationship didn’t bother me tho, It was much better than keeping her and drain my money on her which is going nowhere. Since then, I started using escorts. Sure, I was so nervous. Someone I barely know will come to my place and have sex is not a good idea to me at first.

    I used an agency which figured out they use fake photos on their website (Yup was still naive) and the girl came to my place was totally different. She wasn’t bad tho so it ended well. Second time was much better, I looked for a freelance escort with high class who was so hot yet so tender I couldn’t believe she is working as escort (you know, I still had this idea that escorts are like those street hookers who wear cheap clothes and excessive ugly make-up). We snuggled for good time which was surprising for me as escorts usually want things ‘done’ pretty fast. She knew what I was looking for and, as a girl after all, she was trying to enjoy it as well so it was a great experience for me.

    Since then, I felt much relaxed as I just did what I want whenever I want. No need for drama, expensive meals and watching boring movies in hope of some action. Ironically, I found out that most of my friends who usually brags how much action they get with hot chicks turned out they ‘pay’ for sex and hire escorts for their wild nights. So I never felt ashamed of myself for that. Even my bosses at work who are successful businessmen from time to time they take a vacation in some tropical island and get some hot action with hot escorts there, as they don’t have time for drama BS and pathetic dating games and they’re so stick to their business they don’t want to waste time trying to score a girl.

    As you may figured out, I am a nice guy with average looks. I am a professional who is very dedicated to his work and postgraduate studies so I don’t have the time or even the tendency to roam in bars looking desperately for a girl who will in best cases end up in a one-night stand if I was lucky. I used tinder and more dating apps and all I get are spams or in best cases girls who never respond back when ‘matched.’ Yes, I still feel lonely when I see two couples holding hands and whisper to each other, but I know that it’s not my fault in the end.

  37. realist says:

    I didn’t happen to notice that anyone brought up how much like prostitution marriage actually is.

    It is studied a fact that the first thing a woman evaluates about a man approaching her is his financial prospects. [French researchers Nicolas Gueguen and Lubomir Lamy https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/head-games/201207/are-women-shallow ] No money, no honey. It IS that simple. [http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1561991/Men-seek-beauty-women-want-wealth.html ]

    Maybe women know that a rich man is more likely to show her a good time in bed? [Dr Thomas Pollet and Prof Daniel Nettles, Newcastle University http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1121122/Why-rich-men-better-bed–Women-orgasms-wealthy-partners-study-finds.html ] Nah! He has to demonstrate he has a fat wallet before she cares to ride his fat dick.

    But if you win her, it’s because she has deemed you suitable to provide sufficiently for the lifestyle she desires to have. Whether it’s global travel or raising a brood, your earning power is what determines whether she is willing to form a bond with you. [Dr Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1345520/What-women-REALLY-want-To-marry-rich-man-stay-home-children.html ]

    But as divorce rears its ugly head, you become only a source of continued financial support kept at a distance by legal forces with the power to cause you great harm. You might not care about losing her so much, especially if she’s become more Mommy than your lover. But becoming impoverished isn’t a pleasant lifestyle.

    For the same amount of money you are going to spend to (maybe) get reluctant and mediocre sex one or twice a month, you could have two night of incredible mind blowing sex – and you won’t need an expensive lawyer to be rid of her in the morning. If you find that your servicer isn’t to your satisfaction, you aren’t locked into a miserable existence for many years as the cost of moving her along. You just call someone else. And if you somehow hit the boll’s eye and she gets knocked up, she isn’t going to drag you into a paternity suit. She should be making enough money to raise her own kid herself if she so chooses – and probably will (I’ve known a few who did).

    Life is too short to spend it in misery wishing you’d made a different decision years ago. Take heed.

  38. Derham Paul says:

    It never workes looser get a life or HIV

  39. rutetaa says:

    I blame the Jewish parasite race, and there sexual revolution for this depraved culture we live in.
    Just look these vermin’s are being stumped out finally.

  40. White Rabbitt says:

    The worst part of using n “Escort” is that you can never be sure if you are setting yourself up to be “Busted” by law enforcement. Another negative is, if the “Escort” is legit (not Law Enforcement) that it could be a scam in that services expected are not delivered (for whatever reason) or that the connection/experience simply deos not work out (no sexual chemistry/sparks).

    The joys of living in USA.. LOL.

  41. Dustin says:

    I agree! After 18 years of marriage and all the bullshit that comes with it!I am separated and happy and escorts are the way to go moving forward I don’t have to deal with any nonsense and my new found freedom is priceless.All I want is some great sex without all female luggage that weighs you down..

  42. The Damn Truth says:

    Women Are Fucking Weak.
    Thats why they need this law system to protect them.

  43. The Damn Truth says:

    You cant say anything to them in a text message without them getting offended.
    Oh so i should be a sensitive cuck to understand your molested emotions? Please get a life lady….

  44. Paul says:

    I am too shy to even call an excort… and have always been that way. For some guys escorts may be the way to go, but for guys like me, sex is literally an impossibility because we can’t express those needs / feelings to anyone. And btw, therapists and counsellors are useless.

    • P Ray says:

      I’ve heard that those “the rapists” and counsellors spout platitudes while they enjoy relationships of their own and cannot help others but charge them for their service.

      Those people are real “the rapists” indeed.

  45. Joseph says:

    I am an American expat, thank God. In most countries, being an escort, or seeing one, is LEGAL. Only procurers are prosecuted.
    I am in what is by now a loveless marriage, but neither of us is interested in divorce. Around the twelve-year anniversary point, I began paying for the hugging, caressing, smiles, and oral sex, that were missing in my marriage, just as millions of other married men do.
    At my present age, one orgasm in around ten days is enough. I generally see erotic masseuses, not full-service escorts. Where I live, many of these masseuses work in their own home. The youngish ones do it fully nude or in panties. My “regular” provides oral at no extra cost (about $90/hr), washes me in her shower, is open to light kink, and gives a pretty good GFE (minus DFK), plus the happy-ending massage. She also strips and lets me massage her.
    Occasionally I go to see one of the gorgeous Ukrainian escorts in another city. Those who offer full service take about $225/hr. Not all are the smiling type, but after giving them a tip up front and being a gentleman, I’ve had not more than one unsatisfactory experience out of ten.
    The other day, just to experiment, I went to a male erotic masseur. During the massage, I also jerked him off. It was fun, but I realized that for me, there is no substitute for a smiling FEMALE face (and body).

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