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Spanking Women: 01

A few comments made by me on another blog and a previous post are the inspiration behind this post.

The question: Are there ‘markers’ of tolerable behavior in women (paid or unpaid)?

I would say.. Yes (but read the fine print). I found long ago that the willingness, response and attitude of an adult woman to being spanked had a rather strong correlation with her behavior, sexual and non-sexual. Before I go any further, let me clarify what I am talking about.

Spanking a woman is not about hitting or intimidating her. It is about something very specific, namely a woman who is a willing (and often eager) recipient of a moderately painful and humiliating spanking, mixed with sex. Why something like this would appeal to women is best left to your imagination.

I should also make some important points about such spankings:

1. Only a significant minority of women enjoy them.

2. Sensation, not damage, is the objective.

3. It has to be mixed in with sex.

4. It covers a range of  sensual to punishment type spankings.

Contrary to what feminists and their defenders preach, a significant minority of women are turned on by pain and humiliation. The caveats are- it should feel ‘safe’ and it should be moderate. I am emphasizing the ‘safe feeling’ part because women are paranoid, and they have to be relaxed to enjoy things. They tend to overdo many pleasurable things, such as food, precisely because of an innate feeling of insecurity, largely due to them projecting their own behavior onto others.

So why would the willingness to get a bare bottom spanking correlate with a better attitude in adult women?

My hypothesis:

1. If she is willing to get a very pink and sore bottom from you, she is probably into you. Many who are willing to try grow from curiosity to liking it (and then almost demanding it).

2. Any woman who will willingly get over your knees, squirm, kick and sob is not too big on micromanaging her or your life. She can let go..

3. A disproportionately large percentage of women who like it, also like affection and sex afterwards. It is not just a stand alone emotional release.

4. Masculine, ball-busting, uptight and ideology obsessed women are repelled by the idea of getting spanked. It selects out women who are undesirable for other reasons.

5. A far larger % (but still a numerical minority) of women like it than have tried it seriously. Maybe it is a proxy indicator for feminine behavior, not so much submissive as less bitchy.

A word of caution: Use your rationality and common sense. I am not responsible for any problems caused by practicing anything said or implied in this post, because they are just my observations and musings. I am not responsible for your actions.

More in another post.

Categories: Escorts
  1. February 23, 2010 at 2:38 pm

    Only a significant minority of women enjoy them.
    Based on personal experience, I have my doubts about that.
    I think whether or not a woman enjoys (light) spanking depends almost entirely on the type of man she is with.
    We are talking about moderate, not light, spanking.

  2. Vincent Ignatius
    February 23, 2010 at 2:59 pm

    I can’t say I’ve tried it on enough girls to get an accurate picture, but the ones that have been fine with it are more submissive and feminine than the few that weren’t.

  3. February 23, 2010 at 3:09 pm

    “Only a significant minority of women enjoy them.”

    Not true, they all love it. All of them!

  4. Avinguda Diagonal
    February 23, 2010 at 4:46 pm

    since when is 99% a minority, sir?

    spanking of an intensity that will make her cry and feel it for a couple of hours? no!

  5. February 23, 2010 at 6:46 pm
  6. Avinguda Diagonal
    February 23, 2010 at 10:22 pm

    spanking of an intensity that will make her cry and feel it for a couple of hours? no!

    i think this is the disconnect between escorts and relationships speaking, here.

    you are a self described aficionado of escorts, they will not want this ( if for no reason apart than the next client won’t want to see the markings)
    do your escorts allow you to beat their butts red? that would be surprising.

    in real relationships this should be a vast majority of women, unless the women doesn’t have sufficient respect for her man to be climbing over his knee.

    You would be surprised at how many semi-pros are OK with it.

    • February 24, 2010 at 10:07 am

      You would be surprised at how many semi-pros are OK with it.
      Huh? Avinguda (just like the other commenters, including myself) was making the point that way more girls like it than you make it sound. Your reply almost seems self-contradictory.

      49% is a significant minority.

      i think this is the disconnect between escorts and relationships speaking, here.
      I have a hunch that is true. If it is within a consenting sexual context and done by a man that the girl looks up to, the vast majority of women will enjoy an occasional spanking to the point that she can feel it for hours afterward.

      That is why some are more OK with it than others.

  7. February 28, 2010 at 3:30 pm

    I’ve never found spanking to be at all humiliating… but, like most things, that’s just me.

    However, I do have a wide variety of female friends across god knows how many social circles and all of them are into spanking to some degree, including the ballbusters, ranging from the lightest taps to me and my love to have purple bruises spread across my ass.

    But that’s anecdotal.

    What I should say is that I find this post incorrect on the social type of women that enjoy spanking, as well as the correlations drawn between personality and those who enjoy spanking. The only correlation I’ve managed to find between spanking and those who enjoy it is through my own research project towards my degree, which showed a significantly positive trend towards older siblings and those without any siblings (or a five year+ age spread that still results in only-child syndrome) tending more towards sexual exploration in the way of spanking.

    Also, 49% is not a significant minority, it is simply a minority.

    Not trolling Roissy anymore?

  8. February 28, 2010 at 9:26 pm

    I comment on Roissy’s posts when I have something to say.

    Yes, I am aware of that.

  9. March 1, 2010 at 7:02 pm

    Hadn’t realized you were missing me.

    His posts have gotten a bit… I don’t want to say bland or stale, but are lacking what they used to have. Makes me disinclined to chime in.

    The only reason I chimed in on this post is because my academic background is primarily focused in sexual deviance, including such mild activities as spanking.

    Oh, come on.. you just like a good bare bottom spanking. Admit it!

    I have always found it amazing how many women will dress up (and down) to take a moderate spanking.

  10. March 1, 2010 at 8:17 pm

    There’s something charming about having your skirt tossed up around your waist, but I prefer being spanked through tight jeans. Something about it disperses the blow, makes it more of a thud and less of a sting. The sting causes welts, but the thud causes bruising and also makes you feel like your skeleton is vibrating. A good, bruising spanking will get me so wet I’ll be dripping down the inside of my legs, which everyone involved likes.

    I prefer a naked gal or one with a T-shirt that she cannot pull over her butt.. it makes spanking her so much more fun.

  11. David
    April 13, 2010 at 7:22 pm

    I have been married for 24 years. My wife has enjoyed being spanked since we started going out. Normally, I put her over my knees in the bedroom. I lift her skirt and lower her panties to her ankles. (Sometimes I make her get dressed up a bit in a blouse and shoes only – this is sexier, being even more humiliating, especially if the shoes are of the fuck-me type). I just use my hand. She gets a bit of pinkness on her bottom which may last for a while. This really turns her on and lubricates her. I often finish by fucking her.

    We have probably done this about 100 times over the years.

  12. David
    April 13, 2010 at 7:46 pm

    I agree that it was a good sign in my future wife that she wanted to be spanked by me.

  13. David
    April 13, 2010 at 10:03 pm

    On the humiliation thing, my wife says she enjoys the pain AND the humiliation. I don’t normally hurt her much. Occasionally there has been an element of genuine punishment in it, but it is mostly for fun. I think she has been bruised a bit a few times, if I recall, but mostly it is pretty light.

  14. Tony Conrad
    August 11, 2013 at 1:06 pm

    It’s the opposite way round for me as my wife does it to me and said that she is very comfortable with it. It does nothing for her. We are all different.

  15. jo
    December 15, 2013 at 3:33 pm

    Those pictures are from porn sites. I’ve watched that stuff before, not my thing though. You really should find real material

  16. Peter the Great
    September 26, 2014 at 11:27 am

    I wonder if we need to take a step back and see a bigger picture. So far we are looking at “spanking” in isolation. We know that one of the main fantasies of women is the rape fantasy – but rape is just a cloak for wanting to be dominated – and is not spanking a form of domination? If it is, and the surveys that show women want to be dominated, then we can say that a similar amount that have the rape/domination fantasy, also have a spanking fantasy – what men need are good articles and stories on “how to”, not “if to do”.

  17. Robert
    December 29, 2015 at 3:19 pm

    My wife is turned on by being spanked and I have caught her fingering herself while its going on. I make her stop and not cum. So far I have only spanned her 3 times, all of which have ended with her having a huge orgasm with my fingers and tongue.
    She enjoys the spanking with her ass in air on all fours and also on her back, knees up, vagina totally exposed.
    She has also trimmed her hair back so that its nice and short affording me a better view and easier access. (She did that on her own without prompting)
    Its all added spice.

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