How to Deal with Women: 1

Lately I have read a lot on the blogosphere about how women are evil, manipulative, without remorse and generally untrustworthy.

Newsflash: They were always like that, however external constraints prevented them from acting on their worse impulses until the last 40-50 odd years.

The real question then is: How should men deal with it?

Some men are hoping that this nightmare will go away. Others have turned to game. A few distract themselves with delusions of racial superiority and hope to ‘turn back the clock’. Many hope to find women that are not “like that”..

What I am going to suggest in the rest of this post takes a very different and unusual approach to the whole problem. Most masculine responses to feminine behavior are predicated on one important assumption: that a reasonably pleasant relationship with a women is possible and desirable. I believe that we have gone past that point a long time ago, and the irreversible effect of technology and ideologies have created a world where such assumptions are no longer valid.

I believe that the only effective path towards your personal happiness lies in always treating women as adversaries, whose value is related to their ability to provide good, no-strings sex.

1] Abandon the childish dream that any woman will ever love you for what you are. She may love you for how you make her feel, but will abandon you based on her feelings.

Her feelings are fickle, self centered and no amount of game will ever make your position secure. It can help you score chicks, but forget about LTRs of any kind.

2] Marriage is a failed institution, and there is no ‘soul mate’ for you (and never was).

Marriage was a worthwhile option only as long as it provided something to the man for putting up with a woman. What does marriage provide now, apart from humiliation, betrayal, pain and financial ruin?

3] In a previous age the net gain from having kids was more than the net loss. It is no longer so, and kids are now pawns be used against you. They are used to extract money, harass you, manipulate you and deny sex to you.

Want your genetic legacy? go ahead, screw yourself! What will your genetic legacy do for you anyway? You are the sum of your mind and experiences, not your body. It is merely a vessel for your mind. Kids are partial copies of that vessel, not its contents.

4] You do not owe women, society, your race or humanity anything. What have they done for you lately? Why should you keep your end of the deal when they have violated theirs?

Your willingness to protect women or your country marks you out as a sucker, who will be used and thrown away. What has your country and its rulers (yes.. rulers) done for you lately. What has the corporation you work for (or used to work for) done for you recently? For all the “bootstrap” capitalism they talk about, who is always in the line to receive handouts from the government- your employer or you? Why show loyalty or care about those who treat you as slaves?

5] Don’t work more than what is necessary for you to have a good life. Don’t marry and slave for an ungrateful woman and kids. Don’t care about the dreams and expectations of others.

Don’t worry about others, just look out for yourself.

Do what makes you happy. Forget about everyone else and their opinions. You are born alone, will die alone and live just once. Is it really worth spending the one life you have trying to fix the world, and rescue sociopaths ? I am not suggesting that you become a monk or live off the land. Just do what is necessary for YOU alone to have a good life, and be happy.

Or you could always piss away your life as a poorly compensated slave aka a “responsible man”. You choice..

  1. rightsaidfred
    March 26, 2010 at 6:23 am

    I can’t argue with you too much, but it is useful to have a community for support. We need to build/rebuild those support communities. There are some Mennonites who live near me, and initially I was disdainful of them, but I see now they have quite a bit of value in their community that harnesses the sociopathic tendencies of women.

    Our secular community needs to do a better job of harnessing the flow of money and political power.

  2. March 26, 2010 at 7:08 am

    the best advice i was ever given….”it’s not about ANYTHING other than how she FEELS about HERSELF when she’s with you.”

    don’t take anything she says or does personally. her reactions are based solely on emotional response. her speech is a mix between emotional reaction and programming by society/her attempts at what she has been taught are logic/rational thought (often times magazing slag rag bullshit propaganda from other chicks)

  3. Thansus
    March 26, 2010 at 8:56 am

    Good post. I agree.

  4. Numm
    March 26, 2010 at 9:28 am

    I recently found your blog, and I spent the past couple of days reading through it in it’s entirety. I have to say, everything you’ve said is spot on. I’m currently involved in a relationship (We are both in our early 20s) and I realized after reading this that she really doesn’t particularly care for me, but she LOVES the way I can make her feel.

    It’s actually very hard to come to accept the fact that women are like this. I’ve been raised to think differently my entire life, from all angles, but it really bothers me that I simply have no one out there who will ever care about me and be willing to help me when someday, I will desperately need it. I know I can make it on my own, I just wish I didn’t have to.

    Please keep writing down your thoughts and ideas.

    Do not treat her any better than she treats you.

  5. Alkibiades
    March 26, 2010 at 10:13 am

    Ah the illusion that it’s feminism or post-modern thought that has led to women acting the way they do today. The reality is that it has always been a part of their nature, straining to loose the chains that have bound it.

    and most men do not realize that.

  6. Numm
    March 26, 2010 at 11:44 am

    It still bothers me. I’ve been lied to my whole life, and made to want someone that’s impossible from people who don’t even exist. This is extremely frustrating.

    Ever watched ‘the matrix’?

  7. Matt
    March 26, 2010 at 2:55 pm

    Harsh and probably a bit overstated, but fundamentally true.

    Perhaps I am in the minority of males because I have a deep desire for a home and family. I want a woman for more than just sex and housekeeping. Maybe I believed too much of the propaganda I was exposed to when I was younger and I am just now realizing the truth. Sad, very sad.

  8. March 26, 2010 at 5:21 pm

    Want your genetic legacy? go ahead, screw yourself! What will your genetic legacy do for you anyway? You are the sum of your mind and experiences, not your body. It is merely a vessel for your mind. Kids are partial copies of that vessel, not its contents.

    This. I will never understand this love affair some people have with their own DNA.

    I can partially understand that feeling, but humans are not bacteria, insects, lampreys, birds or even monkeys. We are not like other animals in one crucial aspect, we can appreciate our mortality, limitations and act against our basic desires.

    We are the sum of our memories and culture far more than our DNA. It is very likely that the next step in human evolution will separate our minds from our bodies.

    I see no physical limitation to running a human mind on multiple hardware setups, many of them not biological.

  9. Vincent Ignatius
    March 28, 2010 at 3:36 am

    I’m planning on finding egg donors and surrogate mothers so I can have children without getting married.

  10. March 28, 2010 at 7:35 am

    Quite workable good marriages are constantly destroyed by this Soulmate nonsense. One partner suddenly decides they met someone who is “their soulmate” and suddenly they are totally justified in ending everything without the other partner having recourse.

    Be wary of the women who talk about you as there soulmate… if they change their minds then you’re gonna be dumped.

    The correct terms are “husband” and “wife”.

  11. Nestorius
    March 28, 2010 at 11:03 am

    Sex is a zero-sum game. Men gain from sex (+1) and women lose (-1). This can be represented in this manner:
    She gives sex She doesn’t give sex
    Man asks for sex 1, -1 -1, 1
    Man doesn’t ask for sex 1,-1 0,0
    (Notice that the best tactic for men is not to ask for sex.)
    Because women lose whenever they give sex, they need compensation (e.g. prostitutes) in order to make sex a non-zero-sum game. Now, with compensation we have this:
    She gives sex She doesn’t give sex
    Man asks for sex 1,1 -1, 1
    Man doesn’t ask for sex 1,1 0,0
    The sexual revolution intended to make sex a non-zero-sum game without compensation:
    She gives sex She doesn’t give sex
    Man asks for sex 1,1 -1,-1
    Man doesn’t ask for sex 1,1 -1,-1
    Instead, we turned with a twisted system favoring women and keeping compensation where men are losers if they follow the system in any way.
    The best way then is the practice Game. Game is a zero-sum game, it is in favor of men. If well practiced, by following the tactic of not asking for sex (i.e. not acting as a Beta male), men will be winners most of the time and women losers. When women realise that they have become the losers, they will ask, nay beg, for the change of the system.

  12. David
    April 3, 2010 at 11:38 pm

    “The correct terms are “husband” and “wife”.”


    It helps to have a businesslike approach to your marriage. BTW, quite like your blog, Athol.

    Americans seem especially likely to overvalue women. Most cultures have a more realistic view. Women may look like angels, especially when they are young, but appearances can be deceptive.

    If you can put a woman in her place, firmly but gently, you will have a very good companion. Women will work very hard for a man whom they love and respect. My wife sometimes reminds me of how hard she works around the home; and she does. You need to get that feminine energy, which can be a problem if misdirected, working for you and your family. (There is a reason why bosses love female employees – they will work hard, follow directions readily, and don’t complain much.)

    Women are great if they are properly led. A wife (not a “partner” or a “soulmate” or a “best friend” or any of that nonsense) is a true asset. But you have to treat her as a wife. Women will tend to become what the most important man in their life decides they should be. If you treat her as a superior, she will treat you as an inferior. Treat her as an equal, and you will argue constantly. Treat her as an inferior, and she will meekly obey you most of the time. There is no mystery to this. Women are chameleons, who adjust to be what their surrounds dictate. If you behave like a husband, she will behave like a wife. I have always had certain expectations of my wife, and she has generally striven to meet them.

    A woman who respects you will do the most extraordinary things to please you. If she looks up to you, and knows that you generally have her best interests at heart, in short she trusts you, you can get her to comply with most of your wishes. I’ll give one example. When we were newlyweds, I once told my wife to lift her skirt so I could check what colour panties she had on. I did this out of sheer devilment. But the dear little thing complied. Why? Because she loved me, and trusted me, and felt that if her husband wanted her to, then she should obey.

  13. April 4, 2010 at 5:18 am

    I still the panty check thing via text message at least once a week David. 🙂

  14. David
    April 4, 2010 at 11:56 am

    Well, I don’t do a “panty check” that regularly. But I did try recently to see if I could get her to lift her skirt for me to check. She did, after a bit of a protest.

    I just do it for fun. Why do you do it so regularly, Athol?

  15. April 4, 2010 at 12:42 pm

    A couple of reasons. Firstly it’s just fun and we both enjoy the exchange and it turns us both on a little. It’s short and easy to do during a working day. Far more engaging than “hey how’s it going? I’m eating the sandwiches for lunch that you saw me making this morning…”

    Secondly, you don’t let a woman get sexually bored. The whole thing of sexting et al is exactly what a woman’s lover would be doing to her, so in her case the “lover” is me. So it’s win-win.

  16. David
    April 5, 2010 at 1:20 am


  17. David
    April 5, 2010 at 3:45 am

    I don’t have a text message thing going with my wife. I suppose I could email her, but we both work for the government, so that is a little “inappropriate”!

  18. Yourwonderful
    September 19, 2010 at 6:43 pm

    Nice, for some reason I figured this to be an enlightened bunch,NOT SO MUCH

  19. Vor
    June 26, 2016 at 7:47 pm

    Holyshit, this has to be the most sense making article I have read on the internet so far. Good job.

  20. Sab
    November 29, 2018 at 9:10 am

    Happiness doesn’t circle around being about yourself only, it depends on various conceptual dimensions that are relative to each individual.

    • Sab
      November 29, 2018 at 9:39 am

      Happiness doesn’t circle around being about yourself only, it depends on various conceptual dimensions that are relative to each individual.
      But you are definitely right, women are a hell of a drug.

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