My experiences in the last two weeks were a good reminder about the flaky nature of ‘unpaid’ women. While I had a great six weeks from late March to Early May (3 ‘unpaid’ gals + an interesting experience), women flake.
While I was with 2 of the three ‘unpaid’ gals for only a couple of times, the ‘third’ (thick gal) was developing into a good booty call situation. But ‘unpaid’ women flake and often demand what they do not deserve. I did not see the point of continuing with ‘thick’ gal about 2-3 weeks ago. Since then, I have obtained many e-mails & phone numbers but no hits.
Luckily, I have escorts to fall back on. They are less complicated, extremely reliable and great to fuck. It certainly helps that they are better looking and often very skilled. Ya, I had a couple more in the last two weeks (one new and one repeat). It was not cheap, and I could have purchased a good netbook with that money, but I already have one.
I am happy and reasonably satisfied, and that is all that matters.
It is nice to get laid with willing and skilled hot chicks whether you’re on a winning streak or not. It is almost like a possessing a minor superpower that makes living a bit less unpleasant.
Here are some of my previous posts on using escorts..
How to use find them and use their services.
How I started using escorts.
Why Escorts are a better deal that ‘real’ women.
This post is devoted to explaining a paradox about sexuality in the indian subcontinent.
The paradox is:
How could a culture that celebrated sexuality become so prudish.
Many people like to blame muslim and british influence for such an attitude. This is only partially true, in that these influences had some effects. The real story is however much more complicated.
First let us understand the context and preconditions of sexuality in India.
For most of history, right untill the late 1930s, Indians were far less prudish than the caricatures you see around you. Whether you lived in a village, small town or city- you saw a lot of skin and more growing up. Prepubesent nudity was never a big issue in India, nor was situational adult nudity. This might surprise many of you, but it is true. Adult sex was also not a taboo issue though it was not discussed in public fora, as we are accustomed to. Even Indian films until the late 1930s were often risqué and showed more skin than their western counterparts.
So what happened?
To understand the problem you must understand how teenagers in India used to have sex. For most of Indian the following arrangement was the norm (and yes, there were other less common arrangements).
Kids were often betrothed/’married’ to each other between ages 6-12 and then slept together after puberty OR they were married in their mid-teens (and sex followed). Either way, almost every teenaged boy and girl ended up sleeping together by 16-17 at the latest. The usual age difference between spouses was anywhere from 3-6 years (boy older than gal).
You see, for most of history teenagers were encouraged to have sex, albeit in a marriage. Since the couple was usually matched for other criteria and mutual non-repulsiveness, the rest was easy. The social mores were such that parents were happy to know that their married teenage children were getting it on with their teenage spouses.
However all this was done with a high degree of discretion, and was never talked about outside the house or immediate family.
Now this does not imply that adultery, cuckolding or homosexuality did not exist. It is just that they were discretely tolerated, rather than openly encouraged.
The real problems started with an increase in the age of marriage, especially in the more educated classes. Since the primary mechanism for getting horny teenagers together was marriage, an increase in the age of marriage effectively squelched this outlet. Prostitution (pro and semi-pro) filled in the gap, however even that became more risky for a variety of reasons, ranging from general social disapproval to the need to be seen as progressive.
Slavish adoration and aping the mores of a protestant west (circa 1900) by the ‘leaders’ political, legal and cultural certainly did not help. The reluctance to separate marriage and sex by senile twits was also not helpful.
A combination of conditions, and an unwillingness to adapt, are therefore the true reasons behind the prudery and dysfunction seen in India.
Note that the worst prudery and dysfunction occurred in the educated middle classes, who formed the first wave of indian immigrants to the west in the 1960s-1980s. Subsequent generations have reverted to a less fucked up attitude.
However, remember that a weak-willed Indian geek is a weak-willed geek first, and will not do much better with the ladies than his white counterpart. Moreover, stereotypes will hurt his prospects more than an equivalent white geek who can still get yellow pussy.
Things started changing in the 80s-90s, courtesy coed-education, affluence, VCR porn and urban living. Many of you might not realize it but a lot of things happen behind closed doors in India. While people may not admit it, the sales of condoms, contraceptive pills and steady business for abortion clinics says otherwise. Note that contraceptive pills are usually bought in India without a prescription.
The two groups who have traditionally stood in the way of such changes have fat older middle class women and senile men who still ‘live’ in another age. It is satisfying to see that their efforts ave been largely unsuccessful.
However there is another dysfunction still seen in India.
Obviously non-virgin men and women in the late 20s-early 30s agreeing to traditional arranged marriages to satisfy their parents. Or maybe it is the fear of being lonely after a few unlucky forays in dating, some of which lasted a few years.
Expect an exponential growth in the rate of divorce, a tend that has already begun in earnest in the more well-off classes.
A recent text exchange:
Background: Woman is in her mid 20s. Used to be chubby, but has now lost some weight. A new-agey head case with some issues in her life.
First knew her from a couple of casual meetings (about a year ago) . Recently met her again and obtained her phone number.
Do you want to go for a few drinks tonight?
Her 1st reply
No, I am not really into drinking and I am not interested in dating.
I guessed so, and that is why I prefer to BUY better looking company. It’s just more fun for me that way.
I was never interested in ‘dating’ you. I am not that desperate. Enjoy..
Her 2nd reply
Fuck off, you asshole. Stay away from me.
Most people think that reality is one homogeneous construct, that determines whether something is possible or not.
I think otherwise.
Reality can be broken down into two major components, physical reality and perceived reality. I have dealt with this concept in one of my earlier posts.
Physical reality is that part of the universe whose properties are independent of human perception. It can also be measured in an objective and subjective manner with instruments. The number of photons hitting the CCD of a camera, the strength of a magnetic field as measured by a magnetometer or the elemental composition of a given sample are not influenced by your belief. Nor is the electromagnetic/ particle output of the sun or the strength/direction of the earth’s magnetic field.
In contrast, most of what we perceive and believe to be true is based on interpretation of data, often based on previous experiences and social mores. Can you see the massive implications of what I just said?
Everything from you reaction to rejection by a woman to a bad outcome in your job or life is totally subjective. Even worse, the total subjectivity of perception implies that there are multiple possible responses to such events.
Let me explain with a couple of examples:
A woman who flirted with you and gave her contact info reveals that she has a BF, when you ask her out.
Feeling dejected and sad is the most likely response. However this outcome is based on a belief that you cannot get another equally good pussy or that she was special.
So.. are any of these assumptions true?
You can maintain an unofficial harem of women or just pay for sex. Speaking from personal experience, pussy is fungible. Why should you feel dejected by the refusal of one woman to sleep with you that day if you can get alternate pussy?
The key to not getting dejected by this situation- alternate pussy.
The ready availability of ‘unpaid’ or ‘paid’ alternate pussy changes the picture such that her rejection (at least for the time being) does not affect your mood to any significant extent. Most women will reject you or flake, but you do not have to suffer the consequences.
You feel sad that you are not in a LTR, have no kids or just feel lonely without a SO.
What do you really want from a woman? Anything other than sex from a woman is a social expectation masquerading as your need.
It is ALL about reliable access to willing pussy.
Do you truly desire nagging, emasculation, mediocre sex, whiny kids or a mortgage on a house you can barely afford. Do you like having your balls in a crusher or be the ‘mark’ of a contract in which you lose either way?
What you really want- a somewhat familiar and enjoyable pussy to have fuck.
Once again, there are various means of getting what you really want. Don’t let social pressures control your choice of options. It is not as if society rewards you for the socially acceptable choices.
Yet another example..
You feel pressured to follow a particular career trajectory just because it is the norm for others like you.
Ask yourself, what is the best case scenario if you play by the rules of others? Will it make you happy? Will it make you feel secure, satisfied and alive? Will it fulfill your dreams? and whose dreams are those anyway?
What is in it for YOU?
Evaluate ALL other trajectories and options for your career. Do something you like and are good at, even if it is not the conventional path. It is not as if playing by the rules will prevent you from getting fired or culled in a headcount reduction. Base your analysis of the situation on what you can see and measure, not what others say.
Why would you care about the approval of people who would not lend you 20$ in a pinch? Why bother impressing them?
Do it because YOU choose to, and YOU believe that it will give YOU the outcome YOU desire. You may be wrong, but it is better to be wrong doing what you think is correct than living to satisfy someone else.
More in another post..
As stated in a previous post, I had a series of interesting encounters with three bible college gals within 6 months. In retrospective these were the first carefree and fun “relationships” since turning 20.
I moved to a large apartment complex at 22. The last few months at the previous place were not good, and had left me with some bad memories. But I was still looking for an intellectually compatible LTR. Then things took an interesting turn.
The complex had a large swimming pool and hot tub. I often hung out at the later hoping to chat up some gals. Within my first three weeks there, I met a trio of bible college students who were roommates. I ended up with two of them.. Let us call them BCG98-99a and BCG98-99b.
BCG98-99a (blond) was an average looking 19 year old, slim, tight, blond but with an unremarkable face. BCG98-99b (brunette) was of the same age, curvy, with a very cute face and sweet round butt. She was curvy, but not fat (at least at that time).
I struck up a conversation with the brunette when blondie was in the swimming pool. Brunette was flirty and touchy-feely within the first 30 minutes. Both turned out to have boyfriends who visited them once a week, and they lived on my floor. The blond initially appeared to be the more difficult and plainer gal, but looks can be deceptive.
I synchronized my hot tub use with their schedule and saw them a couple more times that week. Gradually the blond opened up, and we hit it off. Religious gals love to argue with atheists.
On that friday, she stayed with me after her roommates left. That is when things started to happen. When we were talking about her loneliness, I leaned in and kissed her. She reciprocated .. and we made out a bit in the hottub. However the surveillance camera made us take our action elsewhere.
We went into the empty women’s sauna, but decided that it was safer to go to my apartment. We ran back in our swim stuff, clothes and towels in hand… got into my apartment, went to my room and did it quickly.. twice. Spent about half an hour together after and then she went back to her place.. My roommate did ask me about the noise next morning.
The hormones of an under-serviced 19 year old girl won over her religious and moral beliefs, as they often do.
After that, it was pretty much fucking whenever we had some privacy and time, usually early or late evenings. Both her roommates and mine were aware of the ‘situation’. The fucking usually happened at my place though.. something about being heard by her roommates/friends.The blond was a vanilla girl, who liked normal fucking, making out etc. She was not particularly skilled but that did not matter. She could connect to god in many positions, as long as the fucking was hard. She preferred a vibrator over my tongue, and I did not complain. I could not get her to do anal, dressup or anything kinky beyond a mild spanking.
We never talked about her BF, though I bumped into the couple a few times.
One day a few weeks into the “relationship”, she spent a long weekend with her BF and the brunette made her move. When we were in the hot tub, she was asking me about blondies preferences in bed. I sorta told her.. and we started teasing each other, progressing on to touching + kissing (but stopped before anything else happened there). On the way back, she told me to come over to her place in about 20 minutes. I could not refuse.. and got a nice surprise.
She had convinced the third roommate to stay in her room and greeted me in a very cute PVC nurse outfit (her boyfriends gift?). However she quickly made it clear that it was just about oral sex. I wanted to say no and pressure her to have sex, but my penis vetoed that idea. To make a long story short, the woman knew how to blow a guy. Her BJ technique was very polished, teasing + calibration was very good and I enjoyed it. She knew how to keep you guessing, then surprise you- but just short of making you cum.. repeat and repeat till she wanted (and made) you finish.
After the very first BJ, she said- “Does xxxxxx blow you this well? Am I not better than her?” (I agreed). She gave me a couple more that night and I ate her out.
I had originally expected this encounter to be a one time thing, but it became a semi-regular thing. Positively sure that the third roommate knew about both “relationships”. , but still don’t know if blondie knew about her friends misadventures.
Started coming home for lunch and BJs, and brunette often cooked for me. It is nice to have a woman cook for you and give good BJs, even if they happen to be cheating on their BFs.
Guys.. mediocre weekend fucking will NOT keep you teen or 20-something GFs from cheating on you.
They will cheat if they are horny, have the opportunity and find a challenging guy.
Anyway, this went on till April 1999, when they left for summer jobs. I moved out of that place in May, but not before meeting one of brunettes friends, who took a liking for me and provided me with some sex for the next month or so.
After that things went bad for me, on multiple fronts, for about 6-8 months.. and when I came out of that rough patch, I had changed.. irreversibly.
1] Religious but horny 19 year olds often behave like secular horny 19 year olds IF given the opportunity to do so.
2] Women do not take religion seriously unless it is profitable for them, and often work around religious structures to get their way.
3] Religious women are as catty, backstabbing and duplicitous as secular womenl. If anything, the gap between their real and manufactured selves is bigger.
On the flip side, they are often more feminine and cook better than average.
But why are young religious men so obsessed with arguing over scriptures, volunteering, rules and prefer each others company when they could be giving their GFs a good daily pounding or two? Any idea?
One of the most poorly publicized features of the USA is:
It is the only developed country where average income of many non-majority ethnic groups often exceeds the major ethnic group.
Being white in the USA does not give you the advantage seen in other western countries. Even when you compare equally educated people, non-whites in other western countries earn anywhere from 0.5x to 0.7x of an equivalent white. This difference is likely to have an important consequence in the near future.
The US is unique amongst developed countries in having a majority of first and second generation immigrants invested in perpetuating the system. They do so because they feel and see that they are part of it.
In contrast countries, immigrants and their kids in countries ranging from Australia, Canada, Germany, France etc do not see themselves as part of the system. They have no attachment or willingness to perpetuate the system. Such behavior is however very rational. Why invest effort or goodwill in a system that compensates you less than an equivalent white person? Would you play along if the tables were reversed?
Ironically, the white populations of most countries seem to prefer it that way, without regard for the consequences. Let me spell them out for the naive.
The demographic profile of all developed western countries is such that the older populations are mostly white, while the younger ones are increasingly non-white. However these countries also made promises to take care of their retiring (mostly white) people. Past anything other than a few years of denial, it is tax receipts from the younger (increasingly non-white) generations that will support the older (mostly white) generation.
Do you see the problem?
Do you expect people with lower paying jobs and a huge chip on their shoulders to pay for the upkeep of people who discriminated against them? It would be easier if such non-whites constituted 10-15% of the working age population. However that is no longer the case in many western countries. Even countries with a low percentage of non-whites in working age population will have no option but to open their doors, unless they prefer a fatal deflationary spiral.
Most of the western economic miracle is based on the belief of continued growth, or at least a manageable equilibrium. Negative growth will result in an inability to fulfill commitments and quickly kill faith in the system. Leverage is a bitch..
So how are most western countries going to achieve enough growth and increase in incomes to support consumption. Accounting scams can buy you 2-4 years, but beyond that- real growth or some equilibrium is necessary for the system to not come apart.
So how do you get these “others” to play along?
Do you think non-whites will suddenly forget wage/job discrimination and play nice? Do you think that their kids are stupid? More importantly, will whites in other non-western countries willingly accept their downgraded status? While accepting that downgrade is the most logical course of action, most will try very hard to retain their old “status” with tragic results (more antagonism).
It is possible to get away with a lot as long as you do not require others to play the game. However your options shrink considerably once you require their cooperation. Most older whites and many younger whites have still not accepted this new reality, and continue to behave as if the world never changed. But the world has changed, and we will see whether their world view can prevail over reality.
Any bets on who prevails? and don’t blame me- I am just the messenger.