Why Spanking as Foreplay Works
I have mentioned, on many previous occasions, that women willing to take bare-bottom spankings will almost always end up sleeping with you. The following is my hypothesis on why it works, and how I have used it to counter LMR. Note- I am talking about moderately painful spankings, not 10-20 odd smacks.
Important: Do not trick her, tie her up or otherwise coerce her into taking a bare-bottom spanking.
Almost every adult sees a bare-bottom spanking as something done to naughty children, even though they may enjoy it as adults. So how does this affect the dynamics of a new relationship?
The simple answer is that the spanker becomes the authority figure, the spankee becomes the naughty, and helpless, girl who has no option but to take the spanking. It is precisely for this reason that the spanking has to be moderately painful. A light spanking does not quite make the point about who is in charge.
If you concerned about whether she can take it, let her know that it will sting and she will feel sore afterwards. As long as you are using your hand, her slipper or hairbrush, most will consent.
The spanking has to be hard enough to-
1. Make her squirm in a uncoordinated manner.
2. Make her kicking irregular and uncoordinated.
3. Should have to use her hand to cover her bottom.
4. She should beg (not demand) you to stop it.
5. She should be significantly wetter than when you started (monitor it as the spanking progresses).
My modus operandi is:
Step 1: Somewhere between kissing and her/your place.. she should already have received a few smacks on her clothed bottom. How you initiate it is upto you, but never be apologetic.
Step 2: If she does not like it, leave her.. it is not worth it. If she is a semi-willing participant, give her more. If she is anxious, let her know that it will be just your palm and her bottom (nothing more).
Step 3: Once you are in a private place, and more stuff happens.. push it further. You can either playfully exacerbate the spanking to get her over your lap/knees or just tell her that you want to spank her. Again, no apologies about your desires.
Step 4: Tell her that the panties won’t be completely removed till she wants to, but her pants/shorts must go. Hike skirt as necessary.
Step 5: Spank her on the bare-bottom (panties etc around her knees), but build up the intensity rather than starting at full power. Feel free to use a little moisturizer/lotion on her bottom (it makes the sting worser). Approximately 1 smack per second, alternate cheeks and aim for their fleshiest parts
Step 6: Somewhere around the 100-200 hard smack mark, most will start moving around and squirming. If you have positioned her properly, only one of her hands can reach her butt. If she tries to do that, grab and hold it against her back.
Step 7: If you are using your hand (palms) it will take about 400-500 hand smacks to get her to the point where she feels like a naughty helpless girl under your control. That is less than 10 minutes, and unless she bruises easily.. she will be pink and sore, but nothing else.
Using the hand allows you to make it sting without overdoing it. Remember that even 200 moderately hard smacks with a hairbrush or slipper will often make her cry (for real).
Step 8: By the 500 hand-smack mark, her panties will be either around her ankles or she may have already kicked them off. Use the hairbrush sparingly after that.. do not make it too painful the first time around.
Step 9: Keep on checking if she is becoming wetter, as you spank her. Feel free to play with her vulva and finger her a bit between spanks.
Step 10: After she had enough, according to you, give her a nice hug, lots of passionate kisses, rub her ass and play with her cunt.
Step 11: Let her recover for a few minutes. Some women will cry..don’t say a lot. Just comfort her like you would do if you knew her for years.
Step 12: After she has recovered, start escalating the sex play again.. but remember to maintain the dominant frame. Getting off the tiger is more dangerous than riding it.
It works because you have just made her feel like a helpless girl who is being dominated by a guy she likes.
She is getting her “forced by brute who loves me fantasy” without anything worser than a sore bottom. The best part is that semi-consensual spanking without physical restraint and forced penile penetration would be hard to interpret as anything other than BDSM, if you get my drift.