Why Men are Afraid of the Loser Label

Many of you might say.. “Oh god, not another post making fun of white guys. Does this loser have nothing better to do?”.

Here is a question- Why is being seen or labelled a ‘loser’ far more effective at manipulating white guys than say black guys?

Some of you might even believe that black or some other non-white guys have no mental concept of what a loser is. I have another explanation.

Many non-white guys do not either care enough to play along or know that playing along is less profitable than not caring.

Being seen or labelled as ‘loser’ can work if you believe that acting in a socially acceptable manner improves your chances. Note my use of the word ‘believe‘ not ‘will‘. The reason why most white, asian and indian men are concerned with trying to not appear a loser is that they are under a collective delusion. They believe that they will (all) simultaneously reach the top and lord over others if they play in a socially acceptable manner. A few do succeed, but most fail.

Due to ‘historical reasons’ non-white men of other groups lack belief in the ability of the system to treat them fairly, and therefore do not care. They know that trying to appeal to the sense of fairplay in those who try to shame them is futile. Therefore they have a stronger tendency to do what they like, and think they can get away with. It is not as if most of you would treat them any better if they cared about your shaming language.

For a long time, there was enough social mobility and opportunity for white men to believe in the delusion of playing by ‘socially acceptable’ rules. But in the last 20 odd years, they are getting kicked off the gravy train in increasing numbers with no chance to hop back on.

So how is playing by socially acceptable rules working out for you? Do you really think that caring about a ‘loser’ label is worth it?

You could always plagiarize the black man’s playbook.. I mean ‘invent’ game.


  1. Gorbachev
    July 5, 2010 at 11:00 am

    Black men have great game.

    Shortly after I learned about game, I got this comment from a woman who effectively bedded me, attracted to me for my charm and wit rather than my wiles with women: she was pleasantly surprised that I knew my way around the bedroom. I didn’t seem to know my way around women outside the bedroom. Black guys knew both. She also said black men were much more exciting because by the time they got the woman to the bedroom, they were already ready to be thoroughly fucked.

  2. Mike
    July 5, 2010 at 3:57 pm

    That last line is pure win. I hadn’t thought of it like that, and you’re right.

  3. April 13, 2014 at 10:31 am

    “You could always plagiarize the black man’s playbook.. I mean ‘invent’ game.”

    Spot on, AD. PUA and Game is nothing more but watered down Pimping (made illegal in the USA since desegregation and black men getting into the game) and Macking.

  1. July 11, 2010 at 2:38 am

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