The Dark Side: 4

Many people who know me in person, and online, have remarked about my utter lack of compassion for women. I am often told something along the lines of- “You would not have to pay for sex if you had a better, more positive, attitude towards women”.

My answer is: “It certainly has not prevented me from having sex on my terms with women I find attractive”.

However that answer does not state the major reason behind my attitudes, namely my personal experience.

As I have mentioned in previous posts, my experiences between 20-24 shaped me for better or worse. While I had some good times during that period, one aspect of my experience affected my view of women.

Women, irrespective of color, saw me as an inferior substitute based purely on race.

Many of the objections, demands, qualifications and attitudes that were tossed in my direction are never used for even unemployed and disabled white men. Yes, you heard that right.. unemployed and disabled white men. These attitudes continue to this day, even if the woman is aware of the differences in our relative socio-economic status. Sure, if I put up with the crap, spent tons of effort on answering shit tests, spent lots of money on even better clothes and other stuff to show high value.. whatever, maybe I could get more mediocre ‘unpaid’ pussy.

But what do I get for doing all that?

About the quality of women an average white guy with some game would get.

Let us be clear about one thing here- I am better in almost every respect than most of you.

I simply refuse to accept any status that is below me, especially for so mediocre a “prize”. Older generations of non-whites who were born in a world where being white was an unquestioned mark of superiority might accept second or third class status. As some of you might be aware, things have changed since then, however attitudes have not kept up with the new reality.

Changing attitudes is hard.. it took the wholesale napalming of entire Japanese cities + Hiroshima and Nagasaki to get Hirohito to say this-

But now the war has lasted for nearly four years. Despite the best that has been done by everyone–the gallant fighting of our military and naval forces, the diligence and assiduity of out servants of the State and the devoted service of our 100,000,000 people–the war situation has developed not necessarily to Japan’s advantage, while the general trends of the world have all turned against her interest.

Moreover, the enemy has begun to employ a new and most cruel bomb, the power of which to do damage is, indeed, incalculable, taking the toll of many innocent lives. Should we continue to fight, it would not only result in an ultimate collapse and obliteration of the Japanese nation, but also it would lead to the total extinction of human civilization.

The white west has yet to reach its ‘Hirohito Moment’ and accept the new reality, which it will eventually.

Having said that, it is not logical for me to treat women with any compassion or basic human decency for one simple reason.

The “reward” does not justify the “cost”.

This does not imply that I pass on ‘unpaid’ pussy, if the terms are acceptable. However any refusal to comply or play games is met with behavior designed to be abusive, callous, insulting and tasteless.

It is just more entertaining to do so than put on a fake smile and act as if nothing happened.

There is something uniquely satisfying in telling a woman that she must learn to like cats, as no man would ever want her after a few years. The same feeling can also be obtained by pointing out that her career has no prospects or that she will become a fat ugly bitch just like her mother. In case you are wondering, I have said all of the above in both more polite as well as more colorful language to women,and yes, I have also said far worser and person specific things.

It is most peculiar that utter contempt, disdain, racially charged insults and borderline abusive behavior has gotten me a fair deal of “unpaid” pussy.

Come to think of it, I never got ‘unpaid’ pussy by being anything than an asshole who bangs escorts and poor semi-pros. Most of you will never appreciate how far you can degrade women and still get pussy, Hint- It is much more than you will ever dare. Curiously, it works better on somewhat attractive girls than the 4s and 5s.


  1. Slav
    July 22, 2010 at 12:12 am

    Honest question: why don’t you focus the majority of your attention on Indian women?

    Why should I restrict myself to one group?

  2. Fob
    July 22, 2010 at 9:51 am

    I flirted with the idea of using escorts before, but I laughed it off as ridiculous, then after one bitch pissed me off I stumbled upon this blog, after reading your post on “how to deal with women” my journey to the dark side was complete. I visited an escort that very weekend.

    Suddenly all the women I see day to day don’t seem that attractive anymore, there is absolutely no reason why a man with sufficient funds should waste his time and energy persuing women and having to deal with their games when he could buy a 10/10 woman and fuck her any way he wants. Even when I do find a LTR I’ll still fuck escorts on the side, hell it’ll be even more fun!

    Look at this woman,

    I’m going to fuck her next week or I could jump through hoops of fire to end up with a nagging, ageing, fat woman like this

    The choice is yours.

  3. July 22, 2010 at 1:04 pm

    if a chick wont fuck you based on race, you’re just screening out chicks how care about something that is obviously not a determinant to you….so, keep moving on. or move somewhere that doesn’t have the same overarching system of belief in the chicks….

    it’s like me saying i don’t usually bang American chicks? to most American chicks it must seem superficial, but to me it’s not. Especially being American myself. They can get irked about it or keep on the grind and find some willing dick. you’re in the same boat.

  4. Nestorius
    July 22, 2010 at 1:22 pm

    Why is it carved in their minds that compassion ought to be associated with women?
    Is it because women are thought as weak?

    Why should a man ever have compassion for women? Can anybody explain.

    I have no idea.. but maybe something about ‘chivalry’.

    • Nestorius
      July 22, 2010 at 2:00 pm

      Since I was a child I never had compassion for women just because they were women. Maybe, because in my childhood I was surrounded by lots of them, to the extent that my higher intelligence and my strong perception of things back then lead me to conclude that: 1) they hurt you when you are weak, and 2) they submit to you when you are strong (exceptions were always present though).

  5. July 22, 2010 at 2:55 pm

    I’m Chinese American and have met many Asian American women who say they won’t date Asian guys but they love white guys and black guys. It’s discouraging that Asian and Indian men are marginalized by mainstream media and the norms of society here. Your approach is rational and realistic and I wish I had read this 12 years ago when I was in high school. Looking forward and planning to move to a region where we are not considered second class citizens in the dating market.

    I myself finished highschool only 14 years ago.

  6. mano
    July 22, 2010 at 6:46 pm

    I am in the same boat as you were – the one about women looking at us as inferior substitutes. Even well educated, progressive, we are the world types.

    I just didn’t realize it in those terms till I read your blog (and kudos to you for that!). I am Indian, finished high school 9 years ago and make more money than 99.8% of American men across all ages. I am also very smart, knowledgeable and an engaging conversationalist.

    Even if you made 0.5 million/year, an average white waitress would still see you as inferior to the white assistant manager of the restaurant she works in.

    I’ve had a couple of very satisfying relationships, but the fact of the matter remains that I lose out in the numbers game. I have slowly started now on the path of paying for it and frankly it is a much better deal.

    • Redpill
      July 22, 2010 at 7:38 pm

      A woman offers NOTHING that cannot be purchased.

    • mano
      July 22, 2010 at 9:05 pm

      I haven’t tried waitresses (except this one time in 2006 when I was too drunk), but I wouldn’t be too surprised.

      I have generally avoided women in menial jobs – don’t expect much mental stimulation from them. Some people say that’s what guy friends are for. I see why they would say that, but unfortunately, I can’t abide dumb bitches if I have to spend time with them.

  7. Gorbachev
    July 22, 2010 at 10:53 pm

    Asian guys are considered unmanly and uninteresting: bland.

    Chinese culture emphasizes avoiding conflict, being circumspect, quiet and not sticking out. This makes Asian men more like 12-year-old girls than Western men.

    Asian guys from Asia often don’t have this problem, but Asian guys raised here, by doting mothers, often do.

    While often more studious, they also tend to be less able socially and much less creative.

    I credit the controlling parents and the culture.

    Koreans, on the other hand, are different. They’re often brash, bold and pushy: the culture is much more macho.

    • Mark
      July 24, 2010 at 11:28 am

      How to break this?

      • Gorbachev
        August 2, 2010 at 8:33 am

        How to break the dead weight that Asian men are under?

        Stop being such a pushover. Don’t act like Asian men you know. Learn to argue. Learn social skills.

        Half the time, Asian guys have had their personalities surgically removed, by their mothers. They seem empty and cardboard. You see this right away in a room with lots of Asian guys.

        Any white guy is preferable to any Asian guy like this. If you don’t understand why this is – you will never understand women.

        * This is also true for getting promotions and jobs. Lose the Good Boy attitude. It seems weak.

        Asian men don’t want to admit it, but the typical “Asian” guy behavior is all about being part of the scenery, blending in, not being unique and doing the Right Thing (as per outside values) all the time.

        Fuck all of that. Do what you want; stop caring what other people think.

        GIVE UP the Asian concept of “face”. Surrender it.

        Your mother will go white in the face and be terrified. But you’ll get far more women. It’s Asian mothers who have cut off the testicles of their sons. Get the hell away from your mom, rule number one. In every way.

        See her on holidays for family events.

        Oh – and stop taking care of your parents as much as you do. It may be dutiful, but your wives are getting their ginas tingled by other men. Not you.

        Seriously. The culture is a culture of near-total emasculation.

      • Gorbachev
        August 2, 2010 at 8:43 am

        One way to break it in an “asian” way: Start watching how Korean guys (that women like) treat other people. And copy it. Maybe watch some Korean dramas.

        They can be polite and decent, but when you see their “fuck you” attitude towards conflict and when you see them defend themselves in social situations – there’s an Asian culture that doesn’t have this problem. Okay, you say, these guys are also knows as jerks; fine.

        Decide: I want pussy and I want to keep my girl, or I want to be seen as the nice, reliable guy who takes shit from everyone and has no women.

        Once you make that decision, live with the results.

      • Mark
        August 2, 2010 at 2:39 pm

        I am Korean. Emasculated, yes, but Korean nonetheless. Sounds about right to me. It’s definitely really fucking hard to practice all that. Not to mention I got no role models to mimic or follow. I think I could use your help more.

      • Gorbachev
        August 3, 2010 at 1:08 pm


        If you’re Korean, try to model your behavior more on the Bad Boy Korean stereotype; I know Korean men are despised for being “macho” by many women, but whatever you think, believe me; These Korean guys are getting laid like kings.

        I lived in Korea for years, and I saw two types of guys:
        1) Macho men. They tended to be bad boys, leaders, in some position of authority. They lead by example; the best ones know how to be polite, of course, being Korean, but also there’s a bit of assholery about them. Women complain about them but go to bed with them.
        2) Betas: Suckups, nice boys, hopelessly naive about women and other men, they get taken advantage of in every possible way.

        It’s the same as here in the US, but more extreme (like everything in Korea). The Macho jerks are Macho-ier; the wimps are Pussier.

        Those tough, polite, I Do It My Way Korean guys are hard-won prizes for Korean women. They talk openly about how some guy is just so attractive because of X-and-Y, but it’s because he’s got that je Ne Sais Quoi – he’s a tough dude.

        I know Korean clothes tend to the multicolored and pastel, but the trick is to be more sporty, more outgoing, more aggressive.

        As a Korean guy, you can get away with shit in the Korean community that a Chinese guy can’t. The Chinese guy has no role model for toughness; the Korean men do.

        Choose the right Korean model.

        But I feel for you. And those Korean women: Damn, the hottest women in the world. The hotter they are, the tougher you have to be.

        Of course, you must know how to navigate the foul tempers of these Korean women. Never show weakness.

  8. Y
    July 24, 2010 at 10:40 am

    Just curious, how many of you guys here screen out women based on race? I ask only because I hear a lot of men(not just Asian, white also) complaining about women choosing X race over them but those same men will chose not to date a woman based on here race, citing family/societal pressure and other bullshit.

    Either way I dont have much sympathy for people in this predicament. Ive been rejected based on race multiple times. What can I say, I cant help the fact that I am black. Its annoying, sure, But I have to keep it moving. Its the only way to stay sane.

    • Gorbachev
      August 2, 2010 at 8:39 am

      The biggest losers in the race game are black women and asian men.

      Asian men: Their culture has emasculated them or made them seem girly.

      Black women: Lowest level on the social hierarchy totem pole. Black men want to date up, like everyone, so they target Asian and then White (Hispanic is too easy).

      Black men may not be as low as black women, because they’re at least seen as manly and macho and more animal-sexual.

      Contract with Asian guys: Girly, subservient, quiet, personalityless.

      And no white people are racist like Asians. SO the Asian men aren’t going to date black women.

      I’ve dated black women before; one very seriously, years ago. It doesn’t happen much because of culture differences. I’ve also dated Asian women (many) – largely because I lived there. In the US, it’s been mostly white women, because these are the ones I meet.

      If I met an exceptional woman, I’d date her regardless of her race. And as for attractiveness, I’ve seen some drop-dead gorgeous women from north and east Africa. West African, less, but not impossible.

      The big booty thing isn’t for me.

  9. Ted
    July 26, 2010 at 8:57 am


    As an Indian-American male, I do not screen women based on race. I have dated women who are white, Asian, Indian, and black – and been rejected by all of them. These were not knockout beauties who were out of my league, but girl next door types who I either worked alongside or studied with. In the U.S., those Indian or Asian men that date or marry inter-ethnically tend to be in the upper-income bracket, such as doctors or Silicon Valley (non-immigrant) types. But a middle income Indian or Asian dude, all else being equal, will probably have less success in the dating market than a white or black guy at the same income level. Unless he is so desperate for “unpaid” companionship that he will date below a 5, or open himself up to single-moms. I had opportunities with two attractive Asian single moms, but did not pursue it because I did not want to become a surrogate father to their kids.

    I have not gone the escort route yet, but as I get older, the arguments against them are starting to chip apart.

    I went down that route in my mid-20s, and that was inspite of my decent success with average looking gals. Don’t waste your time with ‘unpaid’ crap, unless it falls on your lap.

    • Freeman
      August 1, 2010 at 10:51 am

      Lemme guess the Asian single moms were Filipino?

      • Ted
        August 2, 2010 at 8:11 am

        One was, the other was from a Vietnamese family.

  10. Ted
    July 26, 2010 at 1:35 pm

    I should also add that “success” with women can often come at a high cost.

    I am very aware of that problem.

    My mechanic, who is of Arabic background (raised in the U.S.), flirts with numerous women who come through his shop. What he also has are 2 sons, each with a different mom that he never married. Nor does he maintain a polite relationship with these women, although he does spend time with his boys. By contrast, his older sister is a very attractive woman, but is a divorcee with three kids, and a deadbeat ex-husband, also Arab. My solitary existence may get tiresome at times, but I do not have to deal with the domestic headaches of broken families either.

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