What Is Their Real Number?

I was reading a recent post on another blog that referenced some government statistical data, about median (not average) number of sexual partners for men and women.

Here is my question-

How can the median number of sexual partners for a woman (25-44) be 6.7 or anywhere near that low number?

Think about it- based on your experience and what you have seen, would you not say that the median for a woman in her early 20s is over 10. PS- I do count repeated BJs as sex.

What is your guess about the median number of sexual partners for an 30 year old woman.

The Median is the “middle number” (in a sorted list of numbers). Half the numbers in the list will be less, and half the numbers will be greater.

Look at these numbers:

3, 13, 7, 5, 21, 23, 39, 23, 40, 23, 14, 12, 56, 23, 29
If we put those numbers in order we have:

3, 5, 7, 12, 13, 14, 21, 23, 23, 23, 23, 29, 39, 40, 56

There are fifteen numbers. Our middle number will be the eighth number:

3, 5, 7, 12, 13, 14, 21, 23, 23, 23, 23, 29, 39, 40, 56


  1. The Plague Doctor
    August 23, 2010 at 9:30 am

    According to the General Social Survey, the mean number of partners of a 30 year old women is 36.75 and the median is 3.

    To answer your question (“How can the median number of sexual partners for a woman (25-44) be 6.7 or anywhere near that low number?”), this is because the distribution is highly skewed: a minority of sluts have a large number of sex partners, thereby pushing the mean upward, without influencing the median.

    I have reasons to believe otherwise. The median number for 30 year old women today is probably between 20-30. It may have been 10-15 a generation ago.

    • The Plague Doctor
      August 23, 2010 at 9:40 am

      My mistake, the mean is 5.53. (The GSS confusingly encodes the answers “non applicable”, “refused” and “some >1” as numbers above 991.)

  2. Hughman
    August 23, 2010 at 9:35 am

    I know the North American scene is different in many regards, but I’d say 5-10 sounds about right for a woman approaching the wall.

    From my own experiences in the UK, about half the girls are ‘chaste’. That is by age 25, they may have had no more than 3 or 4 LTRs and no more than 2 ‘hookups’. And that is upper limits.

    A large religious minority and upper middle class (which still instills a fear of sexuality and also sends their children to single sex schools, preferably boarding), as well as many (ugly) asexual trolls help with that.

    Almost every girl I know that I would class as intelligent will maintain LTRs for at least 2 years, and with a 6 month down time between them. Hooking up is uncommon.

  3. August 23, 2010 at 11:13 am

    I think PUAs and players think of club skanks when it comes to the number of sexual partners that a woman has been with. They tend to forget that the vast majority of women don’t frequent nightclubs.

    I still think that it closer to their age in years than some single digit number.

  4. August 23, 2010 at 11:49 am

    I think that very few women in their 20s get past the “10” mark for two reasons. The first reason being that they’ve probably caught an STD by then (HPV [Herpes/Genital Warts]), and women usually either become extremely self-conscious and hold out on sex out of embarrassment, or they stick to waiting on sex because they don’t want to catch a nasty disease again. As for men, most men carrying HPV don’t even know that they have it, as it doesn’t always physically show up in men, so they aren’t deterred from sleeping with as many women as possible.

    And the second reason being that at some point in their 20s, women enter some kind of long term relationship. The only women that continue to fuck like jack rabbits are the women that have absolutely no interest in relationships, and women that have crazy sex drives and sleep with almost any decent-looking thing that moves.

  5. August 23, 2010 at 1:51 pm

    Simple: there is a huge number of women with low numbers. You never meet them, because they’re too busy raising kids.

  6. sam
    August 23, 2010 at 10:37 pm

    actually there is a sizeable chunk of women in america that have been with a dozen or more guys by 23. In college in big cities girls will hook up a handful of times in a year, the numbers add up. Girls also subtract when the experience is bad. “that doesnt count i was drunk, it barely lasted, it was a mistake” are all familiar phrases. Our currrent generation of 20 somethings have casual sex with any decent looking guy with game or charm. Girls are also going wild in high school. Almost all women have gone wild in some stage of their life:high school, college, trips to vegas, after a breakup or divorce

  7. August 24, 2010 at 7:49 am

    Out of curiousity, what research are you basing this on? Guys who refute these studies never have any scientific studies of their own to support what they are saying. Until there is actual research, you will never know if your information is just based on the local club skanks, the local culture within your group of friends, or if these girls or just leaving with with, only to end up making or hanging out and not having sex (and trust me, it happens more often than you think).

  8. August 24, 2010 at 7:49 am

    ^if these girls are just leaving with

  9. sam
    August 24, 2010 at 12:55 pm

    well sorry im not gonna waste my time with scientific studies which by the way can be very easily manipulated. They can go into a small church community to do this study which would heavily skew things. Sorry but across the college and jc campuses ive been on, girls ive met online, which varied widely, some were super whores some just had sex with boyfriends with a few hook ups and a few that only been with a handful of serious boyfriends. Its safe to say the this study is bs, you have too much faith in scientific studies that can easily manipulated. I’ve met one woman at 21 who was a virgin and she was a strong willed devout christian. I dont go clubbing or partying

  10. BDS
    August 24, 2010 at 1:31 pm

    I’d say 20-30 is probably about right. I’ve had more than one girl tell me that she and most of her friends usually end up on a pace of around two new guys a year when they don’t have a boyfriend. I wouldn’t really consider this overly-slutty behavior, but over 12-15 years of singledom, the numbers really add up. Times when they’re dating someone probably offset the ones that “don’t count.”

  11. P Ray
    July 22, 2012 at 1:29 am

    This one girl was 18 when she entered university (and was probably entered in return) … boasted that she’d had 50 sex partners.
    To add to the humour, her surname was “Cummings”.

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