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Choice Between Being A Mean Asshole or Supplicating Guy

Many practitioners of ‘game’ talk about why being a charming asshole-type attracts women. They also warn about overplaying it and becoming a mean and vindictive asshole-type. I disagree because if your choice is between becoming a mean and vindictive asshole or your average supplicating guy- the first choice is always better than the second.

Here is why-

1. Short of picking fights, or insulting people, for no apparent reason- there is little to NO liability in being a mean and vindictive asshole. The same cannot be said of being a supplicating guy, which will guarantee exploitation and abuse by women.

2. Even a mean and vindictive asshole will provoke more emotion in women than some milquetoast ‘yes dear’ guy. Better to be visible and hated than being invisible and ignored. It seems that moderate levels of drama gets women wetter than expensive dinners.

3. Ever noticed that disagreeable guys, even those with significant criminal histories, get laid more easily than a 100K/year engineer? Why play a role that is not rewarded by society? Do you think that the engineer is working at his 100k/year job for enlightenment or benefiting humanity?

4. My own experiences strongly suggest that being mean and vindictive gets your more pussy (flings + escort freebies) than giving a shit about others. Anger, hate, contempt, abrasiveness, lewdness, aggressiveness drop far more panties than being considerate and humane.

In conclusion- don’t worry about overdoing the asshole part. Most of you won’t even come to reaching the levels at which it has a negative impact on your life. Just remember to choose your fights wisely.


  1. Thomas Amundsen
    April 14, 2011 at 5:44 pm

    It gets you more pussy, but also more internal discontent.

    • March 26, 2015 at 7:17 pm

      That’s if you’re stupid enough to take it out on the wrong persons.

  2. Deus
    April 14, 2011 at 7:55 pm

    I’ve tried the asshole thing. While I don’t get any action because of physical limitations (blond, look 6 years too young for college etc…) I definitely am more confident, ha[[y and popular with friends when I have an attitude and take “loving” shots at others.

    I certainly have more friends now than when I was a supplicant loser, but deep down I always had that a-hole there. I’m sure some have him more subdued than others.

    Find that dark side of you. He can help.

  3. blackdude
    April 14, 2011 at 8:06 pm

    darkside + being good looking = GOD status….. i am currently transistioning to this now. And baby- its gonna be a BLAST!

  4. MeMyselfI
    April 15, 2011 at 6:53 am

    I learned, WAAAYYY too late in life, that it is better to be FEARED than liked. Period. Being liked is a recepie for failure. It draws fire. You will *never* have any peace from those that percieve your weakness as they try and rearrange the pecking order of you and your relationships. Even your supposed allies and friends – especiially women – will turn on you if they think there’s someone else that should be feared in the relationship equation.

    My father wasn’t around to explain this to me. If I teach *anything* to my sons it will be this. Unfortunately, even though I know and understand this now, it is difficult to put it into practice because I missed out on applying it as a child. Old habits are hard to give up.

  5. hans
    April 15, 2011 at 12:29 pm


    If you act like an asshole you´ll become one, law of the universe.
    It´ll get you pussy and thus you loose. Because you´ll now have pussy in your life, aka useless drama in exchange for a couple of sweaty minutes/hour and a brief dopamine flash.

    Everybody has to decide for himself if that sneer in the mirror every morning is worth it.

    Another fallacy here is, who the fuck told you guys that acting like a “non-asshole” automatically means you turn into subservient he-bitch who can´t stand up for himself?

    Never fall for the false PU-Artist definition of “Alpha to females” = “Alpha to males”.

  6. DoesNotMatter
    April 17, 2011 at 11:09 am

    What a bunch of crap! You’ve been reasing way too much pickup literature from the seduction industry. Most guys whom girls call Jerks are pretty good and cool guys. Women call them that simply so they can justify moving on to sleep with the next guy. Women want to have lots of sex partners, just like men. Something that the Virgins and Johns on this site cannot understand. You guys take yourself way too seriously.

    • Deus
      April 17, 2011 at 1:35 pm

      The jocks I’ve known are usually really cool when females are not around, yet they suddenly turn into absolute intolerable assholes when a female enters the group. First thing they do is put everyone around them down, usually starting with the smaller and less physically dominating guys. Everything from commenting on what losers they really are (I’m just kidding man), to how you would make a great stalker/serial killer etc…

      Jocks are not worthy of any form of friendship. Use them for “cool” status then gtfo.

      • P Ray
        March 26, 2015 at 10:29 pm

        You can observe the real character of a man, when a woman is present.

        The stupid idea of “alcohol reveals it all”, is nullified by the fact that some jocks can really hold their liquor … because they’ve been getting drunk for a very long time previously.

  7. Lovekraft
    April 17, 2011 at 12:54 pm

    Better to be hated and respected, than liked and disrespected.

  8. September 16, 2016 at 12:56 pm

    I get the point, but anger makes you internally discontent. We’ve seen this with the stereotypical “angry black woman” who becomes increasingly unstable when people won’t let her have her way.

    Personally, I don’t have to lash out at anyone unless they try to violate me. All I have to do is be a man, put my foot down and explain that I do have a dark side, a lengthy resume, some big balls and a strong sense of self. Better to be HATED for who you are than to be LIKED for who you aren’t.

    FEAR DOESN’T LAST VERY LONG! Don’t believe me? Watch a Freddy Kruger horror movie – People fear him for the first half of the movie, then amid the last 15 minutes, he gets weaker and weaker. Because nobody fears him anymore. There’s always that one crazy, pragmatic fearless MF who will take him out!

    Bitches love drama, but this whole thing about acting crazy to get pussy won’t necessarily work. If that was so, why are we seeing an epidemic of crazy white boys who go on suicide rampages because women don’t wanna fuck them?

    There is a difference between anger and hate. The first does not help over any significant length of time, the later does work over longer time periods and can be maintained without hurting oneself.

  1. April 17, 2011 at 1:21 am

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