An Observation: April 16, 2011

One of my most profound insights into human behavior came almost a decade ago- in my mid 20s.

People are much nicer if you are a homicide-capable asshole rather than a humane and accommodating person.

While I won’t go into details of the string of incidents which led me to this conclusion- the effects were just too stark to ignore. Anger, hate and a slew of so-called ‘negative’ emotions can get you everything ‘positive’ emotions cannot. It works especially well if your ‘negative’ emotions are visible without being overt.


  1. blackdude
    April 16, 2011 at 5:24 pm

    man ur on a fucking roll lately….. people are pretty much ONLY accommodating to those they either FEAR, RESPECT (which is fear for the most part), LOVE (a misnomer- the word love is really ego based on genetic survival ie family), or DESIRE (the “hot” guy, or pretty much any non horrible looking female hence ur multiple facebook postings on ugly chicks having convos about stupid egocentric shit)…. or some combination. Guys who are respectful, intelligent, HONEST, low key, and caring, are guys who are gonna get SHIT ON (unless these things are mixed in with being mostly feared or desired as mentioned above. Then the guy is “Alpha”)…. is it just me or is it getting worse and worse by the day on this???

    It is been getting worse since the mid-1960s in that respect, and it further accelerated in the late 1980s.

      April 17, 2011 at 5:50 am

      In my experience, I have found “Baby Boomers” are the fucking worst in terms of what self-absorbed assholes they are. Know that they are entering their 60s and up and facing their own mortality, they act like even bigger assholes.

  2. Deus
    April 17, 2011 at 3:53 am

    Advocatus Diaboli: Any chance we could get a quick summary of the events that lead to this conclusion. Just a brief recap? I’ve always noticed that being nice works with most male friends (who are not tried and true alphas, most alphas never have real male friends, just other alphas to compare and compete with).

    However being a mean bossy asshole works with acquaintances, low-level bureaucrats, sales assistants, and women.


    • anon666
      April 17, 2011 at 10:25 am

      Do you seriously think that nobody retaliates against meanness? When it comes to restaurants and bars, you WILL have your food and drinks fucked with if you are an asshole. When I’ve done customer service, when I encountered an asshole, I’d refrain from telling them the best options available to them, and I certainly wouldn’t go out of my way to help them. Assholes get the bare minimum of service.

  3. Wald
    April 17, 2011 at 8:02 am

    Agreed. I’ve larned this in highschool. Having gone to military school before highschool, people assume I can and will hurt them if they cross me.

    I do nothing to disabuse them of thier “military man” notions about me.

    Generally I’m nice to people and its almost like they’re grateful for it.

    There is no ‘I’ in ‘team’ but there is ‘me’.

  4. anon666
    April 17, 2011 at 10:21 am

    So you go throughout your day being an asshole to cashiers and clerks and people in the service industry? Sounds like an excellent way to get your food and drinks fucked with or to get banned from establishments. I generally find that if I’m polite to strangers, I receive courtesy in return. I have no idea of what you’re talking about. For all your description of “sociopaths”, at this point it sounds like projection, as you genuinely come across as one in at least half of your posts, especially when you wish natural disasters upon my region for your own personal amusement.

  5. Deus
    April 17, 2011 at 1:30 pm

    I’m not talking about coming up to a desk clerk and being all “bitch get me what I want”, I mean more along the lines of being polite yet cold and commanding, projecting an aura of “I know what I want and I’m not afraid to do what I need to get it”

    In school you definitely need to project an asshole vib, whether it be cocky around girls, or dangerous asshole around jocks. If you want friends, be a nice yet laid-back kid around normal guys.

  6. Athlone McGinnis
    April 17, 2011 at 2:43 pm

    Americans have an interesting tendency to take things that you would think are strengths and perceive them as weaknesses.

    Those who overtly show kindness and generosity are perceived as weak and lacking of a strong will.

    Those who are introverted(low key) are perceived as cheap and boring.

    Honesty is something to be exploited, not respected.

    Reliability and dependability are boring too.

    Those who are respectful are quickly perceived as brown-nosers and doormats.

    Those who are too caring are(at least to most women) “creepy”.

    College has made this all abundantly clear to me in more ways than I can efficiently recount.

    The first advice I’d give a foreigner in America: keep to yourself. To be labelled a “nice guy” here is to be marked an easily expendable individual for whom there is little real concern. You are an inoffensively convenient but entirely disposable doormat. It is an insult-avoid it as best you can.

    If you can’t help but maintain the qualities that will almost certainly earn you the label “nice guy”, then keep to yourself. People will have fewer opportunities to dismiss you that way.

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