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High-Quality Ambient Porn and Evolution of Male Expectations

There has been much breast-beating (pun intended) by feminists and their CONservative allies about the effect of high quality and ubiquitous porn on men. Some of my views on that subject have been expressed in a few previous posts such as- Women Can No Longer Burn, Ban or Destroy Porn, Why Online Porn Is A Game Changer and Porn Replaces Relationship Sex.

One of the issues about ubiquitous online porn which is acknowledged but quickly glossed over by feminists, CONservatives and whipped men is that it permanently alters male expectations from a sexual relationship. Let me explain..

Consider you average guy with an average looking girlfriend, wife or whatever. Let us say that his current “partner” refuses to blow as frequently as he wants. Prior to the last decade he could either accept his ‘fate’ or jerk of to professional porn. The digital camera and the intertubes have thrown a hitherto improbable kink in that process aka high quality amateur porn.

Prior to this recent innovation, the women in erotica and porn were either very beautiful, very airbrushed or very trashy. Therefore the mind of a guy could at some level put a barrier between the porn and his pathetic life such that he did not expect what he saw on the screen to cum true for somebody like him.

But high quality amateur porn is something unlike anything before it both in content and sheer volume. The average guy can now see tons of prettier than average but still accessible girls deep-throating their boyfriend, licking his balls, taking it up their ass and that is just for starters… ;). These girls are not carefully airbrushed models nor are they skanky looking harlots with bad plastic surgery. You can see the laugh lines on their faces, the life and joy in their eyes, cum drooling from their lipstick smeared lips, the few hair near their assholes which they forgot to shave and the asymmetry and slight droop of their tits. You can see their effect of an obvious hangover in their eyes and faces, the ecstasy and pain of being fucked senseless, the lines on their foreheads, the faded and now regret-worthy tattoos on their ankles and the plain underclothes around them. Even the ambiance in the photos is so average- from ‘the simpsons’ on TV, to the color and patterns of the comforter, the futon, the sometimes dusty half-empty liquor bottles, the empty pizza box from a national brand, the brand of laptop, the color and type of door on the closet, the same jumble of branded clothes on the floor.

They are people just like you in everything from levels of wealth, education, lifestyle and even consumer brand preferences who happen to be having much more fun than you. The guy who looks at such porn is seeing much more than nekkid people having sex. He is seeing what his life could be at that very moment if he was with somebody who cared about him. Furthermore, unlike the women in such porn are neither inaccessible or skanky.

It is therefore likely that a guy who watches such porn would experience a far deeper dissatisfaction with his shitty life than fapping to airbrushed models or implant heavy pornstars.

I cannot help but point out that this revolution in porn is occurring alongside the continued demonization and marginalization of men by feminism and CONservatism. Add in atomization, the anti-male nature of the socio-legal system and the generally poor attitude/behavior of women towards men and you have the makings of a situation that has no precedent in history. We do live in interesting times, don’t we?

Comments?

  1. October 30, 2011 at 1:03 pm

    Even for guys with game, hgih-quality porn turns things into a buyer’s market – I don’t have to devote all my energies to getting laid in my off hours, I can easily go for weeks without sex, using the high-quality stuff as an outlet which magzines and store-bought DVDs could never have satisfied in the past.

    It’s like buying a car, when public transit is available; the bus may not be fancy, but it lets me hold out until I find a car I like.

  2. MeMyselfI
    October 30, 2011 at 7:30 pm

    “It is therefore likely that a guy who watches such porn would experience a far deeper satisfaction with his shitty life than fapping to airbrushed models or implant heavy pornstars.”

    Maybe you meant to say “dis-satisfaction”?

  3. hoipolloi
    October 30, 2011 at 10:07 pm

    There was a time when only kings and such others had accesss to multiple partners. A new girl a day. King Solomon who lived more than 2500 years ago is reputed to have thousand wives. Now an average male can have virtual access to plenty of girls without fear of being arrested by the cops, contracting STDs or making a girl pregnant. Like TV reduced or eliminated need for live entertainment, on line porn reduces the frequency for a live sex partner. Part of democratization of the society enabled by cheap hitech gadgets. One would still need to get married and have kids. But then there is life after kids.

    PS: Could someone comment how a guy managed to mate with 1000 wives? I mean what kind of schedules he kept with them?

  4. Ted
    October 31, 2011 at 8:37 am

    Next time a woman complains that online porn can never be a substitute for real sex, point her to the frozen foods aisle in the supermarket. I’ll admit that food prepared from scratch, by a person with skills in the kitchen, tastes much better than frozen food, meals ready to go, or just ordinary Thai/Indian/Chinese/Italian/Mexican takeout. But, most people do not have time to cook a meal everyday from scratch after they get home. If a man were to suggest to his woman, that given a choice, he would prefer she always cook fresh food for him every day, she would be well within her rights to point out she has neither the time nor inclination to do so.

    So it is with sex. Sure, average men can spend time wooing average women over the course of weeks or months and get average sex. But, he may decide that the real options are not all that good, so why not beat off to the sounds and sights of a woman who seems to be enjoying sex online?

  5. October 31, 2011 at 9:13 am

    “We do live in interesting times, don’t we?”

    It’s interesting because it is unnatural. Since nature does not change quickly and since these unnatural phenomena are new, they are bound to disappear.

  6. Matt "Mr. Stricter" Strictland
    October 31, 2011 at 10:55 am

    Nestorius :
    “We do live in interesting times, don’t we?”
    It’s interesting because it is unnatural. Since nature does not change quickly and since these unnatural phenomena are new, they are bound to disappear.

    Porn is as old as man if you count the Willendorf Venus, at least as old as the Etruscans, its going nowhere

    Now maybe if the West is eliminated through war, population crash or disease it might go away in which case , baring a global population crash, the high natality types will continue to reproduce.

    The Sub Saharan Africans might not be interested in porn (I don’t know) but I suspect Latin Americans and Filipinos are and both are more than able to sustain some degree of technology, certainly enough for porn distribution if they wish.

    • October 31, 2011 at 1:04 pm

      Yet, we’re not sure if they used to masturbate to the Willendorf Venus, which was seen by a few.

  7. shreya
    October 31, 2011 at 12:28 pm

    “He is seeing what his life could be at that very moment if he was with somebody who cared about him. Furthermore, unlike the women in such porn are neither inaccessible or skanky.”

    If they are so accessible and if your life could be like that, why do you have to pay for sex? Especially during a time when there are thousands if not millions of “sex positive” women out there who are all about making homemade porn – what stops YOU from being able to attract such an accessible woman?

  8. hans
    October 31, 2011 at 12:56 pm

    shreya :

    – what stops YOU from being able to attract such an accessible woman?

    Stupid woman.
    You pay a whore so she LEAVES after you got from her what you wanted.

    Only way that porn beats hookers is through speed and convenience.
    Though paying a whore is much cheaper and quicker than getting one of these princess to spread them, it still takes time and not a small amount of money to set up.

    • Ted
      October 31, 2011 at 2:19 pm

      Not to mention – no STDs through porn. Although, you are probably as likely to catch something nasty from your girlfriend/wife through “unpaid sex”

    • shreya
      October 31, 2011 at 8:43 pm

      “You pay a whore so she LEAVES after you got from her what you wanted.”

      Ha! You men have to PAY women to leave you. While we women get men to PAY US for leaving THEM! Its called alimoney, bitches.

      • October 31, 2011 at 11:05 pm

        hahahahaha,

        that’s why I ain’t gonna marry!!!!!

        oh, wait, I’m too “low status” to marry anyways…

      • Deus
        November 3, 2011 at 11:50 am

        Give it another 10 or 20 years and that alimony (not ali-monEy) well will dry up. Us gen Y guys are not so stupid. We’ve spent our childhoods watching our dads, brothers, uncles and cousins get rapped by sociopathic parasites like you.

      • Ted
        November 4, 2011 at 6:14 am

        On top of that – the marriages that do not end in divorce are going up in cost. The house has to be bigger, the car has to be nicer, and the vacations have to be more frequent.

  9. Matt Strictland
    October 31, 2011 at 3:05 pm

    Nestorius :
    Yet, we’re not sure if they used to masturbate to the Willendorf Venus, which was seen by a few.

    Well sure but in those tribes most men probably had a regular sex partner. Its unlikely early tribes were polygynous as our interaction with versions such tribes shows they were fairly egalitarian. Anyway it would be rather easy to arrange a hunting accident of some member of the tribe proved to be a widespread problem.

    As a general thing I’d say todays fascination for porn is a result of a defective society mixed with the normal urge for porn and technology. More importantly, its not a bad thing.

    I think the biggest point AD is trying to make with his blog is that men have no obligation to participate in a rigged game and todays meet market (pun intended) is rigged. If porn use makes men happy and causes them to drop out, good. The elite should encourage it as a social stabilizer .

    Now of course longish term it means population replacement with a more virile culture who will kill aging oligrachs (this could be a White subculture BTW) or a significant population decline, but ah well. You pay you play

    However if we really want to have men use less porn is perfectly possible, make it so that most men economically can marry young in their own status bracket , will not get divorced or screwed over, hypergamy is stopped and they can get sexual fulfillment from womanly women. Do this and most porn use, male and female will vanish.
    However as American culture is depraved, infected with really bad ideas and sexually neurotic I can’t see that happening.

    Note also this is crazy costly, modern societies don’t get to use religion to leverage inequality anymore. You must pay enough and have equality enough or people will just drop out.

    Not all at once, not a majority even but enough in time to end the charade.

    • October 31, 2011 at 10:55 pm

      The problem is not porn, which nothing but an image of reality.
      The problem is the intentional deprivation of males from one of their basic needs: sex.

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