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Calculating the Value of People in Your Life

Some readers might interpret the contents of this post as deeply misanthropic and sociopathic, but that is not my problem. Let me start by asking you a simple question.

Does the opinion, or approval, of others matter to you and influence your actions? and should it?

Most of you might say that it depends on the context or person. However, your actions likely suggest that you care about the opinions of those who have NO love, interest or liking for you nor the willingness to help you. If you start looking at your actions from a third person perspective, it will be obvious that you are trying to be reasonable and humane with “people” who do not harbor reciprocal feelings. I would go further and even say that- almost every single person you know in real life would, would behind closed doors, celebrate your demise.

You might counter- “how can I make such claims and where is the proof”? My answer is- the proof is all around you but you chosen to ignore its existence. Let me show you the proof and then explain why you have ‘chosen to ignore its existence’.

Are you in a situation where you are as secure as others around you, surrounded by people who care about you and some who are willing to have sex with you? Are you? If not, why not? I would guess that most of you live in a place where you barely know a few people who live around you, work in some soul crushing job with no security, are worried about bills and credit score, have zero chance of improving your life ad spend most of your waking hours faking politeness and enthusiasm. Even if you are fucking somebody- chances are that it is either unenthusiastic, comes with many preconditions, is not frequent enough or the person is overweight. The unfortunate reality is that most of the people in your life who are supposed to matter are either absent, unreliable, phony and worthless. Their presence or absence won’t be missed as they are completely replaceable and the feeling is probably mutual.

So why are you trying to please such people or care about their opinions?

Most of you accept this as reality because you don’t know any better. For most people, accepting that they were wrong about a few big things is hard enough on the ego. Believing in an alternative way of living makes your past actions and life seem like a stupid waste of time. Denial is much better easier.

But how did we get here- as a species? Let us now analyze the origin of this problem and how a change of options converted a functional system into a exploitative dystopia.

Most of you will agree with me when I say that human beings are social animals. But have you ever asked yourself the reason behind our sociability?

Whether a species is social or not comes down to the ratio of what a lonely individual can achieve versus what a mutually helpful group of individuals can achieve and whether they are aware of that possibility.

A large salt-water crocodile or shark can survive very well on its own and simply does not need other individuals of its species except for the purposes of mating. In contrast- monkeys, primates and humans cannot exist for long in the wild without some from of group protection or support system of same species individuals.

However being part of a group is not beneficial if most individuals in that group are not co-operating with others.

Throughout almost all of human history the people around you were either your kin or close friends and had massive incentives to help you. Since they did not have any worthwhile amount of money or things- human connections were everything.

Now fast forward to the last few hundred years, the last century or more specifically the last 60-70 years. The social, organizational and other changes in these time spans have progressively broken those assumptions. Today we live in an era where we have no value beyond our earning ability, assets, fame or infamy. We have also tried to replace genuine and mutual human connections with price tags, counterproductive protocols and other assorted bullshit. However we still try to act and behave as if the interpersonal relationships and opinions of people in your life had value like they used to.

This creates a peculiar situation wherein people’s needs for non-adversarial relationships are not met even though they are still expected to play by some version of the old rules.

Many morons in the alt-right blogosphere like to talk about how some men in primitive societies monopolized sex to the exclusion of other men. However that belief is projection- plain and simple. Can you find male or female virgins in primitive societies and tribes? and aren’t they having more sex than the so-called “civilized” white losers? While I am not suggesting that primitive societies are filled with peaceful stargazing commune types, it is obvious that their life looks appealing when compared to that of a white suburban pussy-whipped wage slave.

And just in case you want to bring up “life expectancy” statistics- we all die. It is therefore not when we die but how we live that really matters. If you don’t believe me- look at and talk to the pathetic and rotting white things found in nursing homes.

So what should we do? We cannot go back to the hunter-gatherer era, even if we wanted to, nor can we go back to any other era- even the 1990s.

What we really require is a new type of society- one that is based on the current ground realities as well as the quirks and peculiarities of human behavior. Of course, such a change will not occur without considerable strife as those who benefit from the status quo will try to maintain it. But what will the starting point of such a change involve?

In my opinion, the current system will destabilize when people start asking questions about its utility to them. In previous eras, the lack of inexpensive communication meant that most people with such heretical ideas could neither find each other or communicate with a wider audience. As you might know- that is no longer the case.Can you now see the title of this post and the major question posed at the beginning in a different light?


  1. naturalone
    November 4, 2011 at 2:36 pm

    You can see this happening in the Occupy Wall Street movement. People are forming communities outside of the wage-slave, consumerist paradigm.

  2. November 4, 2011 at 2:44 pm

    There is only one thing that has value: life or death. That’s why I always carry a knife on my belt. It keeps me reminded that no matter how much a person holds fame or assets, I still hold his soul in my hand. And I’m very willing to use my knife.

    • November 4, 2011 at 5:58 pm

      dude are you sikh?

      • November 5, 2011 at 12:31 am

        No, I’m Greek.

      • hans
        November 8, 2011 at 3:07 am

        Nestorius :
        No, I’m Greek.

        And an idiot, if you think your puny knife can do anything to a soul.

  3. jackal
    November 4, 2011 at 3:32 pm

    The most valuable asset is freedom. You can have all the money, friends and family in the world, even health, but what good are any if you’re in prison, enslaved by the government, or perpetually cheated (e.g. inflation) by those around you? Not enough of us value freedom, going by how easily most assign freedom to the government, family and friends.

  4. November 4, 2011 at 5:49 pm

    good thing my best friend was my dog-I choose a higher calibre than average….

  5. November 4, 2011 at 5:58 pm

    so diablo-is this your way of reaching out? trying to make interweb friends?

    anyways, I don’t think you are a sociopath even though you are enamored by them. It is far too obvious that you seek validation….

  6. November 4, 2011 at 7:40 pm

    “What this means is that there is no such thing as a “self-made” man or woman or business. No one makes it on their own. No matter how much wealth you amass, you depend on all the things the public has provided — roads, water, law enforcement, fire and disease protection, food safety, government research, and all the rest. The only question is whether you have paid your fair share for all we have given you.

    We are now faced with a nontraditional, radical view of “democracy” coming from the Republican party. It says that “democracy” means that nobody should care about anybody else, that “democracy” means only personal responsibility, not responsibility for anyone else, and it means no trust. If America accepts this radical view of “democracy,” then all that we have given each other in the past under traditional democracy will be lost: all that we have called public. Public roads and bridges: gone. Public schools: gone. Publicly funded police and firemen: gone. Safe food, air, and water: gone. Public health: gone. Everything that made America America, the crucial things that you and your family and your friends have taken for granted: gone.”


    • jackal
      November 5, 2011 at 6:38 am

      How ironic that the greedy system that hijacks and destroys food, air and water, in turn hijacks taxpayers to fund huge bureaucracies needed to clean up the food, air and water. Corporate welfare at the expense of taxpayers. It would be more accurate to say that the current system has already been a radical democracy for more than a century. Of course, trough-feeders do not see things this way. They will go to the guillotine before ever owning up to the fact their very existence depends on a system of exploiting taxpayers. Native Americans did not trash and destroy the environment they had depended on. But Europeans, whose environment was not of nature but of an exchange economy, had functioned by trashing and destroying its human-capital environment. Where Indians had worshiped nature, Europeans had put its human capital on the altar of sacrifice. Today, all producers have become mere slaves to a system swamped with corporate and human free-loaders, best described by Jack London more than one-hundred years ago: “The big eat the little that they may continue to move, the strong eat the weak that they may retain their strength. The lucky eat the most and move the longest, that is all.” The very essence of modern systems is human exploitation. Few are left today with ability to go blissfully “clear,” enabling them to see lies that entrenchment sees as truth.

  7. Ryu
    November 4, 2011 at 7:52 pm

    Of course other people are important. If they were not, we wouldn’t write articles and blogs to interact with them. Especially for anonymous strangers, who by your calculus, would be absolutely worthless. We’d say screw it and bank the time.

    The real question is, which third world population are you expecting to pull off this miracle of thought, calculation and foresight?

    Africa? India? Arabia? LOL. That’s some good humor. Ah, the whites. But they’re going away. So really, there is not any hope for this. .

  8. November 4, 2011 at 8:09 pm

    do as you feel led.
    that is the only rule.

  9. T Class
    November 5, 2011 at 2:50 am

    What is to be done….

    I wait to meet people that I can connect with properly, in such a way that we can build something secret, isolate new space.

    But it hasn’t happened yet. My most intense relationships were during late teens early twenties…but I abandoned them, either through attrition or once I realized I had changed too much. the desire is to meet people with whom similar but more stable and serious relations can be formed, resulting in action, something that shouldn’t be impossible in one’s late 20s and onward.

    But nothing to date, so the lone wolf remains, watching.

    • November 5, 2011 at 5:59 am

      You will only meet pussies on your way who will keep backstabing you when they feel afraid.

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