Some Advice to ‘KneeHow’ and Others Like Him

More than a few of you might have noticed that one of the frequent commentators on this blog for the last few weeks is a person with the handle “Knee’. You might also have noticed that his questions are largely about issues related to using escorts for the first time. While I initially thought that he was just another young guy trying to get more information about using escorts etc, I now see that this is about something far deeper than escorts. So I did a little looking around on the ‘inter-tubes’ to understand why he was asking the same questions again and again. After looking through a lot of stuff, I have come to some preliminary conclusions about his predicament and here is my advice.

1. As much as I hate to say this, his traditional-minded parents are the single biggest problem in his life.

I was reading through posts on other bulletin boards to which ‘kneehow’ might have posted and one thing stood out- though he never said that openly. His relationship with his parents is strained in a very peculiar way. On one hand they have gone to great lengths to help him get the best education possible, yet on the other hand they have infantilized him (in their minds at least) to the extent he deeply resents it. While their attitudes and actions might have something to do with his chronic health issues- I could not escape the feeling that he sees their influence on his life as largely negative.

Let us specifically consider the possibility that his chronic health issues might result in his premature death. The very fact that his mother is negatively concerned about his interest in prostitutes inspite of the knowledge about his health status and general awkwardness around women is really sad. Then again, her attitudes are unfortunately common among those from Asian cultures where a narrow-minded autistic drive for money and education supersedes even the most basic human desires. Unfortunately this is also the one area where I cannot directly help him or anybody in his position.

I guess that being upfront with one of his parents might work especially if they understand the implications that their child has a chronic life-threatening health condition. Then again, the Asian ‘mind’ works in bizarre ways.

2. A lot of his other problems are due to poor self-image.

While there may be very valid reasons behind his poor-self image, trying to fix them beyond a point is worse than useless. You can certainly dress better, get a nice haircut, work out etc- but the benefits of such changes will quickly reach a point of saturation for what he really wants. There is a big gap between being a stylish and fitter version of yourself and being a male actor or model. The reality is that almost no amount of self-improvement can get him what the type of attention he so desperately wants. The alternative is to improve to the level you can and ignore the opinions and views of other people. Fact it.. in this era the opinions of others around you are largely irrelevant as almost nobody who you know will lend you 20$- even if you desperately needed it. We no longer live in a world where relatives, friends or good acquaintances can be trusted or relied upon.

So don’t bother with impressing people who don’t matter. Furthermore, there is also no point in going overboard trying to impress women when 180$/hr can get them to have great sex with you- regardless of how you look (though looking like a hideous creature might not be helpful). However I don’t think ‘kneehow’ looks like a hideous creature- so he has to learn to ignore the opinions of those who don’t matter. Never forget that the opinions of almost everyone on earth except a few people you have known for decades are worse than useless and irrelevant. Becoming a misanthrope, like me, also helps.

Now that does not mean you should act like a spontaneous and complete asshole. Just remember that you have no obligation, whatsoever, to treat ANYONE better than they treat you- regardless of how much they need you.

What do you guys think? Comments?

  1. December 13, 2012 at 9:02 pm

    Reblogged this on oogenhand and commented:
    I got the same kind of parents.

  2. P Ray
    December 13, 2012 at 9:14 pm

    He should see this then, think about how the disabled are infantilised to have sex out of their life:
    “Would you deprive a dying child of sustenance?”
    “Well, my penis is like a dying child!”

  3. Run
    December 13, 2012 at 10:01 pm

    AD, I think you are simply looking some truths in the eye. This quy has needs and if a consenting escort/working girl can meet them I think everyone will be better off. And there will not be coming along a reasonably hot, faithful chick that will crave a decent marriage with him. In real life, you will not rescued. It is only in the movies that anyone escapes the pain.

  4. hoipolloi
    December 14, 2012 at 1:10 am

    “common among those from Asian cultures where a narrow-minded autistic drive for money and education supersedes even the most basic human desires.”

    So true.

  5. December 14, 2012 at 10:56 am

    The entire alpha v beta concept is one of self-image.

    No millionaire STEM is alpha-attractive to a female if he contains subconscious doubts about his attractiveness to her vis-a-vis a badboy drug dealer who automatically feels he is better than any millionaire STEM.

    • P Ray
      December 14, 2012 at 4:15 pm

      You are only as attractive to the girl as her need for you and non-disgust at having to do something for something.
      Of course, the more you are willing to pay, the more attractive you become.
      Unless you have other girls in contention for you.

      • December 15, 2012 at 1:01 pm

        Controlling YOUR presentation to her is 85% within your power.

        Controlling HER impression to you is a pure gamble. For instance: You could run 100% A+ game on Kim Kardashian, but if you’re white – it won’t work.

        My statement above is about Inner Alpha Game.

      • P Ray
        December 15, 2012 at 10:12 pm

        Yes, because pickup artists dress like hobos and have no money, height or other men listening to their orders.
        Every interaction is a transaction.

  6. Doc
    December 14, 2012 at 3:10 pm

    I haven’t seen the messages of which you speak, but I would recommend that he avoid women in this country, but if he must, then he concentrate on areas where there are “prostitutes on the weekend” which is primarily in such places as Las Vegas which benefits from LA being close by where there are a LOT of young women who are out of work and looking for extra cash.

    Baring access to LV, New York is another good place although it can be difficult… His other option is to go to other countries there are many, with the best – at least as far as I understand – being many of the former Soviet Union countries and of course the tried and true like Brazil and DR where you benefit from a large number of amateurs who are prostitute only during certain times of the year. Brazil is particularly worth considering due to the ability to have “live-in” college students who for money and a place to live see having someone to have sex with, for the ability to attend school or have other opportunities as a “no brainer”. I have friends who have gone that route and I recommend it for the quality of the women, and the fact that due to their attending school, they aren’t “party-types” but will take care of you.

    I have never had a need for the above, since I found long ago that women are easy to get on an as needed basis without resorting to paying them. I suspect that KneeHow just lacks confidence, since I am no prize in the looks department and have no lack of young attractive women – even though I am in many cases more than 2x their age and not getting younger. But it does take work on my part, and certainly isn’t something that can be taught.

    Either way – I wish him luck in life…

  7. December 14, 2012 at 8:45 pm

    aw, how cutesy wootsie…

    Diablo showed empathy for another human being….

    (or maybe he’s just a good pretend sociopath.)

  8. December 14, 2012 at 8:47 pm

    as much as he *wants* to get laid-and it is a very basic human need, it won’t solve his problems but just make him feel a little better in the short term…

    • EvilOne
      December 14, 2012 at 11:17 pm

      This is dependent on the person. Demystifying sex might be a great thing.
      Also, it could be a bad thing if you realize you can never get it, or get good quality of it without paying for it. Really a case by case thing.

  9. December 14, 2012 at 9:05 pm

    also diablo,

    I remember when you would post at IMF and everyone would get upset about prostitution…

    I thought part of that was “white knights” and part of that was “gamers” who thought “paying for it” was threatening to their masculinity…

    I thought about it further and I suppose that it can be practiced as ethically as any other business transaction in the free market…

    however, I think many people of both genders might find it aesthetically displeasing…

    I remember a feminist anthropologist talking to immigrant women-some would choose to be prostitutes, some would choose to be nannies. She described it as some would prefer one type of work to another. IE given a few choices, some women would freely choose that and be like no big deal whereas others would be like “yuck.”

    so it seems like some people think sex is special and should be outside of the realm of money and others think no biggie da…

    you might be a “no biggie da” guy whereas Knee is just really desperate and he might no be very fulfilled by the experience. I really don’t know….

    Well, he has to find it out for himself.

    • P Ray
      December 15, 2012 at 2:15 am

      It’s always ethically displeasing for one set of people to get over another set of people, through buying what they want.
      As an example, someone who got the job because of tonguing the boss, vs. someone who got the job by knowing the work.

      On the other hand, when people judge success only by money, the society comes to an interesting accommodation where people pretend to be moral, but practice immorality.

  10. December 15, 2012 at 4:44 am

    Yep, looks like KneeHow and I have similar backgrounds. It is unfortunate, had we lived in traditional Confucian, Islamic, or even Victorian England society, he would not be in this situation today. Unfortunately in contemporary America, we are in the era of radical feminism and the sex revolution. Much needed intelligent people in STEM are being weeded out in the sexual selection by women

    • P Ray
      December 15, 2012 at 5:44 am

      You will not be changing that situation unless you deny resources to these women to extract compliance.
      Or find someone elsewhere that appreciates you.
      Hint: Asia is no longer that place for Asian guys. Pre-nups are not valid in many countries there.

    • iamfreenow
      December 15, 2012 at 8:15 pm

      Stop using the term incel. It only makes you accept the mindset of being a pathetic victim.

      • P Ray
        December 15, 2012 at 10:10 pm

        Stop using the term incel. It only makes you accept the mindset of being a pathetic victim.

        Yeah, MAN UP AND MARRY THEM SLUTS! /sarcasm

  11. Dude
    December 15, 2012 at 1:19 pm

    Firepower :
    Controlling YOUR presentation to her is 85% within your power.
    Controlling HER impression to you is a pure gamble. For instance: You could run 100% A+ game on Kim Kardashian, but if you’re white – it won’t work.
    My statement above is about Inner Alpha Game.

    Not true. She’d fall for Firepower game. You underestimate yourself, Firepower.

  12. EvilOne
    December 15, 2012 at 4:25 pm

    Hey Diaboli,
    Do you lift? Gym WorkOut? Exercise?
    Curious, cuz lifting in particular (Squats, Deadlift) and exercise to a lesser degree, makes me feel good.

    No, I get my kicks from thinking up new ways to make humanity destroy itself.

  13. knee
    December 16, 2012 at 1:53 am


    Shocked to see my name in the title.

    Shoulda seen it coming I guess.

    That is not your actual name anyway, so it does not matter.

    Having said that- it appears that your real problems and issues extend way beyond sex and whores.

    • P Ray
      December 16, 2012 at 7:47 am

      KneeHow: If you don’t get started making mistakes,
      you’re not going to be getting anywhere.
      Real boats rock …

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