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How ‘Anodyne’ Communication Destroys Societal Trust

A few months ago I went to an all expenses paid job interview in another city. The interview went well and I was one of the top 2-3 candidates. However I did not get the job, which is fine by me for reasons that I will mention later on in this post. I did however find the ‘rejection’ email interesting because it is one of the better examples of what passes for communication in the corporate environment today.

Here is the name-redacted email..

Dear AD,

The ‘Acme Gadget Group’ interview team wants to thank you for taking the time to participate in our hiring process through the on-site interview stage. This letter is to let you know that despite your impressive experience, after long consideration we have decided to go with another candidate.

Again, thank you for your time and efforts to come to ‘AGG’. We enjoyed meeting you and our discussions indicate that you have much to offer your next employer.

We wish you both personal and professional success in your future endeavors.



While such emails or letters sound polite and to the point, the reality is rather different. To understand what I am talking about, let me ask you a question.

Would you communicate like that to a person you seriously considered having a personal relationship with?

Some of you might say- “but it is work, not a relationship”. My point is that work in the current setup is a relationship if you consider the time and effort you put into it- never mind the amount of communication with those who work around you. People spend more time around the people they work with than members of their own family. While you might trust your family members (hopefully) more than your coworkers, it is hard to get around the fact that your frenemies at work are members of your extended social circle- for better or worse.

For most of human history the people who worked around, or with you, were also your kith and kin. While that could be boring and sometimes problematic, it placed hard limits on how your coworkers or employers could treat you. Thoughtless or sociopathic behavior had consequences, both immediate and delayed. You just could not get away with certain behaviors without accepting a significant personal risk.

The industrial revolution started changing that, though not as much as most people think. People still mostly worked with or around people from similar backgrounds to whom they were often related- if somewhat distantly. Jobs and careers were still decades long and people had enough time to develop some sort of ersatz relationships with their coworkers.

However things started changing around the late-1970s and early-1980s. While there are many reasons behind the socio-cultural shifts that occurred around that time, this post will focus on the results. Prior to the late-1970s, most people around the world could look forward to a fairly stable local environment. Sure, there were wars and other large-scale events, but these events were infrequent and of a very large magnitude.

We never had a world where the big picture was reasonably constant but the local environment around almost every individual was in a state of constant flux.

The real problem with such constant changes in the environment around individuals is that, sooner or later, most people stop caring about the people around them. This extends to both personal as well as ‘work’ relationships. While societies in which interpersonal relationships have deteriorated might appear normal during times of economic expansion, prolonged slowdowns or economic contractions reveal the massive fault lines within that society and exposes its true fragility. While dysfunctional societies become fragile over decades, the actual process of implosion or collapse is rather fast and triggered by seemingly minor and often unrelated events.

But what does all of this have to do with anodyne corporate language? and how does it contribute to the destruction of social trust and why is it important?

Exchanging information for the purpose of maintaining function, stability and order in the dynamically unstable system also known as human society is probably the most important function of communication. However any useful exchange of information requires certain preconditions. For example- It is hard to have a decent and long-lasting personal relationships with another person if you both spend most of your time lying or being selectively truthful with each other. I am not implying that people have to be totally truthful to each other all the time, but it is equally clear that lying and selective truthfulness beyond certain levels is incompatible with any degree of future inter-personal trust.

But what about modern corporations, large businesses and impersonal institutions that are run for the sole benefit of a few connected sociopaths? Do they understand, let alone care about, the necessity for minimal levels of sincerity and useful information content in communications?

The simple answer to that question is.. NO! Modern organisations and institutions are dominated by impersonal sociopaths, careerism-driven managers, scummy human resource types and lawyers who want to make a quick buck while showing everybody that they are so clever. Unlike their counterparts from the pre-1980s era, none of them have any medium-term (let along long-term) plans or involvement with the organisations and institutions they hollow out for short-term gains. Their modus operandi is rather similar to a virus infecting a bunch of healthy cells or cancerous cells metastasizing in an otherwise healthy individual. Sadly these individuals do determine the tone and tenor of contemporary institutional policies and communications. It is therefore no surprise that institutional communications have become increasingly vague, non-specific, full of “hope” and “optimism” without any actionable or concrete suggestions or plan of action.

The nature of corporate communication has now become disturbingly similar to the fake biochemical signals used by metastasizing cancerous cells and viruses to use, abuse and subvert the host.

But there is another dimension to this issue which makes it far more problematic in human societies. People, unlike cells, emulate and imitate strategies which are seen as successful for the individual, even if doing so destroys the social system that keeps things going. Consequently the ‘corporatese’ lies and selective truths that permeate large institutions and organisations seep into smaller versions of them and ultimatey into general society. Soon almost everyone is communicating to each other with the same attitudes, mindsets and expectations as impersonal sociopathic corporations.

It is common for the hacks who pass off as ‘respected’ journalists to bemoan the rapidly increasing amount of general flakiness in society, the unwillingness to keep even simple promises, outpouring of fake emotions to incidents and other instances of social phoniness. But they rarely ask why so many unrelated people are behaving so similarly. I mean.. why are they all following the same basic script? I believe that anodyne styles of communicating and the ‘corporate’ mindset has completely permeated general society in North America, Western Europe and increasingly other parts of the world.

However doing so on a large-scale results in a particular self-protective response aka social atomization.

I see social atomization as the result of individuals trying to protect themselves from a constant barrage of half-truths, lies, general phoniness, legalized scams and ‘official’ abuses of power. People isolate themselves from, and limit communication with, those they cannot trust. In the past, this meant a few especially dishonest acquaintances and strangers. Today that means all of society- including members of your innermost social circle.

People don’t spend ever-increasing amounts of time checking their social media feeds or doing something else on their shiny electronic toys because the online world is better. They do that because the so-called ‘real’ world is too toxic to engage with other than when absolutely necessary. People are just not interested in becoming the next victim of another persons lies, business scams, confidence tricks, fake emotions or carefully measured communications.

What do you think? Comments?

  1. EvilOne
    January 9, 2013 at 9:06 am

    8/10 post. Will retweet.

  2. Dude
    January 9, 2013 at 9:56 am

    Oogenhand, don’t reblog. Stoner, stop clogging the comments with shitty videos.

    I have a soft spot for IBM. The company had it going in terms of what a corporation can do. Then it fucked up just like other companies with long history.

    • January 9, 2013 at 7:37 pm

      • Dude
        January 10, 2013 at 9:02 am

        Well, that cleansed my colon.

  3. P Ray
    January 9, 2013 at 2:58 pm

    Receiving those types of email is like “Let’s Just Be Friends” from a girl you’re interested in.
    It’s a passive-aggressive cop-out to make you out to be unreasonable and unstable if you ask for clarification.
    In other words, it’s “Fxck You” without foul language.
    Modern corporation drones and managers deserve to leave the workforce with 0 skills except playing politics.
    See how far that gets them at 50.

    • P Ray
      January 9, 2013 at 3:07 pm

      Great article as usual Advocatus.
      Keep site backups handy!

  4. Dillon
    January 9, 2013 at 4:50 pm

    Must you always see the glass as half empty?

    I’m sure if anodyne communication was used to hire you for a great job, give you a significant raise or to notify you of inheriting a billion dollars, you wouldn’t complain.

    Yes, society is atomized. Its for the best.

    Ahh.. but that is the rub. Anodyne communication is predominantly used for conveying negative concepts. Nobody writes anything like that if they really want you.

    • Dillon
      January 9, 2013 at 8:05 pm

      tact [takt]
      a keen sense of what to say or do to avoid giving offense; skill in dealing with difficult or delicate situations.

      (its just good business)

      • P Ray
        January 8, 2016 at 10:10 pm

        Speaking of tact,
        what do you think of this spoken form of anodyne communication (try it yourself if you think it’s not offensive):
        “We’re done, thanks”

      • P Ray
        February 26, 2016 at 9:26 am

        Another one, from “Silicon Valley, season 2 episode 3”:
        Laurie Bream: “This exchange is now over, thank you”

  5. b975125
    January 9, 2013 at 7:22 pm

    I find it amusing that AD wants to work for the man.

  6. January 9, 2013 at 7:44 pm

  7. January 9, 2013 at 7:45 pm

    so, uh, was this the place that didn’t hire you?


  8. January 9, 2013 at 7:47 pm

    yeah, it was the “it’s not you, it’s me” kinda letter…

    did you want them to say, you have really bad breath–fixable and also you are an insuffrable narcissist-prolly unfixable…

  9. Trucidator Diaboli
    January 10, 2013 at 2:59 am

    “Modern organisations and institutions are dominated by ”
    “impersonal sociopaths,” = Masons
    “careerism-driven managers,” = Masons
    “scummy human resource types and lawyers who want to make a quick buck while showing everybody that they are so clever.” = Masons

    “Unlike their counterparts from the pre-1980s era, none of them have any medium-term (let along long-term) plans or involvement with the organisations and institutions they hollow out for short-term gains.” = Ever since the appearence of Maitreya Mahdi Antichrist Muhammad Husein, the Iranian pedophile who resides in London currently, in 1977 and Mason Gnostics have entered the New Age, so they could now take their evil to the extremes.

    • EvilOne
      January 10, 2013 at 3:39 am

      7/10 post. Will retweet.

    • Great Grimoires For Masons
      January 10, 2013 at 8:14 am


      “Managers” = masons
      “Project Managers” = masons
      “Teachers” = masons
      “Directors” = masons
      “Accountants” = masons
      “Consultants” = masons
      “Administrators” = masons
      “Solicitors” = masons
      “Account Managers” = masons
      “PAs” = masons
      “Office Managers” = masons
      “Analysts” = masons
      “Engineers” = masons
      “Sales Managers” = masons
      “Doctors” = masons
      “Software Engineers” = masons
      “Business Analysts” = masons
      “Managing Directors” = masons
      “Personal Assistants” = masons
      “Marketing Managers” = masons
      “Operations Managers” = masons
      “IT Managers” = masons
      “General Managers” = masons
      “Software Developers” = masons
      “Accounts Assistants” = masons
      “Secretaries” = masons
      “Team Leaders” = masons
      “Business Development Managers” = masons
      “Developers” = masons
      “Graphic Designers” = masons
      “Lecturers” = masons
      “Architects” = masons
      “HR Managers” = masons
      “Receptionists” = masons
      “Assistant Managers” = masons
      “Buyers” = masons
      “Design Engineers” = masons
      “Associates” = masons
      “Marketing Executives” = masons
      “Product Managers” = masons
      “Web Developers” = masons
      “Management Accountants” = masons
      “Programmers” = masons
      “Sales” = masons
      “Financial Controllers” = masons
      “Finance Managers” = masons
      “Quantity Surveyors” = masons
      “Designers” = masons
      “Technicians” = masons
      “Sales Directors” = masons
      “Sales Assistants” = masons
      “Project Engineers” = masons
      “Electricians” = masons
      “Pharmacists” = masons
      “Sales Executives” = masons
      “Marketing Assistants” = masons
      “Store Managers” = masons
      “Supervisors” = masons
      “Nurses” = masons
      “Recruitment Consultants” = masons
      “Production Managers” = masons
      “Lawyers” = masons
      “Senior Engineers” = masons
      “Dentists” = masons
      “Dentists Assistants” = masons
      “GPs” = masons
      “Account Executives” = masons
      “Web Designers” = masons
      “Drivers” = masons
      “Senior Consultants” = masons
      “Social Workers” = masons
      “Operations Directors” = masons
      “CEOs” = masons
      “Credit Controllers” = masons
      “Senior Managers” = masons
      “Pilots” = masons
      “Plumbers” = masons
      “Editors” = masons
      “Finance Directors” = masons
      “Barristers” = masons
      “Mechanical Engineers” = masons
      “HR Advisors” = masons
      “Program Managers” = masons
      “Assistant Accountants” = masons
      “Executive Assistants” = masons
      “Scientists” = masons
      “Estimators” = masons
      “Marketing Directors” = masons
      “Vice Presidents” = masons
      “Traders” = masons
      “Commercial Managers” = masons
      “Researchers” = masons
      “Trainers” = masons
      “Auditors” = masons
      “Technical Managers” = masons
      “HR Administrators” = masons
      “Graduate Students” = masons
      “Financial Analysts” = masons
      “Branch Managers” = masons
      “Area Managers” = masons


  10. Firepower
    January 10, 2013 at 7:59 pm

    “…after long consideration we have decided to go with another candidate.”

    These code words are camouflage for why struggling African-Americans are passed-over for jobs going to undeserving whites.

    • LOL
      January 11, 2013 at 6:54 am

      Wow, another unfunny, irrelevant to the topic Firepower comment.

      Damn you’re fucking useless. No doubt your own parents consider you a source of endless disappointment.

      Just like in your real life, no one online likes you. Shut the fuck up, unfunny faggot.

  11. January 11, 2013 at 9:01 pm
  12. January 11, 2013 at 11:14 pm

    Interesting post, with some keen observations of what the “HR” hacks refer to one another as “best practices.” There is a more than a little self-preservation wrapped up in the choice of pillowed words, and false familiarity, in the letter also. They can’t have the recipients returning to the job fair with an “assault weapon.”

    In another situation, on instant dismissal, a fat security guard is summoned to stand just beyond the cubicle as the unlucky newly unemployed cleans out their desk.

    Its an emoticon used as a poor substitute for what used to called etiquette, or simple manners. True manners, as I think Robert Heinlein once observed, is the lubricant in the hard machinery of society. Emoticons are a poor motor oil, and presumption is a sin because, as you have written, its a lie that the recipient is told it is bad manners to object.

    Then there is this issue – https://dissention.wordpress.com/2011/10/27/heavily-monetized-societies-are-fragile/

    • P Ray
      January 12, 2013 at 1:13 am

      For a stark example of the firing process, watch the first few minutes of “Margin Call” or “American Beauty”

  13. ExGeeEye
    January 11, 2013 at 11:54 pm

    Reads to me like a pretty good letting-you-down-easy message that gets to the point and over with in the first paragraph. No beating around the bush or having to read all the way to the end. I suppose it could have had the subject line “We are not hiring you” so you wouldn’t even have to open it other than to satisfy any remaining curiosity.

    I’d be mildly interested in reading your idea of a better, less “anodyne” message.

    Well, would you ever want to cross paths with somebody you pissed? especially if that person no longer saw you as human?

  14. EvilOne
    January 12, 2013 at 1:13 am

    Well, would you ever want to cross paths with somebody you pissed? especially if that person no longer saw you as human?

    Unka Diaperpoopsie,
    I read an article on teh interwebs a few months ago that answers that question, with all its unpredictable feedback loops included :-


  15. January 12, 2013 at 1:38 am

    I think you are making too much out of a letter, sorry. If you were expecting another type of letter from an HR department, then you probably need to look closer at any HR office in any company.

  16. hoipolloi
    January 12, 2013 at 7:12 pm

    I thought a lot about this topic. Now I understand a little bit what you said. Your statement to paraphrase, no one who wants you would say that, finally got traction in my mind. I can relate that to my work life. My boss after a serious presentation or a writing project just give me kudos and send me away. And never promoted me. She could have indicated once or twice what I should avoid or what I could emphasize to be the best or promotion worthy. I have observed in my American experience, the whites never try to correct you either in private or public. They would rather see you make a fool of yourself so they can feel superior. Just giving kudos all the time is not a friendly thing to do. where I came from friends, relatives, rivals,teachers, and bosses always give you suggestions/criticism, even your seatmates in a bus or train. I think I like that now.

    The letter AD quoted is so smooth it took me a longwhile to catch the fallacy in it. Only a (corporate) whore would say such language. No offense to escorts.

    • P Ray
      April 22, 2016 at 12:05 am

      I bet you didn’t even get a written congratulation. That could be used as leverage to look for another job if the current one disappoints.
      Praise in private and berate in public are the hallmarks of someone with narcissistic personality disorder.
      They can only keep their place secure with willing slaves or people duped into thinking their boss can “help their career”.
      Newsflash, your career is YOUR responsibility, even as companies practice the doublespeak of “we want loyal employees”, but we are willing to poach “experienced staff” from other companies.

      I worked under such a psychopath once … I remembered to square things in a way that wasn’t immediately apparent … and is still paying dividends years later.
      A psychopath can be neutralised by a paranoid … because a paranoid can identify a psychopath and sneakily balance the books 🙂

  17. January 12, 2013 at 8:20 pm

    unka diaperspoosieablo…

    I hate my job, maybe we could form a startup together…

  18. P Ray
    November 24, 2014 at 12:34 am

    Actually, in my opinion the people who are the very best at anodyne communication, are … girls/women and “men working in HR”.

    For a good example of anodyne communication, read (Boston bombing survivor) Rebekah DiMartino’s “break up letter to my (shortly after, amputated) leg”.

    It’s illuminating reading.

    There was also a 2 and a half men episode with such a monologue:
    I love you too much to try to change you in something you’re not and I love me too much to settle for who you are.

    Men should memorise this, and return it to the women in their lives, when those men want to move on.
    Got to balance those rejections across genders, after all, men and women are equal.

    • P Ray
      April 21, 2016 at 11:54 pm

      Straight from her facebook (Only made each sentence on a new line – for better anodyne impact!):

      Rebekah DiMartino
      9 November 2014 ·
      Hey it’s me.
      I’m sure it won’t come as a shock to you when I say that we’ve grown apart.
      The love that we once had has dwindled, and this relationship has become a real burden on my life.
      We have been through a lot together.
      We have seen a lot of places, done a lot of things, and you have helped me through some of the toughest steps thus far.
      I promise to always treasure that.
      And I’m not saying this isn’t hard for me.
      It is.
      But as tough as it may be, I feel like our time together has come to an end.
      I need to feel everyday that by having a relationship with you, I am becoming a better person.
      And for a long while now, I haven’t felt like that.
      Instead, I feel like you are holding me back from really reaching my full potential.
      Now I get this is probably pretty tough to hear me say, but I have never lied to you and I don’t plan to start now.
      What I need is something you can’t give me anymore.
      And the empathy that you require, I can no longer handle.
      I love you.
      I really do.
      But I think I need to start on the next leg of my journey.
      So with that said, I have enclosed a gift certificate that I hope you will use.
      Go get yourself one last pedicure on me and enjoy it because tomorrow…I will be cutting you out of my life for good.
      Wishing you the best wherever you end up,

  19. P Ray
    September 2, 2016 at 5:06 pm

    A 9 minute explanation of what anodyne communication (or manager-speak) is:

    George Carlin – Euphemisms – YouTube

  20. P Ray
    November 14, 2018 at 10:33 am

    From reddit:
    [–]47 points 20 hours ago
    I love how american slang is literally newspeak from 1984. Fucking flowery language to try and make deeply abhorrent behaviors sound socially acceptable:
    1. Anti-abortion becomes “pro-life”,
    2. abysmal lack of workers’ rights become “employment at will”,
    3.opposition to unions becomes “right to work”.

    What’s next? The government will 4.cull black people and call it “the joyful reorganization of melanin levels”?

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