Do Men Actually Enjoy Having Sex with Fat, Ugly or Plain Looking Women?
One of the more repeated and rehashed memes on the internet concerning the ability of women to get sex on their terms can be summarized as:
Fat, ugly and plain-looking women can get laid more easily than good-looking men.
While I do not disagree with the general observation expressed in this statement, one of its not-so-obvious aspect deserves more attention.
Do the men having sex with such women actually enjoy it?
I can almost hear many of the readers say.. “but, but why would men have sex with women if they did not enjoy it?”. This statement is typically followed by something along the lines of “men will fuck anything” or an attempt to sound sophisticated by saying something about “male hormones and the brain”.
However, a lot of men are aware of the difference between “enjoying having sex” and just “having sex”- even though both ultimately result in an orgasm followed by ejaculation. Let me explain the difference between the two in a bit more detail. I have been with a few escorts when the sex was OK, but did not feel much better than masturbation. I have been with many more escorts where the sex was pretty good and felt substantially better than masturbation, but not quite earth-shaking. And there are those with whom the sex was absolutely incredible, draining and pretty much everything you would expect out of great sex.
But why is distinguishing between “having sex” and “enjoying having sex” important? What difference does it make if the guy is just “having sex” with a woman as opposed to “enjoying having sex with her”. Well.. it comes down to what they really are. In my opinion, and experience, “having sex” is identical to masturbating inside a woman. It feels OK and gets the job done, but it is not especially enjoyable or memorable. In contrast, good to great sex aka “enjoying having sex” feels great to amazing and is very memorable.
But how is any of this related to the question posed in the title of this post?
Well.. it largely comes down to the magnitude of sexual attraction experienced by the guy. Sex with a beautiful, or at least pretty, woman is far more likely to be perceived as good or great than if you did it with a plain (let alone fat or ugly) woman. This does not imply that the woman’s sexual technique or personality don’t matter- because they do and will tilt the playing field. However all things considered, a woman’s sexual attractiveness is still the single biggest factor determining the quality of sex with her. Moreover,beautiful and pretty women usually also have better personalities than fat, ugly or plain-looking women.
So why do men keep on having sex with fat, ugly or plain-looking women if the experience is not much better than masturbation? Well there are a bunch of closely related reasons for it, but it comes down to social conditioning- specifically the type that keeps an exploitative and dysfunctional system alive. Society spends a lot of time telling men that having sex with fat, ugly or plain-looking women is “natural” and superior to masturbation. In reality it is quite unsatisfying, extremely expensive and generally not conducive to the enjoyment of life. Sex with pretty or beautiful women, paid or unpaid, on the other hand is much more enjoyable and vastly superior to masturbation. Of course, the social approval cannot keep on going as we now live in the age of ambient internet porn and social atomization.
Also, see my related series: How to Use Escorts
What do you think? Comments?