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Overview on Inter-Racial Relationships Over the Past Twenty Years: 1

November 24, 2019 59 comments

Longtime readers might remember that some of my earliest posts were about why I began using escorts. In those and other related posts, I also touched on how racism against non-white men in the area of dating was an important contributor to my decision of choosing the paid route. A few of you might also remember that the events in question occurred during the late 1990s and very early 2000s, when I was in my early to mid 20s. Which leads to an interesting question.. has the general situation and realities surrounding inter-racial dating in western countries changed for the “better” over past twenty years? Are many of the issues I wrote about in the past less common in 2019, than they were in say.. 1998 or 1999? Or are things no better than before?

The very short answer to those questions is as follows: the general situation surrounding inter-racial dating in the west has not changed much over the past twenty years. Indeed, in some ways things have gotten worse than they used to be in the past. But why does it matter enough for me to write another series about the topic? Well.. the simple answer is that those twenty years have also seen a large shift in racial composition of said countries, especially in the younger age groups. But first a bit of background. Over those decades, I have lived in two cities, one with a population of over a million and another with over four million. While the larger city already had a significant non-white population by mid 1990s, the smaller one was extra-white as late as 1999.

Today, things are rather different. The larger city has been majority non-white for well over a decade and white kids are the minority. But more interestingly, the schools and universities in even the smaller city went from being really white to almost 50% non-white during that period. In fact, the majority of students attending primary schools in many parts of that city are non-white. But what does any of this have to do with inter-racial dating? Well.. it comes down to a conversation I had with someone over 15 years ago. At that time, I said something to the effect that disparities in rates of inter-racial dating were due to whites believing themselves to be magically “better” or more “desirable” that others. The other person maintained that it was due to lack of familiarity. I then said that time alone could show who was correct.

It turns out that my cynical take on the topic was correct. See.. if the other person’s theory was right, a large increase in the number of non-white kids attending schools and universities would increase familiarity with whites translating into higher rates of inter-racial dating. So have the rates on inter-racial relationships in the 20-something age group changed significantly between 1999 and 2019? The simple answer is.. a big fucking NO! Some of you might counter by saying that the number of inter-racial couples have increased over past two decades. And to that, I say.. sure. But the percentage of inter-racial couples has remained static and even decreased over that timespan. More importantly, patterns of inter-racial dating have remained static over that period.

Asian male- white female (AM-WF) couples are still the most uncommon type while White male – Asian Female (WM-AF) are the most common type of inter-racial couples. In almost all black male – white female (BM-WF) couples, which is the 2nd most common type, the woman is invariably overweight, plain-looking or older. Similarly in almost every brown male- white female (BrM-WF) couple, the woman is invariably plain-looking and in it for the money. So what is going on? Why are the patterns on inter-racial dating in 2019 almost identical to those of 1999. Why didn’t the large changes in ethnic composition of schools and universities not lead to increased familiarity?

Maybe, it was never about lack of familiarity. Indeed, that excuse was eerily reminiscent of how certain older black people believed that the racial discrimination they faced could be overcome by showing whites that they were a conservative and hard-working aka black respectability politics. Turns out, systemic racism against black people had nothing to do with their behavior and actions and everything to do with their skin color. Who could have known? Similarly, racism against non-whites (especially men) in the sphere of dating had nothing to do with lack of familiarity and everything to do with the ego and self-delusions of a group that is now in a terminal demographic spin. But why take my word for it, have a look at other related patterns.

As many of you know, the premium on being white has gone down a lot since 1999. That group is now the one with increasing mortality and morbidity due to drug overdose, alcoholism and higher rates of suicide. Even outside this continent, whites are not doing well- to put it mildly. Between these issues and higher rates of unemployment due to outsourcing, lower fertility per woman etc, it is not an exaggeration to say that we all know which group doesn’t have an especially bright future. And yet, the attitudes of your average (or median) white man or woman towards inter-racial dating have not changed, even in the younger age groups who have some awareness that their future is not bright. What is going on..

Some of you might counter that by saying that inter-racial relationships are far more accepted by younger white demographics. My counter argument is.. sure, that is what they say but is the belief reflected in their own behavior. It is very easy to support an idea if you don’t have to follow it up with actions. In the next part, I will show you how his hilarious denial manifests itself in popular culture. And ya.. I am fine with the situation, because this slow-motion disaster is following the path I had predicted (and hoped for). If a group wants to take their delusions to their collective demographic graves.. I say, let them do it. In fact, they should be encouraged.

What do you think? Comments?