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Some Thoughts on Possible Medium-Term Fallout of NZ Mass Shooting

March 17, 2019 19 comments

By now, you must have all heard about the latest live-streamed mass shooting, which occurred in New Zealand (surprisingly) rather than USA, and resulted in the death of 50 people. Apparently, the main perpetrator, Brenton Tarrant, was Australian by birth and citizenship. So far, very little is known about the role of other 2 or 3 other people arrested for helping him. While the precise set of reasons which made this white idiot go on a shooting spree are less than clear, based on his manifesto (link 1, link 2– FYI, link 2 is a supremacist site) it has something to do with the “clash of civilizations”, inciting race war and low white birth-rates or something along those lines. However there are tens of thousands (if not more) of white idiots who harbor almost identical beliefs, and yet the vast majority live out the remainder of their pathetic lives or die of opioid overdose or alcoholism. The first question is- what made this particular idiot act out?

The next question concerns how normal, or abnormal, his actions were. As I wrote in a previous post, there is no real difference between the actions of somebody like this and any soldier who willingly participated in the failed occupations of Iraq and Afghanistan. Never forger that killing 50 Muslim civilians in Iraq or Afghanistan as a soldier would likely have no adverse consequences. Heck.. he might even have received a decoration or two for doing that exact same thing. Also, do you remember all those famous neocon and neoliberal “intellectuals” with cushy sinecures who have repeatedly expressed very similar sentiments about Muslims. In case you don’t, have a look at the writings of people like Bill Kristol, Max Boot, David Frum etc between 2002 and 2007. Even more blatant examples can be found in writings of scam artists such as Sam Harris, Ben Shapiro, Dave Rubin and Eric Weinstein. An interesting collection of people..

Let us focus on the possible short- and medium- term effects of this mass shooting. For starters, this one is very different from the majority of mass shootings which occur in USA and are secular. While there have been a few religion-inspired mass shootings in USA, such as Orlando nightclub shooting as well as San Bernardino attack, they are uncommon. Instead, the most common type of mass shooting in USA involves a young or middle-aged guy who decided to go on a mass shooting because he was unhappy with his life, one or more woman, his employer or society. While some shooters can be older like that Las Vegas shooter, the majority of mass shooters in USA do so for very secular reasons. But why does this matter? Well.. it is relevant to medium-term effects. But before we go there, let us quickly go over the short-term effects.

The most important and consequential short-term effect of this mass shooting involves how it has exposed the cluelessness and sheer incompetence of New Zealand officialdom. Their hilariously pathetic attempts to suppress the manifesto and video clip of that massacre have, if anything, given them far more visibility and popularity. Even worse, their heavy-handed attempts to censor searches for it, via Google, have all but ensured that we will see an endless variety of recut and dubbed versions of it in the near future. The smart thing would have been to let them become viral for a week or two before something else displaces them from the headlines. But the kiwi idiots, in their infinite stupidity, have ensured that this the loser’s manifesto and video clip will live on for far longer than it otherwise would have. Also, this comes almost two years into increasing public concern over monopoly issues in the tech sector. Smart move, boneheads!

Before we go the likely medium term (6 months to 5 years) effects of this incident, let me tell me why I am not going to speculate on the long-term effects of this one. Firstly, predicting the future with decent accuracy beyond ten years is hard and can be done reliably only for large-scale trends. For example, there is a very high probability that USA and the “west” will be significantly less powerful and consequential (than they are now) in two decades. It is also likely that USA, as a nation, will slowly come part during that time-span. Similarly the racial composition of working age population in the previously “white” west will change irreversibly with major down-stream effects. And there is nothing which can change that dynamic. This mass shooting is, however, too small an event (at least right now) to have any significant long-term effects and will be seen as no different from the one perpetrated by Anders Breivik in 2011.

The medium-term effects are, however, interesting as well as reasonably predictable. So without further delay, here are some of them- in no particular order.

1] Relatives of the main shooter and his accomplices are going to be walking targets for years to come, perhaps for the rest of their lives. The MSM punditry seem to have either missed this one completely or believe that it cannot happen. Remember the part where I said that this shooting is different because the motivations were based in religion and race, rather than secular stuff? The thing is.. most of those Muslim victims came from cultures with a strong tradition of seeking vengeance on those who have wronged them and their relatives. Add to this the willingness of a certain middle-eastern country to lavish money on organisations which promote the Wahhabi version of Islam. Not to mention another country which is certain that, it and not the first one, is the true defender of Islam. And then are other radicalized organisations who might find relatives of the perpetrators to be deserving targets. Ya.. shit could get interesting very quickly.

2] Readers might have also noticed that lots of “gun control” advocates in USA are trying to use the events in NZ and the subsequent and stupid local government response to it to press for “gun control” legislation in USA. In my opinion, this attempt will backfire badly for a number of reasons that are beyond the scope of this post. The very short version is as follows: the democratic party in USA (like all neoliberal parties in rapidly declining west) has no desire to effect the type of populist change which could actually get it tons of new voters. This is why they lost to Trump in 2016 and Bush43 in 2000 and 2004. So how do they retain their core partisan and idiot voters? Well.. by campaigning on cultural wedge issues which will get them enough core voters to be relevant, even if they do not win. Expect them, and their urban professional supporters, to double and triple down on futile attempts at gun control which will likely cost them the 2020 election.

3] The NZ mass shooting will intensify the ongoing conflict between internet monopolies and alt-right idiots in USA. While I have no love for alt-right types, I would like to see internet monopolies broken up and made irrelevant in more than one way. The way I see it, internet monopolies have the potential to be far bigger long-term threats to everyone than a few losers who carry tikki torches and home-made shields with norse-inspired emblems. It is very likely that we will see an intensification of the ongoing conflict between these two despicable groups. Expect more decentralized options to centralized services arise and gain useful. Also expect more boneheaded and overzealous attempts at platform censorship and deplatforming by tech monopolies with the potential for violent blowback from alt-right types.

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 6

January 14, 2019 132 comments

In the previous post of this series, I put forth the idea that many behavioral oddities of women in dying ‘west’ make sense once you accept the hypothesis that they have internalized the capitalist belief system. The logical conclusion of that assumption is that treating them better than they are treating you will always be a losing proposition. In any case, pretty much all everything they are supposedly offering (other than sex) is an insipid simulacra of the original. To make a long story short, a relationshit is now a significantly and visibly inferior product than using escorts. I went on to write that there were other experiences, and cumulative changes in my worldview, during the 2005-2009 timespan which finally resulted in my choosing the escort-only path.

As some of you will notice, what I am about to write next has an interesting connection with the topic of another previous post. So.. what changed between 2005 and 2009? Let me explain that by describing an incident which illustrates both the process and direction of change. In mid-2006, I got to know a woman who was from a country bordering the Adriatic arm of Mediterranean Sea. She worked at some place which I frequented at that time and we got talking about a variety of things. Anyway.. she was married, but was vocal about the lack of future in that relationship. Tt helped that she was fairly young and attractive. Eventually, we went out a couple of times.

So far.. this story this sounds very boring and conventional- and it would have remained so if my worldview and attitudes had not changed over all those preceding years. To make a long story short (again), I quickly realized that she had a very specific man in her mind for cheating on her husband. She wanted a guy with a fairly specific look, height, accent, ancestry etc. Let me put it this way.. she wanted what some in “manosphere” would describe as a rich alpha- don’t they all. And then I decided to do something which I had not done on that scale and for that purpose. I slowly and methodically destroyed her mental justifications for imagining that she had a chance with such a guy. But here is the real kicker, I did it for my entertainment.

Upon realizing, quite early on, that she wanted to friendzone me- I decided to convert that ‘lost opportunity’ into some diabolical entertainment. That required me to first sit through all of her stupid chatter about what she wanted in her ‘deserved upgrade’. After making a few mental notes while smiling, I politely concluded the first meeting. A week or so later, she expressed a desire to meet again and I was happy to oblige. The second meeting went.. a bit differently. It started, as usual by me being polite and non-specific, till she brought up that issue again. I then started by playfully posing a simple and apparently question- why should the man of her dreams (for the purposes of cheating) choose her over chicks for having sex? And she took the bait..

She started by listing her non-physical attributes such as education, culture, intelligence etc. I asked her as to why she believed that those attributes carried weight in a relationship which was almost totally physical. She then tried to claim that her physical attributes were also pretty good. I pointed out that any guy with the specifications she required could easily get a more attractive woman 5-7 years younger than her to have sex with him. You see where this going.. She then claimed that she was willing to settle down with such a guy (offer of commitment) I countered by pointing out that any guy who could easily get an attractive woman 5-10 years younger than him was certainly not looking to settle down- especially with an inferior product.

And it gets better.. She then claimed that I was saying all those things because I “could not have her”. I asked her to explain whether she meant that “I wanted her” or “I wanted a woman, any woman”. She said she thought it was both. I acted surprised and told her that it was far easier for me to pay very attractive and capable escorts by the hour- and proceed to show her a few photos of them on my iPAQ handheld (remember this is 2006). She then tried to say that using escorts was immature and they did not love their customers etc. I then pointed out that we had spent a lot of time talking about her desire to cheat on her husband with a hunk, and that invalidated her talk about relationshits being real or worthwhile. All in a calm manner and with a straight face.

After a long awkward silence a bit of small talk, we parted ways and I never talked to her again. The coffee cost about four bucks, but the entertainment value was much.. much more. So.. why did I remember and mention this meeting? After all, this was hardly the first time I utilized the inconsistencies of women’s behavior to poke fun at them. In fact, I had been pointing out such issues for many years prior to this incident. For example- as early as 1999, I would make short and quick comments which ridiculed the preference of asian chicks for pathetic white guys to the face of the former. I had also previously done significantly milder versions of what is described in this post. But there was a difference, you see.. I was just doing it to rib them a bit, nothing more.

The incident described in this post was the first time that I went into a meeting like that with the sole intention of systematically mocking and insulting a person to the point that it would burn all bridges. I was not doing it to “neg” her or anything along those lines and I would have rejected sex even if she had proposed it. My mood at that time can be best described by a line from a 2008 movie.. “some men just want to watch the world burn”- and it felt awesome. In the next part of this series, I will go into other similar interactions during that timespan. Hopefully, we will also talk about why going scorched earth on some people is totally worth it and carries no real risk- the key word being some. And yes.. there are criteria to put people into that category.

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 5

December 27, 2018 21 comments

In the previous post of this series, I wrote about how the combination of magical thinking and racism prevalent among women (especially in North America) makes it essentially pointless for someone like me to even consider pursuing anything approaching a “normal” relationship with them. After a certain point, I simply stopped seeing them as human beings because there is no point in treating somebody better than how you are treated by them. In my opinion, only suckers keep treating others better than they themselves are treated. And let me be clear.. this applies regardless of whether the other party is family, friends, roommates, co-workers, boss, employer or government. You have no obligation to be the ‘better’ person as it will lead to exploitation.

Some of you might see this position as inhumane, and there is some truth to that view since too many people still feel a need to be a ‘better’ person or whatever. A frequent commentator on this blog, stonerwithaboner, has wondered on numerous occasions whether I care about what escorts think about me. While I have sorta answered that, let me repeat- once you stop seeing them as human beings, their opinion about you carries as much weight as that of a neighbors dog or cat. You know that it exists, but you do not dwell on it or care about improving it. I should, however, point out that my opinion about escorts is significantly better than so-called “real” women and have written many posts about why the former are a better deal than the later.

And why not.. you know what you are getting, terms of service are clear, racism is functionally non-existent, there is not much bait-and-switch and you can purchase the service of your choice from the server of your choice. More importantly, you can switch service providers according to your needs and desires and there are no hidden fees and ‘gotcha’ clauses in the exchange. If all this sounds a bit too cold-blooded, let me ask you a short series of questions starting with- how exactly is a relationship or marriage in west different from using the services of escorts? Think about it a bit, would your girlfriend or wife stay if you were chronically unemployed or became poor? And in the off-chance that she did, would the quality of the relationshit remain the same?

My point is that all of these so-called “relationships” are completely subservient to the financial viability of the arrangement. Some of you might say that this is not completely true since guys with charisma, charm, looks, fame can get tons of free pussy even if they have little money. In fact, I have written a post about how the low-level drug dealer or guy in local music group will get far more pussy than a doctor or lawyer. Here is a newsflash.. I (and majority of you) do not have oodles of charisma, charm, looks and fame. Nor should it necessary to be the proverbial rockstar to get laid with non-ugly women. Moreover, it has been quite easy for the average guy to get laid with the average girl for the vast majority of human history. That is also why most human beings tend to look.. well.. average and mediocre.

So what has changed in the past few decades, especially the last two? This is where I have to go into an area which, at first sight, might not appear to have a connection with sex or relationships. Have you ever considered that the behavior of women, especially over the past 50 years, can be modeled quite well by capitalism- or more precisely, belief in that ideology. Think about it.. women (especially in western countries) are always looking for the bigger better deal, using laws to get large payouts and generally looking at relationships in the same way a careerist looks at jobs. More importantly, a lot of the relationshit stuff is almost exclusively for public display and monetization. Did I mention the part about how they gauge relationshits by proxy measures not unlike how dumbfuck MBAs look at management.

There is one more important reason to believe that this change has much to with internalization of a capitalist belief system. Look at the patterns of fertility, changes in age of giving birth and how women increasingly look at the children (if they have any) as assets which need to optimized for the highest possible returns on investment. Long story short, they have internalized the belief system of capitalism to the point where they are all behaving like little capitalist who are trying to maximize their profit according to proxy measurements which have little to no connection with reality. And here is the thing.. pointing out this fact is unlikely to have any effect on their behavior or thought process. Your best option, then, is to treat them like you are being treated

Are you now starting to see why my reasons for preferring escorts over “real” women sound a lot like somebody trying to get best package deal for some service rather than anything with any emotional connection? In case you did not, let me restate the obvious- there is no real emotional connection in the vast majority of relationshits and marriages. Note that this is not the same as relationships having their ups and downs. We are talking about the complete lack of something as opposed to temporal changes in the magnitude of that thing. What you think is “real” is just the facade of emotion, connection, loyalty etc. And this is also why you will often hear on blogs that women from other parts of the world (even reasonably rich countries) are not as screwed up as those in the anglosphere. The key words in that sentence is “not as screwed up as”.

In the next part of this series, I will (belatedly) go through specific experiences during the 2005-2009 timespan which finally made me decide to choose the escort-only path.

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 4

November 4, 2018 65 comments

In the previous post of this series, I mentioned that my escort use increased a lot after starting at a new job near a large cosmopolitan city. FYI, this was not my original plan and I would have preferred something approaching normie relationships. However it quickly became obvious to me that all the ‘unpaid’ chicks I could get were.. to put it mildly.. lacking in the looks department in addition to displaying an attitude derived from their racist mindset. My point is that just because you end up fucking a chick on a regular basis does not mean she is not racist. I am also aware that some of you might see this as an example of me being too demanding.

So why care about a moderately racist mindset in some girl you are regularly banging? And aren’t most escorts also a bit racist? Let me tackle the later issue first. See.. an escort showing a racist worldview is problematic only if her beliefs negatively affects the services she provides. As long as the quality and range of services provided are identical irrespective of race and ethnicity of client, her beliefs are largely irrelevant. This is analogous to a moderately anti-semitic waitress having to regularly serve groups of Jewish customers. As long as she does her job well, keeps her fat mouth shut and fake-smiles often, nobody gives a fuck.

In other words, escorts displaying ambient levels of racism are not as problematic as ‘unpaid’ chicks with a similarly racist mindset. But why is that so, and what makes ‘unpaid’ chicks having a racist mindset problematic in the first place? Well.. it comes down to racism being just one manifestation of a far deeper problem known as systemic ‘magical thinking‘. To be fair, the problem lies not so much with magical thinking as it does with not recognizing it as such. We all engage in some level of magical thinking on a daily basis, but most of the time we recognize and treat it that way. Let me explain this concept with a couple of relatable examples.

Over the years I have purchased a few lottery tickets, even though I was always aware that my chances of winning a large prize or the jackpot were infinitesimally small. Similarly, there have been times when I used to frequently check newspaper horoscopes- even though I didn’t believe in astrology. Without going into much detail, I did both things during a couple of periods in my life when things did not look particularly positive. One might ask.. what is the real difference between a person who buys lottery tickets once in a while and woman with a racist mindset, if both are examples of magical thinking?

In my opinion, it comes down to self-awareness. While I used to buy lottery tickets and check horoscopes, it never occurred to me to build my life around winning a jackpot or some newspaper horoscope coming true. As far as I was concerned, both were nothing more than entertainment. Now contrast this with how a racist mindset distorts a woman’s grasp on reality. As I mentioned in an older post, a number of very average and mediocre women who rejected me have had sex with some real ‘winners’ in the past. Have you wondered how all those average, mediocre and below-average chicks were able to justify their life choices and decisions?

It comes down to one variant of magical thinking aka racism. You see.. they believed that despite their utter mediocrity and general patheticness, they were somehow intrinsically “better” than and or “superior” to non-whites. Furthermore, this belief cannot be changed since it part of their self-identity and they will keep believing in it till their death. While it is possible to find individuals who are less fucked up in the head, they are the minority. But why is this such a problem for having anything approaching a normie relationship. Well.. it comes down to them deluding themselves into believing that they have leverage over you when they do not have any.

I have seen tons of women with no career prospects, no independent source of money, extremely mediocre looks and making barely enough to keep a roof over their heads behave as if they were destined for greatness. Then there are younger chicks with almost minimum wage jobs who firmly believe that their dream guy is right around the corner. Even those whom I “helped” in exchange for services many years ago never stopped believing that they were somehow destined for greatness or at least an upper-middle class lifestyle. More problematically, this does not change even after hitting ‘the wall’. If anything, their solipsism goes into overdrive.

But it gets worse.. if that is possible. Even the ones you end up fucking never stop believing that they deserve better, regardless of how pathetic and mediocre they really are. And we have not even touched the issue of how the high rate of rejection from utterly mediocre chicks alters your own perception of them. To make a long story short, you stop seeing them as even sub-human, let alone human. Now combine this with the fact that they are average to below-average in looks and mediocre (at best) in bed. And let me be clear about one thing.. I did not arrive at this conclusion based on a few isolated incidents or a small sample size.

In the next part of this series, I will tell you about how specific experiences during the 2005-2009 timespan finally made me decide to choose the escort-only path.

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 3

October 21, 2018 43 comments

In the previous post of this series, I wrote about how my decision to keep using escorts while still looking for a meaningful relationship (in the 2001-2005 timespan) finally started to convince me that conventional relationships were a sad charade. The short version of that story is that I could easily find escorts who were 7s to 9s in addition to be great in bed.. or wherever we did it.. but still struggled to find 5s and 6s who were interested in having sex with me. This is not to say that I could not find anybody, because there were a few. The amount of effort necessary, willingness to tolerate bullshit, in addition to mediocre quality of sex- more due to their lack of looks than enthusiasm, did however make me cynical about normie relationships.

Frequent rejections by totally mediocre looking girls also gave me a serious case of burnout in the ‘relationship’ department. I mean.. why would a sane person who can easily afford to eat in nice restaurants want to keep on trying to be a decent cook at home? There are those among you who might say that “it would be have been different if you were taller, more muscular, white etc”. You know what.. that might very well be the case, but these are things I just cannot change. Also caring about the norms of a society which does not care about you is sad and retarded. It did not help that I never felt any strong emotional connection with any of these “unpaid” chicks.

Of course, it took me till 2009-2010 to definitively reach that point . But before going over the period between 2005 to 2010, let me tell you a bit more about what I did between late 2000 and 2005- specifically between 2003 and 2004. You will soon see why that was an important period. Have you ever wondered about the depths of sexual “depravity” that I have plumbed? See.. in the 2000 to mid-2002 period my use of escorts was somewhat limited for a couple of reasons. For one, I was getting reasonable quality sex from a few economically challenged chicks who received indirect compensation for their efforts.

During that approximately (first) two-year period I ended up banging 4-5 “amateurs” with some degree of regularity and somewhere between 15-18 escorts, though a few from the later category received multiple repeats. Some of you might say that is pretty good for any guy, and that would be correct. However, my sexual encounters with every single one of these chicks was a financial transaction- direct or indirect. And my lack of success with “unpaid” chicks during this period was not for lack of trying. I tried approaching tons of chicks, went on a few dates- but things were not going anywhere. There is something uniquely unpleasant about facing constant rejection from average to sub-average chicks.

As mentioned in the previous post of this series, I thought that moving to a bigger city for a job that paid even better than my old one would help- and it kinda did. Over a period of a little over two more years, I did have semi-frequent “unpaid” sex with three chicks, one of who was a low 7 (if that helps). I also had some luck in cougar bars, which is really like shooting fish in a barrel- but could not get myself to do it more than couple of times. Sounds good.. right? Now I will tell you why that was not the case, and it has to do with an important change in my pattern of escort use during the same period.

Before late 2002, my use of escorts was not especially high for a number of reasons- including my ability to pay for their services. But after starting at my new job towards the end of 2002, it was possible to spend way more on escorts- and spend I did. It got to the point where I averaged one new escort per week, not to mention repeats from some of them. Long story short, there was a period of 52 weeks where I went through 55 or 56 new escorts (probably around 80 new ones in total during that two-year period). Also, one threesome counts as two escorts. This period also partially overlapped at least two of those “unpaid” chicks. When I look back at this period, it does seem a bit excessive. Then again, doing it with attractive chicks who are good at it, is lots of fun.

I probably crossed the three digit threshold sometime in 2004, though by this point it really did not matter. It had all become an endless collage of beautiful women with great bodies getting banged by me or riding on top, blowing me and more, spanking them and so on.. the stuff dreams are made of and I enjoyed every moment of it. During that time (and since then) I have fucked everything from toned and hot black chicks, latinas of various admixtures, east-european chicks etc. This is also why mediocre “unpaid” chicks no longer cut it. But there was more..

At that time, I would still have traded my lifestyle for a long-term relationship with a 6 or 7 with whom I had a strong connection, beyond the physical. But as time passed, it became increasingly obvious that “unpaid” chicks were just as self-centered as the “paid” ones. They wanted sacrifices from my end but were completely unwilling to do so at their end. To put it another way, I simply could not see any of them being trustworthy and willing to reciprocate to the degree necessary to preclude my continued use of escorts. It was simply not worth taking that route. It did, however, take me till 2008-2009 to reach a point where I had made my mind, for good.

In the next part of this series, I will explain how a series of not-so-great experiences at finding “unpaid” sex (in the 2005-2009 period) made me finally give up that idea. Spoiler alert: this realization has to do with how even mediocre women, especially in the West, see themselves.

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 2

October 4, 2018 20 comments

In the previous post of this series, I wrote that using escorts for over a decade changes how one sees the world- in ways most cannot even imagine. Normie relationships, once a tolerable option to escorts, now feel pathetic and devoid of meaning. Many ideologies from MRA and traditionalism to MGTOW and new-agey BS sounds ridiculous, though to be fair.. one can reach that conclusion by many other routes. The same is true of most ‘game’ and ‘seduction’ communities, which bear more than a passing resemblance to religious and secular cults.

But what does any of this have to do with special insights provided by using escorts for well over a decade? Surely, one can arrive at the same conclusions about relationships, ideologies and belief systems without using escorts.. right? Well.. yes, you certainly can arrive at broadly similar conclusions via many other pathways. The difference comes down to how you integrate all of it into a self-consistent mental model of human behavior and society. Confused? Don’t be.. I will explain everything in detail (as much as is possible and prudent).

But before we go any further, there is one thing I want to be open about. Some of my older posts might give the impression that the switch from getting sporadic “unpaid” sex to purchasing it regularly was relatively quick and complete. The real story is more complicated. While I did start using escorts in the early 2000s and have not stopped since, I did not give up on the idea of normie relationships right away. It was almost 2010, before I finally gave up on it. Readers might see a connection between that time frame and my first posts on this blog.

There was a period of almost 8-9 years where I was used escorts regularly, but had not totally given up on the idea of having long-term relationships. Some of you might say.. “but didn’t you have some atrocious prior experiences with attempts at normie relationships. Well.. yes, that is true. However, I did get some sporadic and mediocre ass during those years and part of me never stopped wondering if it was possible to improve on that.

But where did I get this odd idea? As some of you might remember, I did not take any student loans during my M.Sc and money was tight during those years. During that time period, I often wondered if my chances at getting decent-looking chicks without mental issues would have been better if I had a decent job, more money or preferably both. A few months after finishing my M.Sc, I finally got a reasonably OK job that paid really well for being part-time. Adjusted for inflation, it would be around 50k in 2018 and with zero student loans or debt of any kind. Not bad for working noon-5pm, five days a week.

I started going out more, buying nice clothes and shoes, eating in nice restaurants and generally living a comfortable life. This is also when I first started to use escorts and also help a few poor chicks in exchange for personal services. I also tried meeting women through a variety of routes- from bars and pubs, book readings and concerts to internet dating sites. And yes, I did meet a few somewhat acceptable women through those routes. However, the attitude of those few along with the very high number of racists, flakes and delusional women pushed me further and further way from conventional dating.

I mean.. why would I invest so much time, effort and patience into meeting women or developing relationships when all I really wanted (sex with hot women) could be purchased at a reasonable hourly rate? You could say that this was this was the beginning of my permanent disillusionment with dating. But why, then, did I not lose all hope in finding relationships at that time? Well.. there are a couple or reasons. Firstly, some of my quasi-financial relationships with poor chicks were emotionally satisfying enough to keep alive that possibility. Secondly, I felt that moving to a more cosmopolitan city might alleviate issues related to racism.

A couple of years later, I got a full-time job near a large cosmopolitan city. This one paid even better than the previous one (obviously!) and the work environment was generally good. So I did what I had done previously on a larger scale. Long story short- I went to tons of different bars, large public events, talked up many chicks in public settings, tried many dating sites etc. Just to clear, I never stopped using escorts. Sure.. I was more successful in the conventional sense (especially in bars frequented by cougars and heavy drinkers) and did manage to bang a few OK looking chicks who I first met under ‘normal’ circumstances.

However the amount of time and effort I had to put into getting decent looking chicks was just too high, as compared to just using escorts. Banging a chubby chick who waits tables at some nearby restaurant is a far inferior experience to banging a model-level escort. OK.. a 20-year old moderately chubby chick who likes to take a pounding is not bad, but what do you do after that? Similarly, doing it with an average-looking 30-something chick (with a BF) who worked as a cook in yet another restaurant pales next to an enthusiastic pretty spinner who looks deliciously underage. But there was more to this than looks alone..

I never felt a real emotional or intellectual connection with any of these women. I never felt any certainty about a potential relationship. I never felt my life would be somehow incomplete without them. I never felt anything beyond what I had already felt for women who have sex for money. Conventional relationships started to feel like a sad charade which provided less than what one can buy but require much more time and personal involvement. This is also the one period in my life where I drank a lot, almost every single day. In retrospective, this had a lot to do with a general dissatisfaction about my attempts at forming relationships.

Since we are already at a thousand words, I will wrap up this post now. In the next one, I will tell you how my attempts at relationships (after the second job) during my PhD ended up validating what I had long suspected about relationships. FYI- It was towards the end of this next period that I finally become the deeply cynical and misanthropic person you all know today. This post has a lot of Is, doesn’t it?

What do you think? Comments?

On Long Term Social, Economic and Cultural Effects of Job Insecurity: 1

December 26, 2017 30 comments

A couple of weeks ago, an older acquaintance casually asked me about whether I intended to “settle down” someday soon. While that question was not unusual coming from somebody of her generation, it got me thinking about what it means to be able to “settle down” in the current era. I have a feeling that many, if not all, of you have been in a similar conversation with somebody a few decades older than yourself. As some of you might also know, well-paying and stable jobs with nice pensions used to be the norm in western countries since the end of WW2 till sometime in the mid-1980s. However the old ways continued for white-collar jobs, such as the one she had, right until the late 1990s-early 2000s.

In other words, career and income stability was the default state of affairs for most of the time since 1945. Now some of you might say that things used to be bad in even earlier eras such as the 1880s-1920s etc. My counterpoint is that there is a reason why life in those eras was so unstable and uncertain for everybody and is ultimately the reason why we had two world wars, multiple bloody revolutions and civil wars in the half century before WW2 ended. That is also why people like Hitler, Mussolini, Franco etc ascended to power and why right-wing militarism was ascendant in countries such as Japan during that era. Let us just say that there is as reason why so many developed countries implement sweeping socialist reforms in the aftermath of WW2.

The point I am trying to make is that previous experiments with laissez-faire capitalism have reproducibly lead to similar results across a number of countries and cultures. To put this in a contemporary perspective, there is a reason why Trump won the presidential election in 2016, the ‘leave’ side won in the 2015 Brexit referendum and so many European countries have seen the resurgence of right-wing nationalist parties. Anybody with more than half a brain can now see that Fukuyama’s “End of History” was just another example of the delusional ivy-league fantasy of power and control. All these warning signs have, however, not had much of an impact on those who are pushing for more neoliberalism. All these visible signs of public dislike for their policies, has if anything, increased their enthusiasm for furthering them.

But how does any of this play out at the level of the individual, family, society, nation-state etc? As many of you know, I have written many posts in the past about issues related to these changes such as spread of social atomization (link 1, link 2), collapse of normal relations between the sexes (link 3), loss of the normal life cycle of people and families (link 4), widespread mercenary attitudes among people (link 5, link 6), loss of public faith in institutions (link 7) etc. Most of what I have written on this topic thus far is, however, mostly about how people react to neoliberalism as state policy and some short and medium scale social changes. What about long-term changes? What would be the potential long-term social, economic and cultural effects of income and career insecurity?

Well.. as you must have realized by now, this is a large topic which cannot be adequately addressed in two or three posts, let alone a single one. Furthermore many potential long-term effects cannot be neatly characterized into distinct categories, since there is a lot of feedback and cross-talk among various aspects of these effects. So let me start by making the most obvious observation about the future of neoliberalism. Based on what I have seen to date, it is unlikely that neoliberalism (in any of its flavors) can be reformed into something gentler and less rapacious. The biggest beneficiaries and supporters of neoliberalism will keep on pushing it till they cease to exist- and you can read that statement in more than one way.

As a corollary, neoliberalism (in any form) is not sustainable beyond the next decade (at most)- but not because of its negative effects on the environment or some similar delusional reason. The real reason behind the unsustainability of that ideology has to do with its effect on society aka the host. Neoliberalism, you see, is a lot like a parasite or cancer in that it requires a host or system which operate on very different principles than itself. However every increase in its numbers and extent of spread compromises the normal functioning of the very system and environment which make its “success” possible.

Let us start by talking about one of the most obvious effects of neoliberalism, but one that is seldom connected to it- extreme sub-replacement fertility. While there has been a consistent worldwide reduction in rates of fertility over the last few decades, even in traditionally high fertility countries, the sub-replacement and still dropping rates of fertility in “developed” countries stand apart from the rest due to a number of factors. Firstly, the rate drop in those countries is due to factors beyond elimination of excessive childhood mortality. To be more precise, financial and career costs of having children combined with negative utility of having them are, by far, the main reasons for persistently sub-replacement fertility rates seen in “developed” countries.

Secondly, and perhaps more significantly, the most significant drops are seen in those who are actively engaged in neoliberal “competition”- either for jobs and career or money. While people with this profile were once the minority, the increase in neoliberal-style “competition” for things as basic as jobs which pay a decent wage and are fairly stable has made this particular type of childlessness very common in younger sections of the population. There is of course, the irony, that those who are most invested in furthering their career through the neoliberal paradigm (and thus its most loyal foot soldiers) often have no children or one token child conceived when they are in their 40s.

While my views on having or not having children are neutral, it is worthwhile to note that part of reason neoliberalism will fail is that its most devout foot-soldiers (credentialed classes, professionals, aspiring types) will be neither truly rich nor capable of producing enough devout new worshipers of that ideology. To put it another way- even without other factors, neoliberalism as an ideology will decline as the number and influence of its most devout followers falls with every passing year. In contrast to this, blue-collar workers and not-so-connected white-collar types have no vested interest in supporting neoliberalism- irrespective of their fertility rates. To make a long story short, neoliberalism (like parasites and other ideologies) cannot survive the demise of their vectors.

In the next part of this series, I will try to focus on a related problem- namely, the fact that all those aspiring and credentialed/professional types who worship neoliberalism will themselves never have a secure livelihood or become truly rich.

What do you think? Comments?