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Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 4

November 4, 2018 59 comments

In the previous post of this series, I mentioned that my escort use increased a lot after starting at a new job near a large cosmopolitan city. FYI, this was not my original plan and I would have preferred something approaching normie relationships. However it quickly became obvious to me that all the ‘unpaid’ chicks I could get were.. to put it mildly.. lacking in the looks department in addition to displaying an attitude derived from their racist mindset. My point is that just because you end up fucking a chick on a regular basis does not mean she is not racist. I am also aware that some of you might see this as an example of me being too demanding.

So why care about a moderately racist mindset in some girl you are regularly banging? And aren’t most escorts also a bit racist? Let me tackle the later issue first. See.. an escort showing a racist worldview is problematic only if her beliefs negatively affects the services she provides. As long as the quality and range of services provided are identical irrespective of race and ethnicity of client, her beliefs are largely irrelevant. This is analogous to a moderately anti-semitic waitress having to regularly serve groups of Jewish customers. As long as she does her job well, keeps her fat mouth shut and fake-smiles often, nobody gives a fuck.

In other words, escorts displaying ambient levels of racism are not as problematic as ‘unpaid’ chicks with a similarly racist mindset. But why is that so, and what makes ‘unpaid’ chicks having a racist mindset problematic in the first place? Well.. it comes down to racism being just one manifestation of a far deeper problem known as systemic ‘magical thinking‘. To be fair, the problem lies not so much with magical thinking as it does with not recognizing it as such. We all engage in some level of magical thinking on a daily basis, but most of the time we recognize and treat it that way. Let me explain this concept with a couple of relatable examples.

Over the years I have purchased a few lottery tickets, even though I was always aware that my chances of winning a large prize or the jackpot were infinitesimally small. Similarly, there have been times when I used to frequently check newspaper horoscopes- even though I didn’t believe in astrology. Without going into much detail, I did both things during a couple of periods in my life when things did not look particularly positive. One might ask.. what is the real difference between a person who buys lottery tickets once in a while and woman with a racist mindset, if both are examples of magical thinking?

In my opinion, it comes down to self-awareness. While I used to buy lottery tickets and check horoscopes, it never occurred to me to build my life around winning a jackpot or some newspaper horoscope coming true. As far as I was concerned, both were nothing more than entertainment. Now contrast this with how a racist mindset distorts a woman’s grasp on reality. As I mentioned in an older post, a number of very average and mediocre women who rejected me have had sex with some real ‘winners’ in the past. Have you wondered how all those average, mediocre and below-average chicks were able to justify their life choices and decisions?

It comes down to one variant of magical thinking aka racism. You see.. they believed that despite their utter mediocrity and general patheticness, they were somehow intrinsically “better” than and or “superior” to non-whites. Furthermore, this belief cannot be changed since it part of their self-identity and they will keep believing in it till their death. While it is possible to find individuals who are less fucked up in the head, they are the minority. But why is this such a problem for having anything approaching a normie relationship. Well.. it comes down to them deluding themselves into believing that they have leverage over you when they do not have any.

I have seen tons of women with no career prospects, no independent source of money, extremely mediocre looks and making barely enough to keep a roof over their heads behave as if they were destined for greatness. Then there are younger chicks with almost minimum wage jobs who firmly believe that their dream guy is right around the corner. Even those whom I “helped” in exchange for services many years ago never stopped believing that they were somehow destined for greatness or at least an upper-middle class lifestyle. More problematically, this does not change even after hitting ‘the wall’. If anything, their solipsism goes into overdrive.

But it gets worse.. if that is possible. Even the ones you end up fucking never stop believing that they deserve better, regardless of how pathetic and mediocre they really are. And we have not even touched the issue of how the high rate of rejection from utterly mediocre chicks alters your own perception of them. To make a long story short, you stop seeing them as even sub-human, let alone human. Now combine this with the fact that they are average to below-average in looks and mediocre (at best) in bed. And let me be clear about one thing.. I did not arrive at this conclusion based on a few isolated incidents or a small sample size.

In the next part of this series, I will tell you about how specific experiences during the 2005-2009 timespan finally made me decide to choose the escort-only path.

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 3

October 21, 2018 43 comments

In the previous post of this series, I wrote about how my decision to keep using escorts while still looking for a meaningful relationship (in the 2001-2005 timespan) finally started to convince me that conventional relationships were a sad charade. The short version of that story is that I could easily find escorts who were 7s to 9s in addition to be great in bed.. or wherever we did it.. but still struggled to find 5s and 6s who were interested in having sex with me. This is not to say that I could not find anybody, because there were a few. The amount of effort necessary, willingness to tolerate bullshit, in addition to mediocre quality of sex- more due to their lack of looks than enthusiasm, did however make me cynical about normie relationships.

Frequent rejections by totally mediocre looking girls also gave me a serious case of burnout in the ‘relationship’ department. I mean.. why would a sane person who can easily afford to eat in nice restaurants want to keep on trying to be a decent cook at home? There are those among you who might say that “it would be have been different if you were taller, more muscular, white etc”. You know what.. that might very well be the case, but these are things I just cannot change. Also caring about the norms of a society which does not care about you is sad and retarded. It did not help that I never felt any strong emotional connection with any of these “unpaid” chicks.

Of course, it took me till 2009-2010 to definitively reach that point . But before going over the period between 2005 to 2010, let me tell you a bit more about what I did between late 2000 and 2005- specifically between 2003 and 2004. You will soon see why that was an important period. Have you ever wondered about the depths of sexual “depravity” that I have plumbed? See.. in the 2000 to mid-2002 period my use of escorts was somewhat limited for a couple of reasons. For one, I was getting reasonable quality sex from a few economically challenged chicks who received indirect compensation for their efforts.

During that approximately (first) two-year period I ended up banging 4-5 “amateurs” with some degree of regularity and somewhere between 15-18 escorts, though a few from the later category received multiple repeats. Some of you might say that is pretty good for any guy, and that would be correct. However, my sexual encounters with every single one of these chicks was a financial transaction- direct or indirect. And my lack of success with “unpaid” chicks during this period was not for lack of trying. I tried approaching tons of chicks, went on a few dates- but things were not going anywhere. There is something uniquely unpleasant about facing constant rejection from average to sub-average chicks.

As mentioned in the previous post of this series, I thought that moving to a bigger city for a job that paid even better than my old one would help- and it kinda did. Over a period of a little over two more years, I did have semi-frequent “unpaid” sex with three chicks, one of who was a low 7 (if that helps). I also had some luck in cougar bars, which is really like shooting fish in a barrel- but could not get myself to do it more than couple of times. Sounds good.. right? Now I will tell you why that was not the case, and it has to do with an important change in my pattern of escort use during the same period.

Before late 2002, my use of escorts was not especially high for a number of reasons- including my ability to pay for their services. But after starting at my new job towards the end of 2002, it was possible to spend way more on escorts- and spend I did. It got to the point where I averaged one new escort per week, not to mention repeats from some of them. Long story short, there was a period of 52 weeks where I went through 55 or 56 new escorts (probably around 80 new ones in total during that two-year period). Also, one threesome counts as two escorts. This period also partially overlapped at least two of those “unpaid” chicks. When I look back at this period, it does seem a bit excessive. Then again, doing it with attractive chicks who are good at it, is lots of fun.

I probably crossed the three digit threshold sometime in 2004, though by this point it really did not matter. It had all become an endless collage of beautiful women with great bodies getting banged by me or riding on top, blowing me and more, spanking them and so on.. the stuff dreams are made of and I enjoyed every moment of it. During that time (and since then) I have fucked everything from toned and hot black chicks, latinas of various admixtures, east-european chicks etc. This is also why mediocre “unpaid” chicks no longer cut it. But there was more..

At that time, I would still have traded my lifestyle for a long-term relationship with a 6 or 7 with whom I had a strong connection, beyond the physical. But as time passed, it became increasingly obvious that “unpaid” chicks were just as self-centered as the “paid” ones. They wanted sacrifices from my end but were completely unwilling to do so at their end. To put it another way, I simply could not see any of them being trustworthy and willing to reciprocate to the degree necessary to preclude my continued use of escorts. It was simply not worth taking that route. It did, however, take me till 2008-2009 to reach a point where I had made my mind, for good.

In the next part of this series, I will explain how a series of not-so-great experiences at finding “unpaid” sex (in the 2005-2009 period) made me finally give up that idea. Spoiler alert: this realization has to do with how even mediocre women, especially in the West, see themselves.

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 2

October 4, 2018 20 comments

In the previous post of this series, I wrote that using escorts for over a decade changes how one sees the world- in ways most cannot even imagine. Normie relationships, once a tolerable option to escorts, now feel pathetic and devoid of meaning. Many ideologies from MRA and traditionalism to MGTOW and new-agey BS sounds ridiculous, though to be fair.. one can reach that conclusion by many other routes. The same is true of most ‘game’ and ‘seduction’ communities, which bear more than a passing resemblance to religious and secular cults.

But what does any of this have to do with special insights provided by using escorts for well over a decade? Surely, one can arrive at the same conclusions about relationships, ideologies and belief systems without using escorts.. right? Well.. yes, you certainly can arrive at broadly similar conclusions via many other pathways. The difference comes down to how you integrate all of it into a self-consistent mental model of human behavior and society. Confused? Don’t be.. I will explain everything in detail (as much as is possible and prudent).

But before we go any further, there is one thing I want to be open about. Some of my older posts might give the impression that the switch from getting sporadic “unpaid” sex to purchasing it regularly was relatively quick and complete. The real story is more complicated. While I did start using escorts in the early 2000s and have not stopped since, I did not give up on the idea of normie relationships right away. It was almost 2010, before I finally gave up on it. Readers might see a connection between that time frame and my first posts on this blog.

There was a period of almost 8-9 years where I was used escorts regularly, but had not totally given up on the idea of having long-term relationships. Some of you might say.. “but didn’t you have some atrocious prior experiences with attempts at normie relationships. Well.. yes, that is true. However, I did get some sporadic and mediocre ass during those years and part of me never stopped wondering if it was possible to improve on that.

But where did I get this odd idea? As some of you might remember, I did not take any student loans during my M.Sc and money was tight during those years. During that time period, I often wondered if my chances at getting decent-looking chicks without mental issues would have been better if I had a decent job, more money or preferably both. A few months after finishing my M.Sc, I finally got a reasonably OK job that paid really well for being part-time. Adjusted for inflation, it would be around 50k in 2018 and with zero student loans or debt of any kind. Not bad for working noon-5pm, five days a week.

I started going out more, buying nice clothes and shoes, eating in nice restaurants and generally living a comfortable life. This is also when I first started to use escorts and also help a few poor chicks in exchange for personal services. I also tried meeting women through a variety of routes- from bars and pubs, book readings and concerts to internet dating sites. And yes, I did meet a few somewhat acceptable women through those routes. However, the attitude of those few along with the very high number of racists, flakes and delusional women pushed me further and further way from conventional dating.

I mean.. why would I invest so much time, effort and patience into meeting women or developing relationships when all I really wanted (sex with hot women) could be purchased at a reasonable hourly rate? You could say that this was this was the beginning of my permanent disillusionment with dating. But why, then, did I not lose all hope in finding relationships at that time? Well.. there are a couple or reasons. Firstly, some of my quasi-financial relationships with poor chicks were emotionally satisfying enough to keep alive that possibility. Secondly, I felt that moving to a more cosmopolitan city might alleviate issues related to racism.

A couple of years later, I got a full-time job near a large cosmopolitan city. This one paid even better than the previous one (obviously!) and the work environment was generally good. So I did what I had done previously on a larger scale. Long story short- I went to tons of different bars, large public events, talked up many chicks in public settings, tried many dating sites etc. Just to clear, I never stopped using escorts. Sure.. I was more successful in the conventional sense (especially in bars frequented by cougars and heavy drinkers) and did manage to bang a few OK looking chicks who I first met under ‘normal’ circumstances.

However the amount of time and effort I had to put into getting decent looking chicks was just too high, as compared to just using escorts. Banging a chubby chick who waits tables at some nearby restaurant is a far inferior experience to banging a model-level escort. OK.. a 20-year old moderately chubby chick who likes to take a pounding is not bad, but what do you do after that? Similarly, doing it with an average-looking 30-something chick (with a BF) who worked as a cook in yet another restaurant pales next to an enthusiastic pretty spinner who looks deliciously underage. But there was more to this than looks alone..

I never felt a real emotional or intellectual connection with any of these women. I never felt any certainty about a potential relationship. I never felt my life would be somehow incomplete without them. I never felt anything beyond what I had already felt for women who have sex for money. Conventional relationships started to feel like a sad charade which provided less than what one can buy but require much more time and personal involvement. This is also the one period in my life where I drank a lot, almost every single day. In retrospective, this had a lot to do with a general dissatisfaction about my attempts at forming relationships.

Since we are already at a thousand words, I will wrap up this post now. In the next one, I will tell you how my attempts at relationships (after the second job) during my PhD ended up validating what I had long suspected about relationships. FYI- It was towards the end of this next period that I finally become the deeply cynical and misanthropic person you all know today. This post has a lot of Is, doesn’t it?

What do you think? Comments?

Why Escorts are Always a Better Deal than Relationships or Marriage: 1

September 16, 2018 55 comments

As long-time readers of this blog will recall, some of my oldest posts have been about how to use escorts (link 1, link 2, link 3, link 4), how I started using escorts (link 5) and why escorts are a better deal that ‘real’ women (link 6, link 7 and link 8 and link 9). I did not write on that subject again for a few years, but did answer those who asked me further questions about that topic. Some might wonder as to why I did not keep you guys updated about my continuing exploits with escorts over the last few years. Well.. it is kinda like why people who frequent restaurants (and are not food critics or social media whores) don’t keep writing about the joys of eating in them.

One can say the sky is blue and ice is cold only so many times before it becomes highly repetitive and boring- rather like those endless superhero movie sequels. I am not in the business of selling a lifestyle, seminars, books, supplements etc. My personal choice to use escorts and encourage their use by others is something which I believe in as a matter of principle. Having said that, I thought it would be a good idea to write something new on the subject, especially as it relates to the effects of using escorts for a decade and half, by now. You do remember that I first started using them when I was in my early 20s, right?

So, it has been a pretty long time since I first went down that path and still have no regrets whatsoever about taking it. Everything I wrote on this blog, years ago, was correct to a degree which continues to surprise me even today. My insights on, for example, how relationships and marriage are a shitty deal for most men turned out to be better projections of the evolution of relationship between the sexes in western countries since that time. I also was correct in pointing out that ‘game’ and ‘seduction’ were inherently flawed belief systems, since they did not address the fundamental dysfunction which resides at the heart of this problem.

In my opinion, the core disconnect between men and women in allegedly developed countries comes down to a gross misalignment of checks and incentives. To put it bluntly, there are no consequences for a woman if she decides to do anything from divorce her husband out of the blue, dump her boyfriend for no good reason, give sexual favors to advance her career and call it sexual assault later, force her male child to grow up as a tyranny and pretty much anything else along those lines. Contrast this to the public outrage and pillorying faced by a guy who attempts the male equivalent of those actions and behavior.

And let us not kid ourselves.. whatever is left of MRA-ism, conventional MGTOW-ism, most ‘game’ and ‘seduction’ communities is a big fucking joke as are the pathetic attempts to restore masculinity by alt-right idiots. Pretty much every supposedly “masculine” community is filled with captain save-a-hoes, delusional incels, shlubby white guys who end with Asian chicks, “reformed” players and other virtue pimps- not to mention all those greedy losers who want to sell you everything from bitcoin schemes, dietary supplements, books on positive thing and “perseverance porn”. In other words, there is not much real help from conventional sources for the average guy who wants to have sex with at least semi-attractive girl who can get him consistently hard.

There are a few good sources for advice on what to do once in a relationship, but they are not terribly helpful if you don’t have one in the first place. Sure.. you could try Tinder or some other dating/hook-up site/app and meet a few girls. Maybe you could even end up having have occasional sex or short-term relationships with some of them. But we keep coming back to the same problem, namely that most men can’t get a better deal than some sad relationship with a treacherous woman they can barely tolerate or a series of uncertain and irregular sexual encounters with women they would rather not be seen with. The key words being “most men”.

Which brings me the reason I started writing about using escorts in the first place. To quickly summarize: life is too short to endure a series of shitty relationships or quasi-relationships with women who don’t care about you and are nowhere as good-looking as you would like, in the hopes that you will one day have a pleasant relationship with some woman who is reasonably ok-looking and not likely to screw you over or financially exploit you for rest of life. I say.. just cut the middleman and make it explicitly transactional. Sure, you are not going to find a soul-mate that way- but how many people around you have found one, and not for the lack of trying!

To those who object to the financial exchange inherent in such interactions- it is way cheaper than divorce, child-support, alimony not to mention the costs of shitty dates and vacations. Face it- unless you are a famous, handsome, physically buff or financially successful guy, you are not getting it for free with anyone beyond an average-looking chick. And if you are fine with an average looker, that is your choice. I am just pointing out that there are far better options, if you are willing to think and act outside the prison of conventional feminized social conditioning.

In upcoming posts of this new series, I will explore (in some detail) about how using escorts for a pretty long time has changed the way I see women and the world in general. Yes, it does change your world view to the point where normie relationships usually appear sad, pathetic and meaningless. But it does more than that, you see. It changes your perspective on society, humanity and what you believe is possible or worthwhile in areas that are not even remotely connected to sex. It provides you the ultimate outsider perspective on human beings a species.

To be clear, I am not suggesting that you do it for reasons not connected to having sex with semi-attractive (or better) women.. but ya, it does change how you see the world in ways most of you would not ever imagine.

What do you think? Comments?